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Poor Huxley. He's a cute little poppet and if I'm honest I will probably tune in to watch how he adjusts to his new family. It seems a little rushed to just hand him over like that, I have a friend who adopted from the Philippines and they went and met their son at the orphanage and hung out and played all day for several days before they took him to the hotel with him, then they spent another week with him full time but visiting the orphanage in the day so he could get to know them in a comfortable environment before being handed over. Maybe it's a similar case but it seems like they met him then just took him straight away.
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That video made me sob, and not in a "wowwww what a miracle, myka is so generous and isn't it great that she's getting the child she wants!" sort of way.
The first clips of him playing, H was happy. He reminded me of Bonnie's Boston a bit, in a way I can't entirely explain. But he tried to nope the fuck out of there, which is what I would do if someone told me Myka was going to be my new mommy too. Then when she's "comforting" him, he is trying to hurl himself out of her arms. That poor boy, my heart broke for him.
Did this really all happen in the course of a day? How awful. I can't imagine what he must be feeling. I'm by no means an expert on the subject, but the few international adoptions I know the particulars of have (like the Philippine adoption mentioned by another poster) involved a much longer amount of time for the adoptive children to adjust to the new family.
My weird uncle spent longer than this "courting" his mail order bride in person before bringing her home, and she was an adult who had chosen this for herself and spent time learning some English.
The first clips of him playing, H was happy. He reminded me of Bonnie's Boston a bit, in a way I can't entirely explain. But he tried to nope the fuck out of there, which is what I would do if someone told me Myka was going to be my new mommy too. Then when she's "comforting" him, he is trying to hurl himself out of her arms. That poor boy, my heart broke for him.
Did this really all happen in the course of a day? How awful. I can't imagine what he must be feeling. I'm by no means an expert on the subject, but the few international adoptions I know the particulars of have (like the Philippine adoption mentioned by another poster) involved a much longer amount of time for the adoptive children to adjust to the new family.
My weird uncle spent longer than this "courting" his mail order bride in person before bringing her home, and she was an adult who had chosen this for herself and spent time learning some English.
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It is traumatic, but he's so young, he'll never remember this and he's way better off with a family then lingering in an orphanage or foster care. I don't think Myka and James had any control over how the adoption went down.
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i don't think anyone here was saying they did or that he would be better off lingering in an orphanage. people are here voicing their concerns and rightfully soseriously7 wrote:It is traumatic, but he's so young, he'll never remember this and he's way better off with a family then lingering in an orphanage or foster care. I don't think Myka and James had any control over how the adoption went down.
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just watched their new video on the 'gotcha day' which made me even more uncomfortable. at 8:13 in the video the husband grabs myka's oldest child and brings her out of the frame for god knows what reason. i keep playing it over and over trying to figure out why that was done in the first place but it doesn't look like she was doing anything wrong other than staring at huxley then about 20 seconds later when she tries to go back into frame the video cuts to a frame without her once again. does anyone else not think that's beyond weird?
i am not saying myka is a horrible parent because i think the opposite but i can see why huxley attached to what's his name the way that he did. i feel like myka is extremely clingy just in the videos she has made and how she acts in the more candid videos on their family channel but i could be wrong. i also can't help but think a lot of this adoption thing on her side of things was or is being done for show.
i am not saying myka is a horrible parent because i think the opposite but i can see why huxley attached to what's his name the way that he did. i feel like myka is extremely clingy just in the videos she has made and how she acts in the more candid videos on their family channel but i could be wrong. i also can't help but think a lot of this adoption thing on her side of things was or is being done for show.
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Moving her may have just been their attempts to not overwhelm Huxley. There were a lot of people in that room and he was obviously struggling. Who knows though. I still think they shouldn't have brought the kids in the first place and given themselves time to bond with Huxley alone before taking him back to the U.S. Itheg0ssiping1 wrote:just watched their new video on the 'gotcha day' which made me even more uncomfortable. at 8:13 in the video the husband grabs myka's oldest child and brings her out of the frame for god knows what reason. i keep playing it over and over trying to figure out why that was done in the first place but it doesn't look like she was doing anything wrong other than staring at huxley then about 20 seconds later when she tries to go back into frame the video cuts to a frame without her once again. does anyone else not think that's beyond weird?
i am not saying myka is a horrible parent because i think the opposite but i can see why huxley attached to what's his name the way that he did. i feel like myka is extremely clingy just in the videos she has made and how she acts in the more candid videos on their family channel but i could be wrong. i also can't help but think a lot of this adoption thing on her side of things was or is being done for show.
I really feel for Huxley, it was obvious Myka was pushing and too clingy. I've never adopted but I've read things how you are supposed to take it slow and let the child engage first. That might be why he attached to Jim (or whatever his name is). That and Huxley was obviously bonded to his foster mom which will probably make it a little harder for him at first to bond with Myka in the same way.
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They shoved the girl out of the way because she was in the shot. Ya can't make a cute video with kids in the way of the money shot.
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there were two other kids standing there and he chose her not once but twice.
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I followed a blogger a while back that did a special needs adoption from China. Her daughter had a cleft lip. Now it was a blog so no videos but I think I remember her writing that the introduction was very fast and there were a lot of other families in the room also meeting their children for the first time. It was a very chaotic loud environment filled with lots of emotions. I am not really a myka fan but I think other than her fake crying an fanning her face every time she gets choked up this adoption setting is pretty typical. Its absolutely heart breaking for the children and if they had really any research at all they should have know not to bring their other children and spent the time really bonding and helping heal Huxley. This is so confusing and scary for him!
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I noticed that Kova was sucking her thumb and that seemed to be why Jim pulled at her to get out of the way, which makes no sense either. I haven't noticed him playing favorites before but Kova is not his biological child. I feel like she is always shuttled between Myka and her Dads house so it probably is weird for her a bit. I believe Myka's ex has other kids as well so she has a very blended family of different siblings. I agree with everyone about how heartbreaking it is to see adopted children ripped away like that. At least Huxley seems to have bonded a bit with Jim. Does anyone know if Jim still works a real job? How the heck does he get so much time off if he does!theg0ssiping1 wrote:there were two other kids standing there and he chose her not once but twice.
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I've watched Myka on and off for years but just decided to watch some adoption videos as they popped up in feed and I've always thought she had a strange name choice for her kids (clearly her decision as the first kid from a different marriage has an unusual name then the other kids followed suit). Like Radley always makes me think of the mental institution off Pretty Little Liars or people saying "that's so rad man" (might be Australian ) but to give a little Chinese boy such a strange name is kinda odd. It's like she chose it for the aesthetic rather than what would suit him. It just seems strange to name him Huxley. Like is it even a name?
Anyway, a video from January popped up about them not discussing his age? I don't know why they couldn't discuss his age and did they ever say how old he is? Seems about Radley's age...
and does he have a medical condition? Someone mentioned it in the comments but I can't stand her soft creepy voice to watch any more vids to find out
Anyway, a video from January popped up about them not discussing his age? I don't know why they couldn't discuss his age and did they ever say how old he is? Seems about Radley's age...
and does he have a medical condition? Someone mentioned it in the comments but I can't stand her soft creepy voice to watch any more vids to find out
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they mentioned in a recent vlog that he is 2 years old
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I wonder if they will do the cocooning method when they get home. Where they don’t go anywhere and no one else comes over. It teaches the adopted child that they are his parents, and he relies on them now. The siblings can’t help either, because he will become dependent on them. I watched thisgatherednest’s video on it and it made total sense.
It can go on for weeks. I hope they do something like this to help the poor boy have an easier transition
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i'm grateful there are no videos from them at this time because they need to have some sort of bonding with huxley without the camera being shoved in his face.booboo2017 wrote:Any update? It’s been pretty quiet lately
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YouTube video just went up. Huxley clearly a Daddy's boy and comfortable with Jim. Myka looks to have basically no interaction with him up to this point. As someone said earlier he can sense the crazy and is staying away! Jim seems like a very caring guy and he is handling this as best he can. I still question his sanity though in being married to crazy town Myka. I get the feeling that as usual Jim will be doing everything with all kids once they get home while she lounges around and does half assed at home schooling.
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I am very pleasantly surprised the way James seems smitten with him and that Huxley has attacthed to him. I know James (is that his name?> Jim?) was hesitant at first about the whole thing but seems to be adjusted very well.
I think it would have been best for Myka to go to China alone and spend a few days just her and him alone in the hotel BUT then Huxley would not have been able to attach to James and I think that is so important.
Is Hux' middle name his former name? or?
Tose kids have god awful names. I agree with whoever said that Radley reminds them of PLL!
I think it would have been best for Myka to go to China alone and spend a few days just her and him alone in the hotel BUT then Huxley would not have been able to attach to James and I think that is so important.
Is Hux' middle name his former name? or?
Tose kids have god awful names. I agree with whoever said that Radley reminds them of PLL!
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Also.. Myka is interesting.. she doesnt seem to be putting on an act, like when they are in the elevator she is speaking in a normal tone and not that high pitched baby tone BUT she also does not seem happy. Like, I understand being exhausted and hungry and jet lagged and a million other things but even when you birth a child your hormones help you through and you are on cloud nine. I have watched other adoption videos and the moms have the same euphoric smile, she just seems dead in the eyes.