Aleiasteenmama Part 1
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I dunno, I don't think Nikole falling pregnant would be the worst thing. Sure not the most ideal but if Sean is doing the stay at home thing I can't fault them cause it's not much different than the mom staying at home ya know?
Financially speaking they should probably wait but I don't doubt for a second that if they had another baby any time soon it would be cared for and treated well
Financially speaking they should probably wait but I don't doubt for a second that if they had another baby any time soon it would be cared for and treated well
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That's fair. I'm fresh off the Tayler thread so comparatively Nikole having another is a wonderful idea and situation. I guess what I mean to say is I don't think Nikole will ever give up. I don't see her ever doing less than 110% for her child(ren) so I don't fear she'd ever become a welfare queen or government leech. Dunno if I'm making sense but I feel like if anyone could pull it off it would be her80085 wrote:I disagree. Based on their history, their living situation is shaky and I don't think they've been in this place long enough to counteract that. The same thing that happened last time could happen again and then they're shit out of luck. They are often living paycheck to paycheck (or close to). Sean is only doing the stay at home thing because he hasn't found a job yet. I think if they really want another kid, he should at least get another job (I understand it's not easy for him but eventually something should come along) and save up for a few years.Panda714 wrote:I dunno, I don't think Nikole falling pregnant would be the worst thing. Sure not the most ideal but if Sean is doing the stay at home thing I can't fault them cause it's not much different than the mom staying at home ya know?
Financially speaking they should probably wait but I don't doubt for a second that if they had another baby any time soon it would be cared for and treated well
It doesn't matter how good they will be taken care of/loved. Raising a child is extremely expensive and it would be totally irresponsible to have another child at this point in their lives. They are both very young, they have another 20 years if not more to have another kid. I'm almost positive the only reason they're not married is because they can't afford it. If you can't afford a wedding, you most definitely cannot afford a child.
I just really, really don't want her to fall into the trap of having another kid, becoming a SAHM, and never doing anything with her life. Unlike most of the YT mums, she actually has career aspirations. I want to see her achieve them first. Another kid can most definitely wait. I would be genuinely disappointed if she ended up like the rest.
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Okay she kind of (really stretching it here) explained baby 2 question in her Q&A- She said if things had worked out as she planned then she would be pregnant right now. She still has the implanon but it's expired and she hasn't had it removed yet. She also said that she thought she was in the 'Technology Hates Me' video because she was having breast pain and 'felt' pregnant but all the tests came out negative. And now a girl at her work is pregnant ( they wanted to be pregnant at the same time) and she's bummed out because her baby fever is through the roof. She wants to get the implanon removed so it wouldn't affect a baby say if she did get pregnant now and wants to TTC the right way (healthy living, take prenantels ect) other then when accidently fell pregnant with Aleia while she was still doing drugs.
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Sorry haha I meant stretching the words 'kind of', should of worded it better.
I stopped watching after the baby question *shrugs*
She needs to get the bar re-implanted. She is not ready for another baby.
I stopped watching after the baby question *shrugs*
She needs to get the bar re-implanted. She is not ready for another baby.
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I think what she meant by having planned to be pregnant by not was more about her life plan. Like where she saw herself today when she was 12.
I'm not too bent on the wedding issue simply because weddings are a fucking farce. Anyone ever looked up the price difference between a wedding and a birthday party of the same head count? It's insane how much is overcharged.
Who knows, maybe Sean did find a new job or they've got a plan in place we aren't privy to. Someone on her Q&A video asked how she hopes to make another kid work so maybe she'll tell us
I'm not too bent on the wedding issue simply because weddings are a fucking farce. Anyone ever looked up the price difference between a wedding and a birthday party of the same head count? It's insane how much is overcharged.
Who knows, maybe Sean did find a new job or they've got a plan in place we aren't privy to. Someone on her Q&A video asked how she hopes to make another kid work so maybe she'll tell us
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I mean, there's plenty of things people would do tomorrow if they had the money. Doesnt necessarily mean too much. A wedding is as expensive or decent as you make it. They might not be married yet for tax reasons or Sean's just waiting to find the right ring or way to propose80085 wrote:I don't care that they're not married. I just know that they've been "planning" to get married since their 1 year anniversary and I'm pretty sure Nikole said they'd get married after one year. I get that Nikole doesn't care they're not married but I know that if she had the money she's be walking down the aisle tomorrow. That being said, she cannot afford another kid.Panda714 wrote:I think what she meant by having planned to be pregnant by not was more about her life plan. Like where she saw herself today when she was 12.
I'm not too bent on the wedding issue simply because weddings are a fucking farce. Anyone ever looked up the price difference between a wedding and a birthday party of the same head count? It's insane how much is overcharged.
Who knows, maybe Sean did find a new job or they've got a plan in place we aren't privy to. Someone on her Q&A video asked how she hopes to make another kid work so maybe she'll tell us
She actually addressed and clarified the Baby #2 thing in the second video of the Q&A.
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I feel like her clarification confused me more.... she dont want a baby right now yet her birth control has been expired and you havent replaced it? And she was taking pregnancy tests. After some google research it says implanon is somewhat effective after expiry, but like most medications is not as potent. Idk maybe I am just a more simple person, I dont want a baby right now so I use birth control, if I wanted one I would go off it. I don't really understand playing games like letting your IUD/implanon expire or skipping pills, although a lot of women seem to do it.
I also shook my head when she said you dont plan for catastrophic events, obviously thats true to some extent but its important to save for a rainy day because you never know what might happen. Like just now she cant afford to get her laptop fixed and is on food stamps, neither of which is the end of the world but why chance having a baby if you know you arent financially prepared?
I also shook my head when she said you dont plan for catastrophic events, obviously thats true to some extent but its important to save for a rainy day because you never know what might happen. Like just now she cant afford to get her laptop fixed and is on food stamps, neither of which is the end of the world but why chance having a baby if you know you arent financially prepared?
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I can't fault her for taking the tests. I have an IUD and I felt weird recently so I tested. She did mention she just got a raise so there's a chance they're still fiddling with the budget numbers a bitLaurenXo wrote:I feel like her clarification confused me more.... she dont want a baby right now yet her birth control has been expired and you havent replaced it? And she was taking pregnancy tests. After some google research it says implanon is somewhat effective after expiry, but like most medications is not as potent. Idk maybe I am just a more simple person, I dont want a baby right now so I use birth control, if I wanted one I would go off it. I don't really understand playing games like letting your IUD/implanon expire or skipping pills, although a lot of women seem to do it.
I also shook my head when she said you dont plan for catastrophic events, obviously thats true to some extent but its important to save for a rainy day because you never know what might happen. Like just now she cant afford to get her laptop fixed and is on food stamps, neither of which is the end of the world but why chance having a baby if you know you arent financially prepared?
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Yeah, I don't see it as clarification. Her comment on the "Technology Hates Me" video literally said "I want to have another baby we are not doing anything to prevent it so it could be any time now (;"
I've always liked how she seemed so level-headed and self-aware. That's why the baby talk took me aback a little bit. And she talks about how she doesn't want to go to work and get drained every day and have no energy when she gets home, so she wants to be her own boss in some capacity and/or make a difference in the world. I think she could if she set a deliberate course for it. I hope she does one day.
I've always liked how she seemed so level-headed and self-aware. That's why the baby talk took me aback a little bit. And she talks about how she doesn't want to go to work and get drained every day and have no energy when she gets home, so she wants to be her own boss in some capacity and/or make a difference in the world. I think she could if she set a deliberate course for it. I hope she does one day.
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I love Nikole but I really believe that if she wants to have another baby at the absolute minimum she needs to sign a long lease so she has security, Sean needs a full time job in case she gets sick and needs a lot of time off in pregnancy and she needs to build up an emergency savings fund so they don't find themselves in desperate situations like they have in the past.
She could already have all the lined up, I don't follow her that closely and haven't watched all the latest@videos. Even if she isn't in that spot yet it wouldn't take very long to get there since she works so hard. I just would HATE to see her pregnant, sick, unable to work, poor and getting kicked out of her house with no lease to protect her. I know that sounds morbid and worst case scenario but the poor girl seems to have the worst luck so she needs to plan for these things
She could already have all the lined up, I don't follow her that closely and haven't watched all the latest@videos. Even if she isn't in that spot yet it wouldn't take very long to get there since she works so hard. I just would HATE to see her pregnant, sick, unable to work, poor and getting kicked out of her house with no lease to protect her. I know that sounds morbid and worst case scenario but the poor girl seems to have the worst luck so she needs to plan for these things
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Exactly... like these things have happened more then once to her, and I can unfortunately see it happening again. I know she mentioned still collecting food stamps and when I looked up the maximum income to qualify based on family size its really not a lot so they aren't rolling in money. Not that theres anything wrong with food stamps btw. Like I said before no one plans to be evicted or lose their job but most people who are financially stable plan for a rainy day by saving money for one.annapaulndaniel wrote:I love Nikole but I really believe that if she wants to have another baby at the absolute minimum she needs to sign a long lease so she has security, Sean needs a full time job in case she gets sick and needs a lot of time off in pregnancy and she needs to build up an emergency savings fund so they don't find themselves in desperate situations like they have in the past.
She could already have all the lined up, I don't follow her that closely and haven't watched all the latest@videos. Even if she isn't in that spot yet it wouldn't take very long to get there since she works so hard. I just would HATE to see her pregnant, sick, unable to work, poor and getting kicked out of her house with no lease to protect her. I know that sounds morbid and worst case scenario but the poor girl seems to have the worst luck so she needs to plan for these things
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from what I gathered in the video she Said she was gonna be TRYING to have a baby since she was upset thst time she thought she was pregnant and see wasn't. she was also bummed because she was pregnant at the same time as her co worker.
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She can be just as irresponsible as other YT teen moms. It's just by comparison that you can see she does work hard. But she also thinks that getting paid a dollar or two above minimum wage is "good money", and Sean is still unemployed. Why? Why can't he find a job? They shouldn't even be entertaining the thought of having a baby. They spent so much time with Aleia living in an RV and then a freaking motel. That's not okay. They still have a LONG way to go. Nikole has enthusiasm and is optimistic, but it seems like Sean is not on the same page, and without further education for both, they'll be depending on minimum wage jobs forever. Those kind of jobs end easily. She is not realistic about finances. Maggie is a disaster waiting to happen, again. Just another weight around their ankles IMO. That won't be a good role model for Aleia either.
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What did you guys think of her new budgeting video? It seems a little crazy that they only spend 200$ for groceries a month.
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I have no idea how they buy a months worth of groceries for $200 a month.
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Can you get every food group at the dollar store? Is there anything fresh there? I guess they buy food exclusively from there.
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She might have had her food stamps fixed and $200 is what the FS doesn't covers sinxe there's three of them. But they've also eat hamburger helper and that sort, so it maybe cheap.
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Stores like the 99 cents store do sell pretty good fresh veggies now, for people who really need to and are struggle it is very possible to live off there groceries especially for a family of only three people. I commended her sharing that she even shops there because of judgment, but people do it all the time, instead of spending $4 or five dollars for a case of water you can get the same at the 99.
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I wish she dressed aleia a little bit nicer, she's so cute
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Aleia is dressed just fine. Out of all the things to bitch about you are complaining about the way she dresses her child which is how any child her age dresses.
Different clothes wouldn't make her any more cute or less cuter...pshhh
Different clothes wouldn't make her any more cute or less cuter...pshhh