C&K: Golf Carts and Thunderstorms. Part #12

[HelloSweetie]

I can admit to parenting differently after a loss. My oldest son was a dream baby and came fairly easy despite Endometriosis. My second child was a struggle, and was conceived after a long road of repeat losses and years of IF. I could relate to what Katie was saying about time moving slowly while struggling in such a big way. We fought so hard to have a healthy baby, that once he was here I felt like I could never complain or ask for help. He was wanted, and a crazy part of me was paranoid to let my guard down and forget that for a second. I get the impression that Katie doesn't complain about how needy Brookes is for this same reason. Yes she's at home with him all day, and yes she has it easier than most, but it can still be hard. I'm a stay at home mom for the most part, and being home with my needy son 24/7 can be mentally taxing. Sometimes working a few hours a day here and there is actually like a break. I definitely feel guilty though, like I'm not taking full advantage of the time that I've been given.... I know this probably won't make sense to most people, but for me at least I can definitely see where Katie may be coming from.

Missy is different because I really don't feel she's caring for her children in the same demanding 24/7 way. I feel like she phones it in most of the time (no pun intended) and isn't putting the same effort into talking to me entertaining her kids as Katie does.

[askeptichere]

I can respect that Katie is confessing to having a hard time, and she has every right to have those feelings. Every mom gets stressed, every mom feels guilt, and every mom goes through hard times. I won't belittle those feelings she's having, but it doesn't necessarily make me able to relate to her any better. If her mental health is suffering I hope she would recognize it and get help. She needs to start taking better care of herself. Not just focus on her children.


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[lmmomSD]

Honestly, I think she's bored. She has this advanced degree that she worked so hard for, and maybe I am projecting, but as much as she wanted to be home, I think she's missing working. Maybe I'm just projecting. But if that's the case, plus she feels guilty when she's away, because she wanted these kids so badly, she needs to find a balance or she is going to get depressed. She used to be a bit of a counter to Cullen's goofiness. Now she just cackles like he's the funniest thing she's ever seen, and does things like waxing his back hair for a prank. It's concerning.

And I never said she has it "easy". Being a parent is hard, even with help. But yes, she does have it easier. As does even the single mom working two jobs vs a homeless mom. It's all perspective. And being grateful for what you do have goes a long way. And I don't mean like Ellie with her "be happy!"" BS. Only responding because my post was referred to. I also said a few times that her feelings are valid, and her problems are hers and important to her.
Not going to beat the dead horse anymore. Just felt compelled to answer.
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[usernamessuck]

Can we talk about how frustrating it is to be with two little kids all day? Maybe she is realise stay-at-home mom isn't what she wants to do right now. Being with your kids all day everyday when just one is super demanding makes anyone want to pull their hair out. Add to that a pre-schooler who also wants endless attention and it's a lot to put up with. Maybe Katie is realizing she misses working just a little bit. (Or maybe not. I'm just assuming).

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[Shorty02]

I'm a huge Disney fan and I'm super jealous that they're at the D23 Expo. I would love to go to that someday!


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[wishes]

Parenting is hard, so so hard. I get Katie's feelings. My baby girl was so wanted for almost 2 years and now I developed PPA (post-partum anxiety) when I'm left alone with her for some time. I'm happy I work to get the break I need and Katie doesn't really have that. Sure, she sends Gaines to her family's house but she also has Brooks to take care of. I'm sure her family would gladly take both of them but then guilt arises. I'm quite envious of her for having family so close by, what I would do to have my family close to by to help a little bit. I'm just relieved they're finally seeing how not all kids are easy like MG was.

Everyone is entitled to their feelings and good for her expressing it to the viewers that it isn't all rainbows and unicorns.

[wishes]

So she does leave notes for her own parents about Brooks, that's good!

[wishes]

Waiting a few more years until both of them can remember to go to Disney parks will be so much better when they can remember the experience and like they said, spend a week there exploring all the parks.

Seems Katie loves the YT job business, lol.

[askeptichere]

Waiting a few more years until both of them can remember to go to Disney parks will be so much better when they can remember the experience and like they said, spend a week there exploring all the parks.

Seems Katie loves the YT job business, lol.

Yes, if they only plan on doing Walt Disney World once, it's best to do it when the kids can do everything and stay a whole week. My family goes quite often, so for us it's amazing taking them as soon as they can walk and experience the magic through their eyes as they grow.

[wishes]

Waiting a few more years until both of them can remember to go to Disney parks will be so much better when they can remember the experience and like they said, spend a week there exploring all the parks.

Seems Katie loves the YT job business, lol.

Yes, if they only plan on doing Walt Disney World once, it's best to do it when the kids can do everything and stay a whole week. My family goes quite often, so for us it's amazing taking them as soon as they can walk and experience the magic through their eyes as they grow.

Ah yes, true. We don't live anywhere close to either the CA or FL one, so going for a week is a definite must with older kids. I went when I was 13 for the first time and I still remember it! I necessarily wouldn't wait that long but yeah.

[Playsinrain]

I can admit to parenting differently after a loss. My oldest son was a dream baby and came fairly easy despite Endometriosis. My second child was a struggle, and was conceived after a long road of repeat losses and years of IF. I could relate to what Katie was saying about time moving slowly while struggling in such a big way. We fought so hard to have a healthy baby, that once he was here I felt like I could never complain or ask for help. He was wanted, and a crazy part of me was paranoid to let my guard down and forget that for a second. I get the impression that Katie doesn't complain about how needy Brookes is for this same reason. Yes she's at home with him all day, and yes she has it easier than most, but it can still be hard. I'm a stay at home mom for the most part, and being home with my needy son 24/7 can be mentally taxing. Sometimes working a few hours a day here and there is actually like a break. I definitely feel guilty though, like I'm not taking full advantage of the time that I've been given.... I know this probably won't make sense to most people, but for me at least I can definitely see where Katie may be coming from.

Missy is different because I really don't feel she's caring for her children in the same demanding 24/7 way. I feel like she phones it in most of the time (no pun intended) and isn't putting the same effort into talking to me entertaining her kids as Katie does.

I had a miscarriage when i was very young, 17, and while i still feel sad that I lost a child, I was in a very bad place in my life and without disregarding anyone's feelings on a loss, it was a blessing to me, that i do not have a child with the guy i was with at the time. While i did not have trouble conceiving my kids with my husband and we were incredibly blessed in that aspect, I can relate to the guilt and anxiety that comes with parenting after losses/infertility. I can totally see myself getting into that guilt spiral if i was in yours, or Katie's shoes. My children were very wanted and while it came "easy" too us, i still feel those pangs of guilt over taking a break from my kids. I can't say i have been in your shoes, but i can see myself feeling those feelings if i were. I hope thats not insensitive to say, if it is i'm very very sorry, its not my intent.

[Caisflame]

It's so good to see Gaines get some one on one time with both of her parents. I think they're great at providing enough love and care for both children, but it's always nice for one child to spend some time alone with both parents. I bet she loves it! Crazy to think she's been a big sister for almost a year now. I remember wondering how she'd do before Brooks was born because at that time she was very attached to Katie and not wanting to be too far away from them. I'm sure she's had her struggles that they don't show, but in general Gaines has blown my mind this past year. She grew so fast and seems to be a great big sister.

[lmmomSD]

Can we talk about how frustrating it is to be with two little kids all day? Maybe she is realise stay-at-home mom isn't what she wants to do right now. Being with your kids all day everyday when just one is super demanding makes anyone want to pull their hair out. Add to that a pre-schooler who also wants endless attention and it's a lot to put up with. Maybe Katie is realizing she misses working just a little bit. (Or maybe not. I'm just assuming).

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That's what I meant when I said maybe she was bored. She wanted those kids so badly, but maybe being a stay at home mom isn't what she thought it would be. Like I said, she has this advanced degree, and no she's just Cullen's foil and Gaines and Brooks' mom. I could be projecting. I was a nurse, and a damn good one. Then we moved to Washington for the Navy, and we decided I would stay home, and I went nuts. I went from being respected and people outside of the family knowing me to just being the wife and mom. I remember actually being excited about some bathroom cleaner, and thinking "Is this my life?" So I can see Katie feeling that way. And after her losses, admitting that would be really hard. It was hard enough admitting it without losses. You're supposed to loooove staying home and nurturing your children. But sometimes you want a conversation about more esoteric things than "Goodnight Moon". People have a hard time admitting that, especially in this Pinterest age. We're supposed to be happy making free range chicken nuggets with flour we grew and ground ourselves. And personally, living with Cullen 24/7 would make me snap anyway, but she loves him, so there's that.

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[fossilfinger]

There's nothing stopping Cullen from watching the kids while Katie has "me time," though. She could go to the gym, join a book club, etc. It might take the edge off the boredom.

[cynthiadancer]

So if this isn't something that is allowed to be posted please tell me or delete it. Awhile back Katie tweeted a photo of cleaning out her purse. I was curious what all she had in there (since mine is literally always a horrible mess as well) and so I zoomed in on the photo a little on my phone to look at all the items. I noticed a phone number written on the back of something and googled it. It is the phone number for a mental health services practice in Birmingham. This could be a service they are using to talk to a professional or it could also have been related to her job (I think her job before children had to do with mental health?). Anyway I just thought this was interesting in light of the conversation here in the last two days.

[nutbagmcgee]

[UPWARDS BLACK ARROW]️ That's some stalker creepy shit.

[Baconsgirl]

I am an avid fan of C&K but let's just say I couldn't stand being with Cullen all the time lol. I know it's silly to say but I wish Cullen would get a job outside of YouTube. I honesty think it would relieve some of the crazy stuff he does now.


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[Baconsgirl]

I am an avid fan of C&K but let's just say I couldn't stand being with Cullen all the time lol. I know it's silly to say but I wish Cullen would get a job outside of YouTube. I honesty think it would relieve some of the crazy stuff he does now.


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[HelloSweetie]

I am an avid fan of C&K but let's just say I couldn't stand being with Cullen all the time lol. I know it's silly to say but I wish Cullen would get a job outside of YouTube. I honesty think it would relieve some of the crazy stuff he does now.


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I may be the only one, but I actually miss the daily Targetballing.

[Deadhead_kay]

It's more than likely a number for her previous practice. Interesting that she still had the number in her purse since it's been so long.

*creepier status* I had reached out about a year ago to interview her regarding what her job was like and the shift to being a full time stay at home mom. It was relevant to an assignment but I never heard back. Sort of a shame because I relate to both her decision to stay home but also the career she pursued.


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