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Amanda876 wrote:They are following it closely on GG but I think its mighty interesting. Someone did some digging and found an instagram pic that he liked in september and then within 12 hrs of that discovery Shay made the apology video and his twitter info said he was in venice,CA.. Now his twitter says "right now" for location. I know this is true gossip and maybe i'm taking a small leap with this but what if Colette kicked him out for a bit or something else happened? It all fits together in an intriguing puzzle.
I bet she did they do own a apartment in California!
Amanda876 wrote:They are following it closely on GG but I think its mighty interesting. Someone did some digging and found an instagram pic that he liked in september and then within 12 hrs of that discovery Shay made the apology video and his twitter info said he was in venice,CA.. Now his twitter says "right now" for location. I know this is true gossip and maybe i'm taking a small leap with this but what if Colette kicked him out for a bit or something else happened? It all fits together in an intriguing puzzle.
I bet she did they do own a apartment in California!
That apartment was a rental, and I think they got rid of it right after the scandal broke. Even the car they used to have in LA is now back in Idaho and they gave it to Logan.
I would have taken this much more serious if he had actually waited a year. Knew he couldn't do it. I know he wants that big Shaytards Christmas video that pulls in so many views.
Going to ask a dumb question here but is he kicked out of the church? or does he get a lecture from them? not sure if anyone knows what the "norm" is for this kind of thing with his religion.
If they kicked every cheating\alcoholic man out of churches there would be like 5 men left. Maybe.
Shay probably had to cry, blame the devil and his weak flesh...promise to get help for his addiction and he's back in the club probably never even left. Remember this is the same man who went on Twitter and was telling women to dress modestly and Tyler Oakley called him out for it. Same dude who was talking to Cam girls. He knows what to say. I am hoping most of his viewers are over it.
More often than not the church family seems to focus on the wife forgiving her husband and her feelings of jealousy etc than the man and why he cheated or why he's drinking again. He has a sickness [addiction not only is the alcohol seen as an addiction but many churches\Christians are very big on promoting any use of porn, extramarital sex as addiction too] but the wife is just angry....and this is to teach her a lesson or God will somehow use this to make her stronger etc. Colette hit a bunch of the code words\phrases with her video. I knew it before I even watched it.
A friend of mine, who's Mormon who recently left her cheating husband and she was surprised at how her church and church family were much more supportive of him than of her and the children. Even when it became clear he had no intent of stopping his behavior and was still dating this girl while attending counseling for his cheating. She also didn't realize how she'd be treated now as a single mother, since everyone knew why she was a single mom. Some of them claim she didn't fight hard enough for her man and marriage.
KaterTot wrote:I hate how she is being promoted as strong by the other girls on Mom's View and the latest thumbnail with them gathered around here with their title made me not click and watch.
Strong is leaving. Strong is leaving the security of a marriage, even one that's a sham, the money and fame you got with it, the house, whatever your gleened from the marriage.
Staying is easy because you basically even stated you get to keep everything but your pride and your perfect image of your marriage intact. It is not the brave/strong way. Not in a million years.
She is teaching her girls you can be disrespected, cheated on, made a fool of and just take it. She is teaching her boys they can get away with murder in a marriage with a woman with no backbone. I like Colette but she is lying to us and everyone else if she thinks she is a strong independent woman because she says so. Yeah you run right back to that mansion with your lying, drunk cheater husband who got caught. I am sure he had done this in the past. No way she would let us know that. It looks better to say it was one time, he was drunk and she forgave.
I have lost all respect for her.
I think that leaving is easy though. I agree that she seems over the top in reassuring everyone that she is so much happier now and so on. But at the same time I think that maybe the marriage is. After a thing like that you and your spouse is bound to talk about everything. And I dont doubt that marriages that have been kinda dead suddenly comes alive again after hard times like that. I hope they come out stronger and better. They do have children so I think its good that they dont quit on that just yet. Of course you can argue that he quit on his family by doing this. But we dont know all the details of everything and I really dont think he ows the viewers an appology. I sertanly dont feel like I need one. What they decide for their family is whats best for them. And I know none of us are saints either. We have done things and forgiven things others would judge us for. Even if they did the same thing themselfes. Humans ... so judgemental
KaterTot wrote:I hate how she is being promoted as strong by the other girls on Mom's View and the latest thumbnail with them gathered around here with their title made me not click and watch.
Strong is leaving. Strong is leaving the security of a marriage, even one that's a sham, the money and fame you got with it, the house, whatever your gleened from the marriage.
Staying is easy because you basically even stated you get to keep everything but your pride and your perfect image of your marriage intact. It is not the brave/strong way. Not in a million years.
She is teaching her girls you can be disrespected, cheated on, made a fool of and just take it. She is teaching her boys they can get away with murder in a marriage with a woman with no backbone. I like Colette but she is lying to us and everyone else if she thinks she is a strong independent woman because she says so. Yeah you run right back to that mansion with your lying, drunk cheater husband who got caught. I am sure he had done this in the past. No way she would let us know that. It looks better to say it was one time, he was drunk and she forgave.
I have lost all respect for her.
I think that leaving is easy though. I agree that she seems over the top in reassuring everyone that she is so much happier now and so on. But at the same time I think that maybe the marriage is. After a thing like that you and your spouse is bound to talk about everything. And I dont doubt that marriages that have been kinda dead suddenly comes alive again after hard times like that. I hope they come out stronger and better. They do have children so I think its good that they dont quit on that just yet. Of course you can argue that he quit on his family by doing this. But we dont know all the details of everything and I really dont think he ows the viewers an appology. I sertanly dont feel like I need one. What they decide for their family is whats best for them. And I know none of us are saints either. We have done things and forgiven things others would judge us for. Even if they did the same thing themselfes. Humans ... so judgemental
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Most of us here also dont let our hypocrisy or shortcomings show to the world in videos and social media. If he didn't want to be judged or talked about, he could have stayed quiet.
I doubt this is the first time he cheated. The first cam girl he spoke to. He was smug. His ego let him believe he was above getting in trouble. Being a Youtube star has a way of feeding one's sense of self importance. This isn't the first time she's put up with his drinking having negative effects on the family.
Women who tell other women it's brave to stay in shitty marriages are part of the problem. Drink poison with a smile on your face so that you can be praised for how self sacrificing you are. We don't care if you're dying inside. Yet if a woman is like yeah no I'm done all of a sudden she's selfish for putting herself first.
episa I respect your views but I also wonder about your experience and how old you are. Without giving away all of mine, leaving is not always easy. I know things looks easy on paper and staying for the kids sake is an old adage that should die. The kids will grow up and have their own marriages and while you can say that it shows the kids to stick with their marriage in this case I don't think it's a good lesson for their girls to stay with an alcoholic that keeps sliding back to it and now infidelity which is not the first. And yes we seem to know a whole lot about what happened when all of it came out publicly. The chat, everything. So I am not sitting here trying to guess things. Staying is easy. Leaving is hard. Truth. Staying is brutal to your internal self but it's easier because it's not disruptive, it's quiet, not dramatic and gives yourself false hope, which is easier to believe in the moments of infidelity.
All you will think every time you fight is that he cheated. It doesn't leave you but finally, you do leave, and it's not easy still but it's peaceful in time.
I think Shay is saying this because his only option is to leave. He will never truly be able to start over but everything has fallen apart and he can't get back that special thing he had.
They know they still have to make appearances for the kids so they will work through arrangements...
Drama King: any male that makes a big deal over a nonissue.
also any male that never shuts up and always has to be the center of attention.
Trust me. Leaving is NOT easy. Anyone who thinks it is, has never been in a marriage with children.
What the kids deserve though, more than a home with both parents, especially if those parents don't respect each other, is a healthy relationship modeled for them. And if the only way that can occur is for them to split up so be it. Leaving isn't a cop out. Staying is hard too.
I think it's too optimistic to think that Shay and Colette really talked things out and that their relationship is stronger. He doesn't look like he's changed one bit.
Leaving isn't the easy option. Staying isn't the easy option. There is nothing easy about being in that situation. You just do your best to work through it and choose the route best for your family
I don't blame anyone that leaves but I do think it takes a very strong person to stay in a marriage after infidelity but things have to change. That's the only way for it to be a happy healthy relationship again. I hope it does work out because they will be better people for it but again that's only if they change. I agree that Shay seems fake and defensive and pushing the blame onto other things instead of fully owning up to it and changing so in my opinion this it's only a matter of time before it happens again.
That video was hard to watch. I saw it a few mins after upload and I honestly thought he was gonna kill himself live on video. OBVIOUSLY I didn't want to see that. He seemed really emotionally unstable...
I never really watched them. So I searched for the homeless sign video
That was horrible.
Very uncomfortable.
He was totally laughing and poking fun of homeless people. Even asked his daughter if she wanted to hold that sign and beg people for money to be her job!
Who by the way was so uncomfortable but he literally pushed her onto the corner of the street.
ytdramaqueen wrote:That video was hard to watch. I saw it a few mins after upload and I honestly thought he was gonna kill himself live on video. OBVIOUSLY I didn't want to see that. He seemed really emotionally unstable...
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My husband overheard me listening to it and said the same thing!
