lmmomSD wrote:I have to add, I think Valentine's Day is a great big crock. It's so amped up by greeting card companies, florists, candy companies and jewelers, and it seems to be getting worse every year. I would rather have one carnation from a grocery store "just because" than a dozen roses because it's Valentine's Day. I think it was silly to do the gift giving as a big production in front of the kids, and do the "this is how men should treat women" speech, but I stand by my statement that those kids see a healthier relationship modeled daily than the one silly display for Valentine's Day. A _lot_ healthier than Ellie and Jared's!
Sent from my XT1650 using Tapatalk
I agree. My husband used to get me flowers from the florists every Valentine’s Day until we realized how big the markup was. Now he picks up a simple mix from Costco for $15 and we go on a weekend trip without the kids at some point in the spring. It works for us.
I don’t get him anything, and that isn’t because we live like Amish, but because he’s rather I just save the money. When I see something he’d like or he needs throughout the year I just buy it anyway.
Every couple is different. B&J seem happy. They aren’t strangers to physical contact with one another, and it isn’t in an overcompensating showy or forced way like E&J. I think they are modelling a functional relationship for the kids, whereas E&J are struggling enough behind closed doors that their 4 year old just wishes for them to have happiness
The Valentine’s Day gifts aren’t a problem unless the relationship is already on a shallow and unhealthy foundation.
Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk