blackroses wrote:I personally think it should be 50/50. I hate washing dishes and cleaning the house but I'll gladly do the laundry and cook And my boyfriend doesn't seem to mind it at all. We won't be moving in together for a looong time but I know for sure that's how things are gonna turn out and it's great because we all contribute something. but if you "serve" your significant other while they don't do much besides sit on their ass then I suggest rethinking your relationship
I know people are sick of this debate but just have to put my two cents in. I am a woman who enjoys cooking and cleaning and generally running my household. There is the aspect of liking that my husband doesnt need to come home from work and worry about anything and that I have it handled. But it also makes me feel productive and gives me a sense of accomplishment and pride. I think whatever works for a person individually and within their relationship is perfectly okay, and saying a blanket statement like we need to rethink our relationships is judgmental and frankly, offensive. One person doing all of the housework becomes an issue when the two people in that relationship are unhappy with it, and something that works for one relationship wont work for another. If I asked my husband to put on a load of towels and he bitched and moaned about it, there would be a problem. But I currently do 95% of household duties, and when I ask him for a hand he gladly steps in and helps. It works in my relationship and its an arrangement that I enjoy, just like others enjoy 50/50 and it works perfectly.
As for the feminism debate, women are fighting for women to have the right to choose their lifestyles (whether that be a professional women who doesnt want children or a women who wants to do 95% of the housework), and when women start judging other women for their lifestyle choice of taking care of their home and husband, its taking a big step back.
p.s blackroses, that wasnt 100% aimed at you but i didnt want to make two posts.