RecklessDisregard wrote:longtimelurker24 wrote:Just watched the vlog.
Missy is much more relaxed when she's with just her dad or mum or brother and sister she seems so different. I think she really looks up to her dad as the "model of a man and father" and probably wishes Brian was more like him. Maybe thats why she got the tools for him for Christmas. But Brian is nothing like her dad, complete opposites. I think she may have a lot of regrets in her life choices and probably wishes she did things differently. I enjoy the clips of when it's with her and her dad I find it sweet how much she wants to please him. What went so wrong with her Brian ? You can tell she would love him to be more like her dad. Brian is immature he says stupid things and does stupid things and you can see she's getting tired of it, i would find it embarrassing having to ask my dad to do every DIY home thing because my child husband can't be bothered to do it or can't be bothered to learn how to do it.
I think so too. I remember one vlog scene - possibly from the 2015 Christmas video - where Missy and Jim are jumping on a trampoline together. The way Bryan filmed and edited that clip actually made me tear up, because the love between Missy and her dad was so clear and present. She so obviously loves and respects her dad.
Bryan is basically his opposite, though, in so many ways. It makes me wonder what she saw in Bryan... But I don't suppose she was being super selective at the time, as they were both so young.
I can kind of relate to this, though. I don't regret my marriage or dislike my husband, but there are times when I wish that modern men were... A little more mature. And I realize that some are, but it's also pretty common for grown men to play video games, own "toys," and generally be less interested in adulting all the time than was usual a generation or two ago. For me, I can say that my husband was... More guarded about those sort of things, both while we were getting to know each other and in our early marriage. I suppose we were both trying harder to be each other's ideal back then. I feel like that could be true for Missy and Bryan too. She was his harbor, a place to run away from a life he describes as intolerable... He probably would have tried to be anything she wanted back then, which is either romantic or really really sad, depending on your perspective.
I was thinking about the same clip aswell on the trampoline, it really was beautifully edited, and a sweet moment.
I have a feeling that when missy and Brian were young she really didn't care like most teens about her parents maybe especially her dads opinion or advice on her relationship, thinking Brian was perfect etc..and now as a adult with two children she regrets a lot the way she acted and is in some ways embarrassed. I remember in the draw our relationship or whatever it's called, she talked about how they Moved in together before marriage and she kind of said in a stern voice " my parents disagreed on us living together and rightly so!" (something along those lines) I think in a way she probably misses her dads protection like when she was a teen and regrets not doing things "the right way" or the way her parents would want her to have done. Brian was her "ideal" man when she was a teen but now as an adult woman she probably is constantly thinking why can't he be more mature why can't he be like my dad. Maybe it really is a difference of generation my dad is very much like Missy's and my husband can in some ways be very different to my dad but my husband still does things around the house and if he doesn't know how to do it he will try even if he does get impatient and frustrated quickly lol...Brian doesn't even try, missy is a lot more hands on than him and you can tell it bothers her that his constantly on technology , we can all tell she is not happy, and is only truly happy and relaxed around her parents. although missy can be lazy and bratty and some of the things she does really annoys me, I kind of get her and in away feel sorry for her. And the most frustrating thing is her unhappiness could easily be changed all she has to do is stop spending, and focus on something to do with her kids that doesn't involve plastic toys and crap food, shes likes doing projects so much with her dad why doesn't she do one with her own children...maybe is she made efforts Brian would get of his lazy ass and realise that preparing chocolate milk in advance and putting your kids in front of a tv screen is NOT good parenting.