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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby tratra58 » Tue Aug 09, 2016 2:35 am

Denlillehavfrue wrote:One of the reasons i watch vloggers is because I like seeing how different families are. One thing in my family is that kids never go to funerals. Everyone in my family is weirdly against it. I like seeing other families approach to what age is appropriate for kids and such. They clearly showed them everything.

also not to laugh at a very sad situation, but Joel being slightly irritated when cody said "she died?" and him being like "thats what passed away means" made me laugh, so much innocence in children.

It is interesting to see how they look at passing away as a celebration of their life. As kids we didn’t attend funerals either.

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Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby formerctfxcer » Tue Aug 09, 2016 2:41 am

I won't be watching. My own grandmother's death is too fresh and personally, I would have hated someone filming at her funeral. Just my personal opinion. I don't hate Bonnie for doing it, just isn't what I would have done or wanted someone to do in the same situation.

ETA: I remember people praising E+J for their vlog about his grandpa's funeral. I thought it was inappropriate then and I still do. Different strokes for different folks, I guess.
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby RootBeerFloatie » Tue Aug 09, 2016 4:37 am

I don't think it's the same as celebrity funerals because those people chose to live their lives in the spotlight, while grandma didn't. I think it all hinges on how okay the deceased would personally be with being filmed. I would think probably not so much, but I didn't know her personally so that's not my call.

I still do think the best way to handle it would be talking about it after, because turning on a camera at a funeral would just seem very rude to me.
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby beachygirly » Tue Aug 09, 2016 4:40 am

I would have preferred if Bonnie didn't show the casket at all, but what she did show wasn't that bad. I've seen people on Instagram and Facebook post pictures of the entire open casket which is VERY disrespectful. So what she showed could have been a lot worse. I was just paying attention to the sweet moment of Joel holding his children and remembering the life of his grandmother. I didn't even pay attention how much of the casket was visible.
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby WheresMyCoffee » Tue Aug 09, 2016 9:11 am

Greys Encyclopedia wrote:Wow, okay. Let's put words in my mouth.

1. I said I expected 10 min of the funeral service, not less than a min based on everyone's freak out here. Yes I see a difference, if you don't, whatever. (You know differing opinions, those things are allowed here)

2. Funeral footage and child exploitation are 100000000% different. A creep isn't going to go watch a funeral video to get off. Don't even fucking try to compare that shit. I haven't commented on my thoughts about bath footage because it's said a billion times by other posters. 2 seconds or 200 seconds, bath/potty footage is wrong but we can discuss that in the MO section where it belongs.

After rereading your post, and mine, several times I'm still trying to find where you came up with the child exploitation comment.


I will never ever in my life understand why people get so worked up about comments from strangers on the internet. Seriously, you don't need to be rude or get worked up. (Also, you state sarcastically " differing opinions, those things are allowed here" but then tell me "dont even fucking try to compare..." so you are telling me I am not allowed to have my own opinion. Though I do agree with you potty/bath shots should never be allowed, please dont tell me what I am allowed or not allowed to think) My point was I dont understand why the amount of time something is shown matters. She showed Joels grandmother in her casket. Granted it was a quick shot and not showing the face but she still showed it, so I am asking WHY that is OK? That is a private moment, regardless of how her religion celebrates it. Joels family doesnt like being on youtube so how do the children of the deceased feel, the other grandchildren? etc... I just think it was a very strange moment to want to capture for youtube. I am not comparing funeral footage to naked children I was pointing out flawed logic in the "amount of time" something is shown.
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby HelloSweetie » Tue Aug 09, 2016 9:28 am

WheresMyCoffee wrote:
Greys Encyclopedia wrote:Wow, okay. Let's put words in my mouth.

1. I said I expected 10 min of the funeral service, not less than a min based on everyone's freak out here. Yes I see a difference, if you don't, whatever. (You know differing opinions, those things are allowed here)

2. Funeral footage and child exploitation are 100000000% different. A creep isn't going to go watch a funeral video to get off. Don't even fucking try to compare that shit. I haven't commented on my thoughts about bath footage because it's said a billion times by other posters. 2 seconds or 200 seconds, bath/potty footage is wrong but we can discuss that in the MO section where it belongs.

After rereading your post, and mine, several times I'm still trying to find where you came up with the child exploitation comment.


I will never ever in my life understand why people get so worked up about comments from strangers on the internet. Seriously, you don't need to be rude or get worked up. (Also, you state sarcastically " differing opinions, those things are allowed here" but then tell me "dont even fucking try to compare..." so you are telling me I am not allowed to have my own opinion. Though I do agree with you potty/bath shots should never be allowed, please dont tell me what I am allowed or not allowed to think) My point was I dont understand why the amount of time something is shown matters. She showed Joels grandmother in her casket. Granted it was a quick shot and not showing the face but she still showed it, so I am asking WHY that is OK? That is a private moment, regardless of how her religion celebrates it. Joels family doesnt like being on youtube so how do the children of the deceased feel, the other grandchildren? etc... I just think it was a very strange moment to want to capture for youtube. I am not comparing funeral footage to naked children I was pointing out flawed logic in the "amount of time" something is shown.


I think the issue is that you are comparing apples to oranges and just using child exploitation to pad your argument and outrage. Showing funeral footage may be shocking and insensitive to some, but it's not hurting anyone like naked footage can. Sorry, but in this case I do feel the amount of time shown is relevant because it is a quick clip where you can maybe see her hand. This is NOT going to have the same effect as a picture of her laid out in the open casket as a thumbnail. It was tastefully done IMO. I understand others don't agree, and that's fine, but is it a level 10 on the outrageous scale like some people are making it seem? Definitely not IMO.
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby Greys Encyclopedia » Tue Aug 09, 2016 9:35 am

WheresMyCoffee wrote:
I will never ever in my life understand why people get so worked up about comments from strangers on the internet. Seriously, you don't need to be rude or get worked up. (Also, you state sarcastically " differing opinions, those things are allowed here" but then tell me "dont even fucking try to compare..." so you are telling me I am not allowed to have my own opinion. Though I do agree with you potty/bath shots should never be allowed, please dont tell me what I am allowed or not allowed to think) My point was I dont understand why the amount of time something is shown matters. She showed Joels grandmother in her casket. Granted it was a quick shot and not showing the face but she still showed it, so I am asking WHY that is OK? That is a private moment, regardless of how her religion celebrates it. Joels family doesnt like being on youtube so how do the children of the deceased feel, the other grandchildren? etc... I just think it was a very strange moment to want to capture for youtube. I am not comparing funeral footage to naked children I was pointing out flawed logic in the "amount of time" something is shown.


Lol, you can't compare child exploitation and a small clip of a funeral shown. You say you don't understand why people get worked up over comments on the Internet yet you tried saying I would be okay with 59 seconds of child exploitation but 62 seconds is over the line....no, not even close to what I said so I got bitchy, I don't play that shit.

I did not shoot down your opinion, one seriously CANNOT compare a clip of a funeral to bath/potty footage. People get off to bath/potty footage. While I'm sure some people have a weird thing about funerals too, it's not hurting anyone imo.

ETA: I missed the last sentence of your post. That's not how it came across to me. To me, I see a difference with time shown of certain things. I can't think of any examples as I'm watching a 2 year old right now.
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby Kryptonite » Tue Aug 09, 2016 9:39 am

WheresMyCoffee wrote:
Greys Encyclopedia wrote:Wow, okay. Let's put words in my mouth.

1. I said I expected 10 min of the funeral service, not less than a min based on everyone's freak out here. Yes I see a difference, if you don't, whatever. (You know differing opinions, those things are allowed here)

2. Funeral footage and child exploitation are 100000000% different. A creep isn't going to go watch a funeral video to get off. Don't even fucking try to compare that shit. I haven't commented on my thoughts about bath footage because it's said a billion times by other posters. 2 seconds or 200 seconds, bath/potty footage is wrong but we can discuss that in the MO section where it belongs.

After rereading your post, and mine, several times I'm still trying to find where you came up with the child exploitation comment.


I will never ever in my life understand why people get so worked up about comments from strangers on the internet. Seriously, you don't need to be rude or get worked up. (Also, you state sarcastically " differing opinions, those things are allowed here" but then tell me "dont even fucking try to compare..." so you are telling me I am not allowed to have my own opinion. Though I do agree with you potty/bath shots should never be allowed, please dont tell me what I am allowed or not allowed to think) My point was I dont understand why the amount of time something is shown matters. She showed Joels grandmother in her casket. Granted it was a quick shot and not showing the face but she still showed it, so I am asking WHY that is OK? That is a private moment, regardless of how her religion celebrates it. Joels family doesnt like being on youtube so how do the children of the deceased feel, the other grandchildren? etc... I just think it was a very strange moment to want to capture for youtube. I am not comparing funeral footage to naked children I was pointing out flawed logic in the "amount of time" something is shown.


Deepest apologies. I didn't know we oppressed you...

In all seriousness, you've been around for a while, coffee. You know you're able to (and have) state(d) your opinion.

This debate so comes down to personal opinion.

This board really needs to learn how to accept both the unpopular and popular opinion. No one seems to want to give a little here. It's exhausting to read the constant debating.


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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby tratra58 » Tue Aug 09, 2016 11:00 am

Kryptonite wrote:
WheresMyCoffee wrote:
Greys Encyclopedia wrote:Wow, okay. Let's put words in my mouth.

1. I said I expected 10 min of the funeral service, not less than a min based on everyone's freak out here. Yes I see a difference, if you don't, whatever. (You know differing opinions, those things are allowed here)

2. Funeral footage and child exploitation are 100000000% different. A creep isn't going to go watch a funeral video to get off. Don't even fucking try to compare that shit. I haven't commented on my thoughts about bath footage because it's said a billion times by other posters. 2 seconds or 200 seconds, bath/potty footage is wrong but we can discuss that in the MO section where it belongs.

After rereading your post, and mine, several times I'm still trying to find where you came up with the child exploitation comment.


I will never ever in my life understand why people get so worked up about comments from strangers on the internet. Seriously, you don't need to be rude or get worked up. (Also, you state sarcastically " differing opinions, those things are allowed here" but then tell me "dont even fucking try to compare..." so you are telling me I am not allowed to have my own opinion. Though I do agree with you potty/bath shots should never be allowed, please dont tell me what I am allowed or not allowed to think) My point was I dont understand why the amount of time something is shown matters. She showed Joels grandmother in her casket. Granted it was a quick shot and not showing the face but she still showed it, so I am asking WHY that is OK? That is a private moment, regardless of how her religion celebrates it. Joels family doesnt like being on youtube so how do the children of the deceased feel, the other grandchildren? etc... I just think it was a very strange moment to want to capture for youtube. I am not comparing funeral footage to naked children I was pointing out flawed logic in the "amount of time" something is shown.


Other than a few stronger opinions, I think for the most part there is respect for each others message. Who is the moderator here?

Deepest apologies. I didn't know we oppressed you...

In all seriousness, you've been around for a while, coffee. You know you're able to (and have) state(d) your opinion.

This debate so comes down to personal opinion.

This board really needs to learn how to accept both the unpopular and popular opinion. No one seems to want to give a little here. It's exhausting to read the constant debating.


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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby tratra58 » Tue Aug 09, 2016 11:00 am

Kryptonite wrote:
WheresMyCoffee wrote:
Greys Encyclopedia wrote:Wow, okay. Let's put words in my mouth.

1. I said I expected 10 min of the funeral service, not less than a min based on everyone's freak out here. Yes I see a difference, if you don't, whatever. (You know differing opinions, those things are allowed here)

2. Funeral footage and child exploitation are 100000000% different. A creep isn't going to go watch a funeral video to get off. Don't even fucking try to compare that shit. I haven't commented on my thoughts about bath footage because it's said a billion times by other posters. 2 seconds or 200 seconds, bath/potty footage is wrong but we can discuss that in the MO section where it belongs.

After rereading your post, and mine, several times I'm still trying to find where you came up with the child exploitation comment.


I will never ever in my life understand why people get so worked up about comments from strangers on the internet. Seriously, you don't need to be rude or get worked up. (Also, you state sarcastically " differing opinions, those things are allowed here" but then tell me "dont even fucking try to compare..." so you are telling me I am not allowed to have my own opinion. Though I do agree with you potty/bath shots should never be allowed, please dont tell me what I am allowed or not allowed to think) My point was I dont understand why the amount of time something is shown matters. She showed Joels grandmother in her casket. Granted it was a quick shot and not showing the face but she still showed it, so I am asking WHY that is OK? That is a private moment, regardless of how her religion celebrates it. Joels family doesnt like being on youtube so how do the children of the deceased feel, the other grandchildren? etc... I just think it was a very strange moment to want to capture for youtube. I am not comparing funeral footage to naked children I was pointing out flawed logic in the "amount of time" something is shown.


Other than a few stronger opinions, I think for the most part there is respect for each others message. Who is the moderator here?

Deepest apologies. I didn't know we oppressed you...

In all seriousness, you've been around for a while, coffee. You know you're able to (and have) state(d) your opinion.

This debate so comes down to personal opinion.

This board really needs to learn how to accept both the unpopular and popular opinion. No one seems to want to give a little here. It's exhausting to read the constant debating.


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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby Kryptonite » Tue Aug 09, 2016 11:02 am

tratra58 wrote:
Kryptonite wrote:
WheresMyCoffee wrote:[quote="Greys Encyclopedia"]Wow, okay. Let's put words in my mouth.

1. I said I expected 10 min of the funeral service, not less than a min based on everyone's freak out here. Yes I see a difference, if you don't, whatever. (You know differing opinions, those things are allowed here)

2. Funeral footage and child exploitation are 100000000% different. A creep isn't going to go watch a funeral video to get off. Don't even fucking try to compare that shit. I haven't commented on my thoughts about bath footage because it's said a billion times by other posters. 2 seconds or 200 seconds, bath/potty footage is wrong but we can discuss that in the MO section where it belongs.

After rereading your post, and mine, several times I'm still trying to find where you came up with the child exploitation comment.


I will never ever in my life understand why people get so worked up about comments from strangers on the internet. Seriously, you don't need to be rude or get worked up. (Also, you state sarcastically " differing opinions, those things are allowed here" but then tell me "dont even fucking try to compare..." so you are telling me I am not allowed to have my own opinion. Though I do agree with you potty/bath shots should never be allowed, please dont tell me what I am allowed or not allowed to think) My point was I dont understand why the amount of time something is shown matters. She showed Joels grandmother in her casket. Granted it was a quick shot and not showing the face but she still showed it, so I am asking WHY that is OK? That is a private moment, regardless of how her religion celebrates it. Joels family doesnt like being on youtube so how do the children of the deceased feel, the other grandchildren? etc... I just think it was a very strange moment to want to capture for youtube. I am not comparing funeral footage to naked children I was pointing out flawed logic in the "amount of time" something is shown.


Other than a few stronger opinions, I think for the most part there is respect for each others message. Who is the moderator here?

Deepest apologies. I didn't know we oppressed you...

In all seriousness, you've been around for a while, coffee. You know you're able to (and have) state(d) your opinion.

This debate so comes down to personal opinion.

This board really needs to learn how to accept both the unpopular and popular opinion. No one seems to want to give a little here. It's exhausting to read the constant debating.


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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby tratra58 » Tue Aug 09, 2016 11:29 am

Other than a few stronger opinions, I think for the most part there is respect for each others message. Who is the moderator here?

Deepest apologies. I didn't know we oppressed you...

In all seriousness, you've been around for a while, coffee. You know you're able to (and have) state(d) your opinion.

This debate so comes down to personal opinion.

This board really needs to learn how to accept both the unpopular and popular opinion. No one seems to want to give a little here. It's exhausting to read the constant debating.


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I had thought this was a respectful board, there are broad or opposing views which is common in any message posting board and again I see those who respectfully disagree. As a new person posting messages, I am wondering why
a person would moderates a board when "It's exhausting to read the constant debating." The above message were all sarcastic which includes yours. You could have tactfully said to all you should agree to disagree and remember to respect others messages when responding.
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby Kryptonite » Tue Aug 09, 2016 11:58 am

I'll admit that my post was sarcastic because this is a daily issue with this board.

I tactfully ask people to agree to disagree daily. I still receive messages about these debates and read posts in other sections about certain users and it's tiring. This board isn't the only board the moderators need to moderate. I shouldn't have to remind people daily to move on.

I've been a moderator for a few years now, you have sixty eight posts. At some point, you'll grow tired of it too.

I've set up separate sections on this board to allow all discussions to take place. I have messaged users, I've warned users, etc. I'm generally a very respectful person who is happy to help in anyway I can but at this point, there's not a whole lot more I can do.

Example: I could ban you for boxing a moderator but I won't.

If you feel the need to comment on my moderating, you're welcome to message me or another moderator.



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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby WheresMyCoffee » Tue Aug 09, 2016 12:16 pm

I will never ever in my life understand why people get so worked up about comments from strangers on the internet. Seriously, you don't need to be rude or get worked up. (Also, you state sarcastically " differing opinions, those things are allowed here" but then tell me "dont even fucking try to compare..." so you are telling me I am not allowed to have my own opinion. Though I do agree with you potty/bath shots should never be allowed, please dont tell me what I am allowed or not allowed to think) My point was I dont understand why the amount of time something is shown matters. She showed Joels grandmother in her casket. Granted it was a quick shot and not showing the face but she still showed it, so I am asking WHY that is OK? That is a private moment, regardless of how her religion celebrates it. Joels family doesnt like being on youtube so how do the children of the deceased feel, the other grandchildren? etc... I just think it was a very strange moment to want to capture for youtube. I am not comparing funeral footage to naked children I was pointing out flawed logic in the "amount of time" something is shown.[/quote]

Deepest apologies. I didn't know we oppressed you...

In all seriousness, you've been around for a while, coffee. You know you're able to (and have) state(d) your opinion.

This debate so comes down to personal opinion.

This board really needs to learn how to accept both the unpopular and popular opinion. No one seems to want to give a little here. It's exhausting to read the constant debating.


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I totally accept differences of opinion. I dont think it was the worst of the worst and I stated so in one of my original posts, I even said considering how distasteful filming a funeral is... she did it as tasteful as possible if that even makes sense. I dont care if people dont agree with my point but acting like an ass doesnt make anyone elses points more valid. Like, we're all adults let's just discuss things as such.
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby ladymama » Tue Aug 09, 2016 12:30 pm

I get tired of the repetitive back and forth, too. I stated my opinion. Once. Anyone who wants to know it, can read it. No point in repeating it with a small twist numerous times.

Chances are, we aren't going to change each others mind. The fun part is having different opinions and a chance to discuss.

Having to read "I'm right!" "NO I'm right!" kinda sucks some of the fun out.

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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby WheresMyCoffee » Tue Aug 09, 2016 12:33 pm

HelloSweetie wrote:
WheresMyCoffee wrote:
Greys Encyclopedia wrote:Wow, okay. Let's put words in my mouth.

1. I said I expected 10 min of the funeral service, not less than a min based on everyone's freak out here. Yes I see a difference, if you don't, whatever. (You know differing opinions, those things are allowed here)

2. Funeral footage and child exploitation are 100000000% different. A creep isn't going to go watch a funeral video to get off. Don't even fucking try to compare that shit. I haven't commented on my thoughts about bath footage because it's said a billion times by other posters. 2 seconds or 200 seconds, bath/potty footage is wrong but we can discuss that in the MO section where it belongs.

After rereading your post, and mine, several times I'm still trying to find where you came up with the child exploitation comment.


I will never ever in my life understand why people get so worked up about comments from strangers on the internet. Seriously, you don't need to be rude or get worked up. (Also, you state sarcastically " differing opinions, those things are allowed here" but then tell me "dont even fucking try to compare..." so you are telling me I am not allowed to have my own opinion. Though I do agree with you potty/bath shots should never be allowed, please dont tell me what I am allowed or not allowed to think) My point was I dont understand why the amount of time something is shown matters. She showed Joels grandmother in her casket. Granted it was a quick shot and not showing the face but she still showed it, so I am asking WHY that is OK? That is a private moment, regardless of how her religion celebrates it. Joels family doesnt like being on youtube so how do the children of the deceased feel, the other grandchildren? etc... I just think it was a very strange moment to want to capture for youtube. I am not comparing funeral footage to naked children I was pointing out flawed logic in the "amount of time" something is shown.


I think the issue is that you are comparing apples to oranges and just using child exploitation to pad your argument and outrage. Showing funeral footage may be shocking and insensitive to some, but it's not hurting anyone like naked footage can. Sorry, but in this case I do feel the amount of time shown is relevant because it is a quick clip where you can maybe see her hand. This is NOT going to have the same effect as a picture of her laid out in the open casket as a thumbnail. It was tastefully done IMO. I understand others don't agree, and that's fine, but is it a level 10 on the outrageous scale like some people are making it seem? Definitely not IMO.



Oh totally. I didnt mean to make it seem like I was comparing funeral and naked children. I was just trying to say I dont understand why the amount of time matters, like to me, the footage shown is what matters regardless of the amount of time. I used children because it is a hot topic (which I agree with, children should never ever be shown in their diapers or the bath tub etc) I do agree that the footage was as tasteful as can be, though I still wish she had not filmed it. I appreciated Joels opinion and perspective on his Grandmas death and I do like how they dont throw their religion down peoples thorats. Anyway, I do understand why my example annoyed people and I apologize for that. I am always open for people calling me out or disagreeing with me I just dont see the need to be an ass so I appreciate that you weren't. HA.
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby Kryptonite » Tue Aug 09, 2016 12:34 pm

ladymama wrote:I get tired of the repetitive back and forth, too. I stated my opinion. Once. Anyone who wants to know it, can read it. No point in repeating it with a small twist numerous times.

Chances are, we aren't going to change each others mind. The fun part is having different opinions and a chance to discuss.

Having to read "I'm right!" "NO I'm right!" kinda sucks some of the fun out.

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Coffee not all of that post was directed toward only you. It's multiple people. You usually aren't one of the ones I'm referring to.

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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby tratra58 » Tue Aug 09, 2016 12:36 pm

ladymama wrote:I get tired of the repetitive back and forth, too. I stated my opinion. Once. Anyone who wants to know it, can read it. No point in repeating it with a small twist numerous times.

Chances are, we aren't going to change each others mind. The fun part is having different opinions and a chance to discuss.

Having to read "I'm right!" "NO I'm right!" kinda sucks some of the fun out.

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Well, it probably does get repetitive at times which is the nature of lots of people posting and a good thing to have an active board. I have changed my outlook or mind when someone points something out so yes it is possible.
But a new vlog comes out frequent enough that the topic changes rather quickly.
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby Kryptonite » Tue Aug 09, 2016 12:44 pm

tratra58 wrote:
ladymama wrote:I get tired of the repetitive back and forth, too. I stated my opinion. Once. Anyone who wants to know it, can read it. No point in repeating it with a small twist numerous times.

Chances are, we aren't going to change each others mind. The fun part is having different opinions and a chance to discuss.

Having to read "I'm right!" "NO I'm right!" kinda sucks some of the fun out.

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Well, it probably does get repetitive at times which is the nature of lots of people posting and a good thing to have an active board. I have changed my outlook or mind when someone points something out so yes it is possible.
But a new vlog comes out frequent enough that the topic changes rather quickly.

I don't mind repetitive posts because many people share the same opinion. It's the debating. You can only have the same debate so many times.

When I see one starting to form, I cringe and immediately try to stop it because that will be the board "we're bored we need a discussion topic" for the next few months.

Does that make sense? I'm happy to read the discussions and read different opinions. I only have an issue with the "my opinion is superior" mentality. That's what keeps the debates going.

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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby Greys Encyclopedia » Tue Aug 09, 2016 12:52 pm

Coffee, I see what you mean now. I'm sorry I didn't see it that way as your intentions were unclear to me. That topic just pisses me off when it's brought up everyday whether potty footage is shown or not.

I apologize for my freak out. I tend to do that once a month or so
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby westwuff » Tue Aug 09, 2016 1:32 pm

A great option if a discussion between two users goes on for more that a couple of posts back and forth, is to continue it via pm.
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby WheresMyCoffee » Tue Aug 09, 2016 4:39 pm

Greys Encyclopedia wrote:Coffee, I see what you mean now. I'm sorry I didn't see it that way as your intentions were unclear to me. That topic just pisses me off when it's brought up everyday whether potty footage is shown or not.

I apologize for my freak out. I tend to do that once a month or so


Thanks! I am sorry I wasnt clear in my original post.
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby chachismemories1 » Tue Aug 09, 2016 4:40 pm

Our main reasons for choosing if our children attend a funeral is based on the relationship between the person that has passed and our children. They attended my Grandma's funeral because she was their grandma and a big influence in their lives. We wanted them to be able to say goodbye and we were very open and honest with what we believe happens after you die. But we also attended a family friend's funeral who the kids never met. So we got a babysitter. I personally felt uncomfortable with the clips at the funeral but appreciated Joel's words and wished they would have just filmed in the car of them sharing their feelings, maybe telling a few favorite memories with Grandma. I think funerals are a very private occasion and people deserve to grieve surrounded by family and friend not the whole world.
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby saltliferocks » Tue Aug 09, 2016 5:03 pm

I don't really have a strong opinion about filming funerals, but I love the idea of celebrating someone's life vs. a traditional funeral.
Exception is bringing small children to a baby's funeral.. Trust me when I say that it is very difficult on the parents to hear a baby cry at their baby's funeral.
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Re: Bonnie and Joel: Don't Call Me Bud - Part 5

Postby alexandriablue » Wed Aug 10, 2016 8:54 am

Sort of off topic but just wondering since I don't have kids - are incoming kindergarteners expected to know their alphabet already?
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