alym0326 wrote:meganshay wrote:alym0326 wrote:The point ISNT about whether or not it was actually a dirty diaper... It was that he told her he had one and her response to him saying that was "I will change you in the morning"... Why would she let him go to bed on the assumption that it WAS in fact a dirty diaper...
Also I know that being a mother and watching children are two different experiences, but I don't think that should change the validity of our opinions...
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I don't think it's a mom vs non-mom thing. I think it's a 'do you think his diaper was dirty?' or not thing. I really don't see any of the vloggers I watch, including those I don't like, purposefully leaving their kid in a dirty diaper. I'm 99.9% sure it wasn't dirty and she knows her kids enough to know he was saying he went so he could stay up later/see what Olivia was doing/get more snuggles.
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Agree to disagree but I'm basing my opinion off of what was said and shown in the vlog, not an assumption about who Bonnie is as a mother. My opinion has nothing to do with "was it dirty" or not, her response formed my opinion.
And with youmustbecrazy, I agree with you that no one cares. The only reason myself and usmelllikesnow stated that we work with children is because this isn't the first occasion where after we've stated our opinion someone has said something to the effect of "are you a mother" or "when you have children your opinion might change". We were simply just defending our opinion with a fact of our "knowledge and experience".
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Ok. I'll bite. No, you don't need to be a mother to know common sense parenting things. Yes, as a professional child provider you probably know a lot more than many mothers. At the same time, as Westwuff said, it's a spectrum.
That said, I think the mother thing comes up here time and time again because Bonnie gets called out for pretty much anything these days by the same few people and sometimes the things are actually very normal. On any other board people will agree to disagree, but not this one.
Alym, I like you and value your opinion, but this wouldn't have gone downhill like it did it if you had just clarified from the beginning that you didn't mean to imply a care provider is the same as a parent. You were offended yesterday by a comment, and this is the same thing.
Guys, can we drop this now? The kids are busy enjoying the holidays and don't want to come babysit. We are big girls