This is exactly how I feel about that whole situation.thegooseiscooked wrote:Yeah...I was responding to the bit where you asked why she didn't go back to work when she and Derick had money troubles.
Now....? I'm in two minds about it. If my kids suddenly lost contact with their dad like Deacon and Drake did, I'd want to be around 24/7 for them. Not sticking them straight into child care and saying "Too bad, so sad, your dad is an ass and now you're in full time care. Blame him!" I'd do anything I could to be available for them, to be a comfort, to be a sounding board...anything.
However, I would also not be buying top priced organic food and trying to maintain a lifestyle that is not feasible. She lives in a really nice place, it's got to be costing a pretty penny. If they're all sleeping together comfortably, then the place they're renting is a little big. Single moms don't need 3 bedroom houses. "Office"? Work at the freaking dining table.
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She had a job offer for a 9-5 job before but she said the salary wasn't high enough and it wouldn't cover day care. But now I'm wondering after watching the school update on Deacon she said her ex was insisting on picking Deacon up one day and she had to warm the teacher that he is not allowed,she also mentioned that he stole her car once and has done other things to her so just thinking that maybe now she is afraid to be at work all day and he will try to grab one of the kids one day and take off. Also if he is that dangerous she shouldn't have other people's kids in her house. She hasn't mentioned it but if it was me and was doing things like stealing my car I would want a restraing order.
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I'm confused about the "stealing car" thing. When you are married, all property is owned jointly so I'm not sure how he "stole" it? The car was probably also being paid for by him since she was a SAHM without an income.
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ladybug wrote:I'm confused about the "stealing car" thing. When you are married, all property is owned jointly so I'm not sure how he "stole" it? The car was probably also being paid for by him since she was a SAHM without an income.
Im confused by a lot of Jeni's side of the story TBH....some of it just doesn't add up, especially if you've been watching from the very beginning...
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Did he "steal it" when they were still living together? Or after she moved out? Really makes no sense.
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It happened after they got divorced and it was the new car she bought after the divorce.ladybug wrote:I'm confused about the "stealing car" thing. When you are married, all property is owned jointly so I'm not sure how he "stole" it? The car was probably also being paid for by him since she was a SAHM without an income.
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She said it deacons school update video.FLOSSY77 wrote:Where did you hear that?
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Yes. She did say after she left. I think that was her old car. That is why she had to buy the little used car. In one of her ditl before the split, she said he bought a new car. For her I believe. That was a surprise to her and it always seemed weird. I think he was hopped up. I think that is the car he "stole". Probably in his name.
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That could be, since she was talking about divorce I just kind of assumed it was the current car. The things we want more info on she doesn't talk about. .FLOSSY77 wrote:Yes. She did say after she left. I think that was her old car. That is why she had to buy the little used car. In one of her ditl before the split, she said he bought a new car. For her I believe. That was a surprise to her and it always seemed weird. I think he was hopped up. I think that is the car he "stole". Probably in his name.
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Working 9-5 is not that difficult with kids. She needs to do something better then all her "side jobs". She needs a proper job, and she needs to be a good role model for those kids. Rather then sitting on her ass "working hard" at 8 different jobs. Then she wouldn't have the money issues, and could buy shot without having to claim that she's sellinf something to be able to buy something else.thegooseiscooked wrote:I totally disagree with the gofundme. Disgusting.
With regard to working 9-5 whilst the kids are full time at school. It's not that easy and it's something you have to be a mother to understand. Working 9-5 is actually more difficult once they're at school in that you have no flexibility with sick leave, be it theirs or yours. It's bloody hard to expect a young child to spend more time at school after their already full and exhausting day. What to do during school holidays??? That's where I'm going to stop. I'm not offended by your attitude but I also feel your youth and inexperience in it. Agree to disagree. We're approaching this discussion from different angles. I don't think Jeni should go back to 9-5 work. I do think she needs to rethink the way she lives.
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Didn't she say she's working an advertising job at night?? Why doesn't she just do that full time...
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If she got a 9-5 job she would still have to get daycare for after school for the oldest for 2-3 hours, and daycare is expensive. Her youngest would be in all week, plus the extra hours for the oldest. However, she could get some sort of part time job during the week I am sure. Other people do it, people with far less support than she seems to have,
I did enjoy her TAG video though, atleast she is honest even when she thought it "made her look like a bum" I watched the same video done by Naturally Thrifty Mom and she is such an ass, she would ohmygosh nevvvver rerun the dryer or washer and waste such precious energy and her kids dont eat anything with sugar or celebrate holidays so there is no candy to eat, not that she ever would because surely it is poison. Jeni annoys me in alot of ways but I can appreciate her honestly saying she doesnt do the dishes at night or sleeps in pee sheets (although I could never)
I did enjoy her TAG video though, atleast she is honest even when she thought it "made her look like a bum" I watched the same video done by Naturally Thrifty Mom and she is such an ass, she would ohmygosh nevvvver rerun the dryer or washer and waste such precious energy and her kids dont eat anything with sugar or celebrate holidays so there is no candy to eat, not that she ever would because surely it is poison. Jeni annoys me in alot of ways but I can appreciate her honestly saying she doesnt do the dishes at night or sleeps in pee sheets (although I could never)
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Latchkey is much cheaper than daycare.
I work overnights and share a home with family (splitting the mortgage) so I am not using daycare currently, my kids sleep while I'm gone and there is family here for emergencies, but I did have my kids in daycare with a 9-5. Yes, it is expensive but it was necessary and doable. If I can do it, Jeni absolutely can.
I work overnights and share a home with family (splitting the mortgage) so I am not using daycare currently, my kids sleep while I'm gone and there is family here for emergencies, but I did have my kids in daycare with a 9-5. Yes, it is expensive but it was necessary and doable. If I can do it, Jeni absolutely can.
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What does she mean she hasn't been sick in so many years? She keeps saying that be in so many videos she's complained about being sick before these last string of videos.
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She also just said "2-4 extra daycare kids". Is she licensed to be doing this and to be calling it a "daycare"?