HelloSweetie wrote:They are so clueless. They started off with an audience that included the infertility community. Think if it as a support group Jared! Are you going to get pregnant and go complain to THOSE people about how hard it is? That would be insensitive and in poor taste. He can't really be surprised that some people are annoyed.
I think that's how Youtubers are. I don't watch yt videos as much as I used to. It's painful because nearly all of the "IF" and miscarriage people I followed in the beginning when they were real. (Background on me I've been ttc for almost 12 years with my ex we had two stillbirths and I have infertility issues he and I also had a failed adoption. With my husband we had a failed adoption of twin girls)
One family I watched (don't go watch them their nuts) got married in 2011. In 2013 they found out he had IF issues and they started talking about adoption. She wasn't ready yet and when she was snap like that a baby sort of fell in their laps. He was a minister at a mega church and it so happened a family whose daughter was nearly due came in and their prayer request was to find an adoptive family for the baby girl. Surprise they picked them. Their daughter Kinsley was born in June 2015. So when she was about 8 months old in Feb 2016 they make a video titled "Infertility still hurts" she's crying because she's not pregnant. During filming the entire time Kinsley is sitting in her high chair in the background. I mean how sick and insensitive is that? I get you want more kids but your baby is still a baby! Many videos you see her depressed over not being pregnant and I get pregnancy is a wonderful gift but being a mom period with a living child is a whole lot better than pregnancy. So that fall they adopted a second daughter. They made an over the top dramatic video about what not to say to adoptive families. And the first part of the video Alex is like "this isn't directed at any of you guys!" Then later she's like I've seen this in the comments. Ok who do you think is making those comments?! They've been trying IVF and I'm not sure when they really started the process.
They even talked about entering the Jared and Ellie IVF contest. Ok you have two kids now to me having IF and having two stillbirths has made me have compassion on those who do not have. Why try to potentially win something when you've already have two kids and most couples entering do not?
Get this they've started a "Charity" to support people going through adoptions, infertility and child loss. Which is nice. But honestly there are tons of foundations out there that focus on those things. And he's quit his job to run things. She is a nurse but only works a few shifts. They've admitted they use donations for personal expenses/income.
One thing that struck me as innapropriate and insensitive was they made it a point to take the girls with them to the IF clinic. On more than one occasion they took the girls along with them to the clinic. I mentioned on the board that it wasn't a good idea to take them there (out of respect for the other patients who are going through a lot) yes the clinic had separate enterences for families and a waiting room still. Sure enough one day something happened and a couple walked through and the sight of them with two under two in an IVF clinic and of course they felt bad but honestly how do you not realize how inappropriate that is to bring a toddler and an infant with you to an IVF clinic for treatment?
Alex worships Ellie telling her "I look up to you!"
Then there's another who went into a fertility clinic at 20 years old and only ttc for 10 months for treatment. Her videos are nuts. They didn't start out that way.
