DP- no, but Bryan mentioned Jeff taking care of them while they were at Disneyland. So they're still around.usernamessuck wrote:We haven't seen the chicks since before Ollie's b day party right?
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I can't help but feel as if Missy was somewhat happy to get pregnant with Ollie, that was her chance at a girl. I hope they never have a girl. The way bryan calls zuri "baby girl" seriously disgust me. Once they get that girl they will just toss their other children to the side since they have the child Missy had a "bond" with.gmaesemail wrote:So I've never really read any of missy's blogs, so I had to look it up and wow. This was her first reaction to Gabriel being a boy. She thought she lost the 'connection' with him because she was so sure her first would
I hope she doesnt either just because finn and any other boy she has until she gets her girl will be treated like crap. I guess ollie will always be her miracle child so he gets a pass. But any other boys are out of luck!hey girl hey007 wrote:I can't help but feel as if Missy was somewhat happy to get pregnant with Ollie, that was her chance at a girl. I hope they never have a girl. The way bryan calls zuri "baby girl" seriously disgust me. Once they get that girl they will just toss their other children to the side since they have the child Missy had a "bond" with.gmaesemail wrote:So I've never really read any of missy's blogs, so I had to look it up and wow. This was her first reaction to Gabriel being a boy. She thought she lost the 'connection' with him because she was so sure her first would
It's crazy isn't it? I always wanted a girl but for some reason when i fell pregnant the first time I felt it was a boy. What did I do? Mourn the loss of a baby I never got to meet. I even thought my daughter (3rd pregnancy but first birth) was going to be a boy and I was shocked when I found out it was a girl (I had secretly wanted a girl but when you're a TTC mumma any gender you're grateful for). She's 4 and my only onePingupingu2 wrote:Wow...I cannot believe she felt this way...I though if you have trouble ttcing/ staying pregnant the gender is the least thing you think about. At least thats my case. I cannot believe she "lost the connection" with the baby justvbecause it was a boy. Pretty mean.
My thoughts exactly. I have two girls, one who is 3 years old and another, my angel baby, who I lost at 23 weeks due to a lethal heart defect. All I wanted both pregnancies was a healthy baby. Now I'm pregnant again and people are already saying "I bet you want a boy." And my response is always, "I just want a healthy baby."Pingupingu2 wrote:Wow...I cannot believe she felt this way...I though if you have trouble ttcing/ staying pregnant the gender is the least thing you think about. At least thats my case. I cannot believe she "lost the connection" with the baby justvbecause it was a boy. Pretty mean.
So sorry for your losses. I think it's natural to have some preference, but to be that upset when she found out she was having a boy was baffling.CypKitty wrote:It's crazy isn't it? I always wanted a girl but for some reason when i fell pregnant the first time I felt it was a boy. What did I do? Mourn the loss of a baby I never got to meet. I even thought my daughter (3rd pregnancy but first birth) was going to be a boy and I was shocked when I found out it was a girl (I had secretly wanted a girl but when you're a TTC mumma any gender you're grateful for). She's 4 and my only onePingupingu2 wrote:Wow...I cannot believe she felt this way...I though if you have trouble ttcing/ staying pregnant the gender is the least thing you think about. At least thats my case. I cannot believe she "lost the connection" with the baby justvbecause it was a boy. Pretty mean.
Missy should be damn grateful
she had a wrap bandage from where the IV was.workfromhomemom wrote:I swear I heard missy say something about Zuri's feet on the video today. Did anyone else catch this or maybe I heard her incorrectly? I think it was before Bryan announced she was spayed.
I can somewhat related with the gender disappointment. I have 3 girls (who I love) but I was so hopping that my 3rd baby was going to be a boy. When I found out it was a girl I cried. It wasn't till after she was born that I started to be ok with her being a girl and not a boy.nmkstj wrote:Gender disappointment is a real thing that a lot of moms feel. It causes significant guilt and depression on moms because they know it's a taboo thing to feel (the stigma surrounding it is unreal). In my career I've worked with hundreds of pregnant moms and I see it literally all the time.
I know it's easy to hate Missy for it because of how we feel about her and the family in general, but it is something that is way more common than you'd think: with regular moms, moms that have had difficulty conceiving, and moms that have had losses. And Finley was her fourth rodeo hoping for a girl. She had nearly every person in the comment sections telling her they hope she's having a girl, nearly every family member at the gender reveal guessed that it's a girl, and frankly I don't think the gender reveal party was a healthy way for her to find out the gender at all, given her gender disappointment previously. I think they felt they needed to do it for the views and to keep up with other youtubers (cough, Ellie and Jared) who had made special gender reveal videos.
I see she loves Ollie. I see she loves Finley. Maybe when/if she gets her girl she'll throw her boys to the wayside and I'll be catty about it then, but personally, I sympathise with her here because I know just how many moms get gender disappointment and are able to process and handle it in their own minds, not in the public eye where they are constantly shamed for something that is so common.
I genuinely apologise for your struggles, wholeheartedly. But there was a discussion here talking about how disgusted people are at Missy for her gender disappointment, her posts on her blog and her disappointment in videos. It's relevant because anything regarding dailybumps can be discussed here and I'm allowed to play the devils advocate to that and explain how common it is (because it is VERY commonCgl33 wrote:Can I suggest that if you want to debate, defend, or tell stories about gender disappointment, that you do it in a different part of the board? I'm not a mod and I am not trying to control the discussion, but I have gone through years of infertility as well as loss. I personally have a very strong (and not nice) reaction to this topic and I know there are other posters on here who have gone through loss and infertility and probably do too. I know some posters found Missy's channel because of loss.
), whether or not you personally dislike the topic. If anyone DOES want more information on the topic (as the poster above asked) you can find hundreds of support groups and peer reviewed articles on the topic. It has been studied and is usually covered in nursing courses at some point.
