Yogabbagabbat wrote:Mamafirst wrote:So I get why Brit got a lot of criticism for not taking the kids with her to Ohio, but I have seen people mention time and time again that Brits always leaving the kids, she's not breastfeeding Harlow so she can leave all them behind, etc.
One trip was more of a business trip with a breastfeeding infant, one trip was more of a date like trip with Ean and her still young infant, and the other was a trip to see family where she should've/could've taken the older two. Why is that translating to dumping her kids off all the time? I'm curious.
Moms don't have to be attached to their kids for a every thing they want to do themselves. And for someone like Brit who was never, ever without her kids from the time she had Aria to now when she finally has gone on 3 measly trips, I think the responses are a bit much. Before playlist people were literally talking about how Brit needs time to herself, to get time away from the kids cuz she never gets breaks from them, needs to find fun things to do/hobbies etc. and now she actually seems to be doing things that she enjoys, getting out more, along with the kids, shes all the sudden going out too much? I don't quite understand the reaction.
And is bringing your infant with you on date nights really that uncommon? It wasn't for me and a few of my moms friends. It wasn't until closer to one that we'd start to leave our youngest with their sibling(s) so that the sitter wouldn't have to worry about a fussy baby and we didn't have to worry if they were eating okay, etc. I find it hard to believe that others leave their baby for every little outing with their spouse to be "fair" to the others. Taking only Harlow for her birthday trip really did not seem bizarre or wrong to me, she's an baby, it's not like she's going to come back and tell Aria and Nolan all about the fun she has with mommy and daddy.
I'll admit I haven't watched the vlogs as much, so I could have missed a lot, but where is Brit going all the time that she's abandoning her children? Not trying to come off as a 'minion', I like her but I don't feel overly compelled to defend her, and sometimes she a little boring so I don't watch as much or come here as often, but I'm just genuinely curious.
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I'm personally not one of the ones that thought she needed a bunch of vacations for herself. I don't know any moms who do that more than once a year, so it's honestly strange to me. Just being honest..sorry if people feel judged. & It doesn't matter if it makes sense to some people to bring the baby, it most likely doesn't make sense to aria and Nolan. They have been cast aside for Harlow, which is normal with a newish baby, but she is not doing anything to help smooth the transition for them. It's all about whatever Britney wants.
She can't even go to the grocery store with all three kids by herself. Nolan always has an ipad shoved in front of him when he used to be the golden child and get all the attention. I will never understand why she planned Harlow when she could barely cope before she had her.
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I agree that she didn't transition the kids, mostly Nolan, that smoothly when Harlow came around, but I do think Aria is at the age where she may understand a little bit about what's going on. All Britney would have to say is that Harlow is coming with her cuz she is a baby who needs me to eat/comfort more and she'll start to go with them once she's older. My 4 almost 5 year old would get that.
As for the trips, the only one that I could see being more like a vacation would be the Florida trip, but even then it was more for a specific purpose than just going to Florida. And the Ohio thing was pretty strange considering she was going to see family. But otherwise I don't see her making any out of the ordinary trips. Two date nights with Harlow isn't bad. I just disagree that taking trips for yourself, especially being a mother, is inherently a bad thing. I would take plenty more trips/date nights than just 2 or 3 a year if I could. It's healthy to get that time to yourself and regroup. I think as Britney gets older she's probably thinking, crap, all my time is spent with my kids, I can make time to do stuff I haven't all this time.
I think by the time Harlow hits one and she keeps taking her by herself, then it would be fucked up. At that point Harlow doesn't need as much hands on care and will be presumably transitioning off the bottle. She'd be able to leave her at that point.
I think this stage is particularly difficult for her, I wonder if a trip to the grocery store will still be too difficult for her when Harlow is older. I hope not.
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