DecemberEm wrote:I think it's a bit unfair to judge mothers for not being "maternal" enough. Not every one is naturally, but that doesn't mean they can't make great mothers. I would absolutely say I am not the most maternal mother ever, but my kids are VERY much loved, and well taken care of. I am not good at playing pretend. I'm just not. It doesn't come naturally, and I am positive I look super awkward while doing it, but I try. And so does Vanessa, and that's what counts. I'm glad my son can talk and have actual conversations now, because I really struggled to talk to him during the day when he was a baby. I know how important it is to talk to babies, but it would often slip my mind, and when I was conscious of it, I wouldn't even know what to say. It was tough, but like I said, I tried, and did my best to do something that just wasn't natural for me. I have always wanted to be a mother, but I've never been maternal, and I don't think that makes me a bad mother.
I'm a very maternal mother and I hate pretend playing. I'll do it for my daughter for a few minutes then I'm done. I don't think not play pretending makes you non maternal. Just makes you not a kid.
When I think of a maternal mother I picture affection, empathy, the ability to relate to your kids, a bond both emotional and physical.
I have no doubts that V loves her kids very much she just comes off as a glorified babysitter more than a mother to me.
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