BlabberMouth wrote:angelmamma wrote: ↑Fri Feb 07, 2020 11:14 pm
LB2018 wrote:
Omg y’all are killing me I missed it! I have wanted to see the resemblance for so long! You can tell she just look like them by Ayla’s bizarre “she looks like herself” response of passive aggressive denial every time someone asks her if she looks like her biological family.
Ayla is just butthurt because Nova looks like the spitting image of her bio mom and siblings.
Her snarky, rude, and defensive comments are proof. If you cannot accept that your ADOPTED child will resemble who they are genetically related to, DO NOT ADOPT.
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Yup. Ayla is incredibly young and she got caught up and obsessed with conceiving in her late teens and early twenties. Regular adoption never ‘worked out’ because Ayla wants to show off being pregnant. That’s the truth. I don’t think they ever thought the whole embryo adoption thing through because it was literally her one and only last chance to be pregnant and that’s all she wants. Nova is a baby now, so it’s easy. Once she starts asking more questions and perhaps (Very likely) wants to have a relationship with her bio parents and siblings, I think Ayla is going to go into a very very deep depression. Ayla isn’t somebody that can handle something like that, and I don’t think she has looked far into that, again, because of her obsession with being pregnant. From Nova’s perspective- her bio parents didn’t abandon her because they are drug addicts or something, their family was done and they passed on their embryos out of the goodness of their hearts. If anything, they are saints lol. I wouldn’t be surprised if Nova wants to have a relationship with them, especially her biological siblings in the future. Ayla is not going to have any of that. In this day and age, with social media it isn’t going to be hard for Nova to be in touch with them herself even if Ayla doesn’t allow it.
I really wonder how Ayla is going to react if the other two embryos don’t stick, or even if one of them works because I know she has said she wants 3 children? I think she’s going to completely go off the deep end and neglect Nova and focus on becoming pregnant again and again, because all she really cares about is more pregnancies and more newborns.
She says she was 4 or 5 children lol. She always wants what she can't have. *If* she miraculously were to have 5 kids, she'd change and say she wants 6 just to have something to cry about. If she had 6 kids through embryo adotopn and traditional adoption, she'd be depressed because we all know Nova is just a bandaid and second best to what Ayla actually wants - 4 or 5 bio children that are genetically hers.
Which is interesting because max she's gonna get is 3 bandaids unless a miracle happens and they split, or worst she's just gonna have Nova. She is already planning a transfer when they return anyway. She's such a piece of work. She has not addressed people that asked her about a relationship with her bio family, she in fact ignores or deletes their questions. Sounds terrible, but I hope the other 2 embryos don't stick because I think she needs to work on herself, her marriage, and actually parenting Nova. She always sits at home, we never see her out with just Nova. It's always with Caleb and she says she gets overwhelmed with just one baby. She also doesn't allow Caleb to be unsupervised with Nova either, so it's on her.
Ayla is always depressed. She was depressed when she couldn't get pregnant, depressed after Nova, and she's clearly depressed now. The only time I saw her truly happier was when she was pregnant. I think she's not a very nurturing and natural mother at all. She leaves Nova to cry for hours while she sits on her ass watching the Bachelor or sleeping. She almost starved her when she was a younger infant. She would leave Nova laying on the couch or windowsill in a docatot and just walk away to nap, etc.
She always makes everything about herself. I sense another ivf and egg retrieval if those embryos don't stick. Then more of Ayla sobbing on the ground with Caleb picking up the pieces and trying to parent Nova. Caleb is no better being a doormat of an enabler.
Not sure if I'd call Nova's bio family saints. More naive or stupid since they fully knew they'd be handing their future lineage over to unstable Ayla to exploit and advertise. Nova may grow to resent both sides if Ayla doesn't get her shit together or Caleb doesn't wake up. I honestly don't see Ayla allowing a close relationship to happen between Nova and her bio family at all. Ayla is too insecure. Hell, she doesn't even let Caleb go out to the snack machine without her.
And tbh, she's obsessed with pregnancy. Not even newborns as much. All she did was whine and complain when Nova was a newborn for the first few months because how dare Ayla have to lose sleep or get up and do something for once, which is why she started letting her cry it out only a few months in. Which is despicable, especially when Nova was failure to thrive. She wants to be pregnancy so bad and an IG baby, but doesn't want to be a parent. She should have just gotten a baby doll instead.
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All she did was cry looking at herself (not Nova) in awe and complain about labor and how hard it was... Ayla, you forced your body to become pregnant. You're not special. Almost every other women has gone through pregnancy and delivery... 
My in laws were traveling mid vacation and made their vacation shorter for their own safety and came home. Like smart and responsible adults.