tratra58 wrote:HelloSweetie wrote:I really just think she's that insensitive. I think she's good at saying things a few days later because she's seen how others react and can put on the proper social cues.
You summed it up perfectly on the social cues with Ellie. I never thought about this, but you are right.
Not my first rodeo. There was a time I was a big E&J fan and would defend them against any criticism. Then I started to notice a complete lack of empathy in her, and once I did, it was hard not to notice it time and time again. The empathy for others, and a proper reaction to things just isn't there with her. She's immature, but it goes beyond that.
Bonnie talks about hating her weight...Ellie cuts her off and talks about how hard it is to be thin too.
Ellie gives Bonnie a birthday present... tells the room how it was expensive so she used 1/3 of it.
Missy has a hard and upsetting labour.... Ellie says it was hilarious.
Aunt Sonia is ill in the hospital.... Ellie looks annoyed, bored and disinterested in being there.
Wrinkles dies .... An unaffected Ellie still makes Jared go have a fun dinner at the Hoelleins.
The Mechams have to clean out their family home. .. Ellie acts like it's a party and loud and obnoxiously refers to things as junk.
Aunt Sonia dies... Ellie has a wonderful day!
Jennifer asks Ellie to shave her head... Ellie doesn't mention it to Bonnie at all which causes her to be hurt (Ruby and Beau were there so it was just Bonnie left out).
Jackson hits his head and gets knocked out = family night (no ER visit). Calvin stops breathing AND Jackson hits his head = family night (no ER visit)... Ellie has the sniffles and everyone has to immediately head to urgent care even though it's early and the kids haven't had breakfast.
And many other instances....
My point is, I can sit here and think of so many times where I thought Ellie showed a lack of empathy, or had a cold (or weird) reaction to something, but I cannot think of very many where she had an appropriate one. Nothing that doesn't involve Ellie herself in some way (even indirectly), or her family.