Personal, so feel free to scroll by: My ex was like Cullen. And he didn't have a vlog to edit. He would stay up until 3am playing on the computer, then wonder why he wasn't getting any nookie. On weekends, it was a battle of attrition who would get up with the kids. All I wanted on Mother's Day was to sleep in. He claimed he didn't hear the kids because he was used to sleeping on a noisy aircraft carrier. I would handle everything while he was on deployment, and when I wanted to go meet him in Hong Kong, on the last cruise before it got turned over to China, he wanted me to bring our 10 month old daughter, or not come. My girlfriends stopped inviting me on girl's night out, because I always had to _ask_ him to watch the kids, and the answer wasn't always be"of course you can go relax with your girlfriends!" So I really get Katie's frustration. There's a lot of reasons he's my ex. I can't imagine having it played out in front of the whole internet. And having a forum dedicated to speculation on our marital problems. And from what I've heard about LSA, we're kind here. Don't even know if they have a forum there, but still... Yes, they have made their bed by vlogging, but so many couples have been destroyed by vlogging. It's really sad. I have to wonder if Shay and Austin would have cheated if they hadn't had the "fame". And I don't think Ellie and Jared would have the same marriage without vlogging. I also have to wonder if Bryan and Missy would even be together if it weren't for the pressure of keeping up the facade. I do give Cullen and Katie props for honesty.HashtagBlessed wrote:Katie and Cullen have a lot more time than most working couples with young children do to focus on each other, along with the resources to pay for optional childcare and lots of willing family members to help, and they apparently don’t use that time effectively. To me that is indicative of a bigger disconnect.boredmamaneedsdrama wrote:I don't personally think Katie is frustrated with Cullen "helping out", because she just doesn't seem like the type to not voice her thoughts. She comes across as a very opinionated woman who will put her foot down and not stand for any bs. I totally see her as the alpha in the relationship.
I also don't believe there is anything more to it than exactly what they said it was. A disconnect because of letting other life stuff take the spotlight whilst the marriage was put on the back burner. It's a completely normal thing to happen to couples and not at all an indication of a bigger issue (eg. cullen takes her for granted, katie tired of his immature behavior and not helping out, ppd, katie secretely wants to go back to work, alcoholism, etc.). I know people like to speculate but in this case I just don't see it because of how normal it is for couples to go through a disconnect during certain times in their marriage, especially after having kids. They just need to put more focus on each other. But I seem to stand alone when it comes to this opinion haha.
I think it’s just easier in their mind to look at the last six months and say, “Well, look at all the traveling we’ve done, look at all the parties we’ve planned, look at the house we moved in to. Surely that’s why we’ve been too busy to connect.” What do any of those things that they identified as the “stress” in their life have to do with marital disconnect? Traveling, moving into your dream home, and planning family member’s birthday parties are highlights for most people, not hardships. They sort of hinted at this, but I would have expected them to focus on the fact that the second child is a harder adjustment than they realized, they’re business partners and their channel is stagnant, etc.
Honestly, if my husband was going to bed after me, spending hours on his computer editing one vlog, not helping put the kids to bed, not helping with them in the morning, etc. I would be done. (This is slightly off topic, but wasn’t Bonnie raising four kids and editing her vlog at night while her husband worked the night shift for like a year? It kills me when vloggers like Cullen try to make the argument that YouTube is just so time consuming.) But that’s just not my marriage and it’s not my reality, so maybe I can’t relate. My husband absolutely listens and acknowledges my needs. I can’t even imagine my husband acting the way Cullen did over getting up early for one measly morning. My husband would move heaven and earth to make me happy, even though he has an extremely demanding schedule. Realistically, I know we can’t always be each other’s one and only priority. But I know that if something is missing, if I’m not feeling appreciated or I need support, I can be honest and he will take it seriously.
I feel like the stuff that Katie has brought up in the vlogs is serious in terms of marriage, and what’s even more serious in my mind is the fact that Cullen seems to brush it off, but that’s just my opinion and based on my experience in a long-term relationship and a marriage. Feeling like your husband is only affectionate with you when there’s an audience? Yikes, that’s a huge red flag, especially when you’ve voiced the fact that touch is your preferred “love language.” Katie may be opinionated, and she is voicing her thoughts, but that doesn’t mean she’s getting a receptive response from her partner.
I'm rambling. Maybe it's cold medicine talking, lol.
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