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Post by Kataja » Tue Sep 10, 2019 2:01 am

Hi! Does anyone watch a young British single foster mom named Bryony Farmer?


She has been vlogging tons of stuff about periods and female hygiene products during many years and she has about 131 T. subscribers.

Now she has started fostering and she's got 4 year old foster son ''Arlow''

Her life basically revolves around her periods and now that she's got foster son, it goes on revolving around her periods.
Her parents even offered to watch the kid when she is on her periods. How crazy is that?!
I don't know if she has disclosed any real medical issues with her periods (like endometriosis etc.) but it seems that she is making the periods much bigger deal than it really is.

Any thoughts?
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Post by calliebaity77 » Tue Sep 10, 2019 2:43 am

Kataja wrote:Hi! Does anyone watch a young British single foster mom named Bryony Farmer?


She has been vlogging tons of stuff about periods and female hygiene products during many years and she has about 131 T. subscribers.

Now she has started fostering and she's got 4 year old foster son ''Arlow''

Her life basically revolves around her periods and now that she's got foster son, it goes on revolving around her periods.
Her parents even offered to watch the kid when she is on her periods. How crazy is that?!
I don't know if she has disclosed any real medical issues with her periods (like endometriosis etc.) but it seems that she is making the periods much bigger deal than it really is.

Any thoughts?
I have been watching her for years she has Lyme disease and Andometriosis( like endo but more rare and on the outside)

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Post by Kataja » Tue Sep 10, 2019 3:10 am

calliebaity77 wrote:
Tue Sep 10, 2019 2:43 am
Kataja wrote:Hi! Does anyone watch a young British single foster mom named Bryony Farmer?


She has been vlogging tons of stuff about periods and female hygiene products during many years and she has about 131 T. subscribers.

Now she has started fostering and she's got 4 year old foster son ''Arlow''

Her life basically revolves around her periods and now that she's got foster son, it goes on revolving around her periods.
Her parents even offered to watch the kid when she is on her periods. How crazy is that?!
I don't know if she has disclosed any real medical issues with her periods (like endometriosis etc.) but it seems that she is making the periods much bigger deal than it really is.

Any thoughts?
I have been watching her for years she has Lyme disease and Andometriosis( like endo but more rare and on the outside)

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That is interesting. I didn't even know that Andometriosis existed. What do you think of her? She seems pretty liberal with her views and kinda ''world saver'' taking refugees in and now starting fostering at really young age.

I watched couple her videos randomly and I was questioning that is she just so coddled by her parents that she won't ''survive'' any small bothers of life without help, but her having some health conditions actually explains a bit.

I also get the idea of educating and sharing non-shaming positive message of periods and female sexual health but having a full vlog series dedicated to periods and its symptoms seems bit intense, I guess.

Also, I cannot be without mentioning that she seems to mention ''Arlow'' watching TV on every video she is talking about him. Nothing bad with the TV but is she using it as a baby-sitter?
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Post by pennyajdg » Tue Sep 10, 2019 5:45 am

I haven’t watched her vlogs since she became a foster parents and was like wth when I saw she was becoming one since I always associate her with a teen, but I love her period related videos and glad that she makes them, some girls out there don’t know anything about their periods, or related items, and have no one to talk to. They are really informative and bring awareness to things that are not commonly talked about


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Post by Tiger27 » Tue Sep 10, 2019 10:56 am

I’ve watched her sporadically over the years. Something has always been a bit off about her to me. She says she has Chronic Lyme disease and sees a doctor specializing in Lyme. A majority of the medical community does not recognize chronic Lyme as a legitimate diagnosis, for numerous reasons. I’m definitely not fully on board with it. There’s a ton of quacks out there in this arena. I don’t doubt she has numerous painful and debilitating symptoms but things haven’t always added up and she has sought out a lot of tests and treatments that aren’t backed by any legitimate evidence. As someone in healthcare, I personally believe very little woo and rely heavily on scientific evidence when making decisions. She seems to believe in a lot of woo and a lot of unproven things. If it’s making her feel better, great. But sorry, you don’t *need* to wake up at 8am and no earlier because your liver doesn’t start working until 3am and it’s still detoxing your body before 8....those excess “toxins” are not the cause of her morning nausea. Absolute nonsense. It’s little tidbits like that that make her lose all legitimacy for me. I also have to wonder if she’s ever been seen by psych (maybe this was mentioned and I missed it). She does have agoraphobia, an anxiety related disorder. A lot of her symptoms could probably be traced back to a psychiatric diagnosis. That doesn’t mean her symptoms are real. Just that chronic Lyme and her “6-7 co-infections” aren’t the answer.

I think she’s just an odd girl with odd interests. Not that they’re bad by any means, just odd. She was unschooled so I guess she had a lot of time to dabble in different things. Like period products, full time nannying, and taking in refugees. Now being a foster mom. They’re not bad, just strange choices for a 18-22 year old.

I don’t think she’ll be a bad foster parent. But what happens when she has a “low Lyme” day where she feels extra fatigued and depressed (her words)? Do her parents have to come every time? Some of her beliefs and ideas just really leave me scratching my head. And I still think she’d really benefit from a psychiatry consult. Somatic symptom disorder seems to fit a lot of checkboxes. Please don’t hate on me for suggesting these lol, I’m not saying she doesn’t have real symptoms (especially the period ones-the adenomyosis is a legitimate disorder)! Just that I don’t think all of them can be attributed to her various diagnoses.


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Post by fossilfinger » Tue Sep 10, 2019 11:04 am

I just clicked on her newest vlog and then was so surprised to see this thread! I have been watching Bryony for a few years and agree with Tiger27. I like her and she seems mature for her age, but she definitely doctor shopped to get her Lyme diagnosis. When she was talking about the test she was taking, I looked up the test and found that it has a lot of false positives and is used by sketchy practitioners so they can sell their patients a cure. Plus, she lives in a suburb of London and never mentioned how she contacted Lyme - where was she where she could have been bitten by a tick? I believe many of Bryony's symptoms are in her head, but she definitely believes she has something. I also think a lot of her issues are from her overdosing on NSAIDs. She takes tons and tons and tons of over-the-counter medication seemingly every day, or at least every day she has her period or feels any other slight ache or pain.

All that being said, I do think that her intentions are pure. I think she will be a decent foster parent and I'm happy she has geared her life toward helping others, even if she is a bit misguided sometimes. Her parents definitely enable her, like her mother letting her drop out of school at 16, but she has also become very independent, starting a business and buying her own flat at a very young age. She also believes her Lyme is in remission right now, so at least she doesn't seem to be malingering anymore.
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Post by Tiger27 » Tue Sep 10, 2019 12:12 pm

fossilfinger wrote:I just clicked on her newest vlog and then was so surprised to see this thread! I have been watching Bryony for a few years and agree with Tiger27. I like her and she seems mature for her age, but she definitely doctor shopped to get her Lyme diagnosis. When she was talking about the test she was taking, I looked up the test and found that it has a lot of false positives and is used by sketchy practitioners so they can sell their patients a cure. Plus, she lives in a suburb of London and never mentioned how she contacted Lyme - where was she where she could have been bitten by a tick? I believe many of Bryony's symptoms are in her head, but she definitely believes she has something. I also think a lot of her issues are from her overdosing on NSAIDs. She takes tons and tons and tons of over-the-counter medication seemingly every day, or at least every day she has her period or feels any other slight ache or pain.

All that being said, I do think that her intentions are pure. I think she will be a decent foster parent and I'm happy she has geared her life toward helping others, even if she is a bit misguided sometimes. Her parents definitely enable her, like her mother letting her drop out of school at 16, but she has also become very independent, starting a business and buying her own flat at a very young age. She also believes her Lyme is in remission right now, so at least she doesn't seem to be malingering anymore.

Exactly, once you start reading about Chronic Lyme and Lyme specialists, you start to see there’s a ton of quackery involved. A lot of it is to make money off of people who are suffering and don’t like the diagnoses they’ve been given (whether that’s a psych diagnosis, fibromyalgia or chronic fatigue syndrome or something similar that is incurable or treated with psych meds (antidepressants are recommended for fibromyalgia and CFS but a lot of people can’t get on board with that because to them it implies it’s in their head)). You’re totally write about the NSAIDs...her liver function tests have been bumped and they’re blaming the Lyme. She also mentions a while back they think it’s Gilbert syndrome which is essentially a benign, genetic disorder. Anyone stop to think her NSAID use could be causing this instead of just tacking on another diagnosis. She said her doctor is a functional doctor “not a homeopathic one” so to Bryony that means she’s legitimate. Functional practitioners have been known to engage in just as much quackery as they woo-focused “doctors”.

But like you said, I agree her intentions are pure. I think she’s a good person who has felt bad for a long time (for a multitude of reasons) and has latched on to these diagnoses. She’s just an odd girl overall to me, but she’s interesting to watch from time to time.

Lol I hope Ellie Meghan never discovers her vlogs, she’s totally be one to latch on to a chronic Lyme diagnosis.


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Post by Kataja » Wed Sep 11, 2019 12:05 am

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Tue Sep 10, 2019 11:04 am
I just clicked on her newest vlog and then was so surprised to see this thread! I have been watching Bryony for a few years and agree with Tiger27. I like her and she seems mature for her age, but she definitely doctor shopped to get her Lyme diagnosis. When she was talking about the test she was taking, I looked up the test and found that it has a lot of false positives and is used by sketchy practitioners so they can sell their patients a cure. Plus, she lives in a suburb of London and never mentioned how she contacted Lyme - where was she where she could have been bitten by a tick? I believe many of Bryony's symptoms are in her head, but she definitely believes she has something. I also think a lot of her issues are from her overdosing on NSAIDs. She takes tons and tons and tons of over-the-counter medication seemingly every day, or at least every day she has her period or feels any other slight ache or pain.

All that being said, I do think that her intentions are pure. I think she will be a decent foster parent and I'm happy she has geared her life toward helping others, even if she is a bit misguided sometimes. Her parents definitely enable her, like her mother letting her drop out of school at 16, but she has also become very independent, starting a business and buying her own flat at a very young age. She also believes her Lyme is in remission right now, so at least she doesn't seem to be malingering anymore.
I believe that lyme disease is actual thing but there are lot of quackery surrounding it because it is quite unknown condition with not certain remedy. I don't know about ''chronic lyme disease'' enough to make any judgements there.

In one of her lyme vlogs she mentioned that she never had that very typical mark that lyme tick leaves on your skin, and she doesn't remember getting bitten (I think the tick numbs you, so you necessarily wouldn't always feel it). I'm not convinced that SHE actually has lyme.

https://www.google.com/search?q=lyme+ti ... Jr-SMc_fzM:

I don't think she is as independent as it might seem. She has her business but the flat was basically bought by her parents. She made it very clear. She told that she got the idea that she wants to be more independent so her parents helped her getting the flat for her. (I'm not sure if they made the down payment or if they keep paying the mortgage for her but in any case, it wasn't like she got it by herself.)

I'm sure that her parents end-up helping her a lot with her fostering journey. Nothing wrong with asking help and getting help occasionally and I'm glad that she has such supportive family. However, I think that if a person takes on a responsibility, they should be able to do it mainly without relying on others. It is not fair for her parents if she starts to use them weekly to help with Arlow. Again, nothing wrong with getting help but her daily life shouldn't be relying on it.
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Post by Tiger27 » Wed Sep 11, 2019 1:42 am

She specifically called it chronic Lyme in one of her videos. Here’s a good article talking about it nicely. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4477530/

There tends to be two sides of you go searching this- those who adamantly believe they have this and this who think these people are full of shit (it’s gets the same sort of hate as antivaxxers get).

I definitely side with the full of shit crowd because science. But I also understand the people who are claiming this diagnosis are probably really suffering (either with a legitimate disorder or a psychosomatic one). It’s the quack doctors who pray on these people, pumping them full of unnecessary antibiotics and expensive supplements that are the real issue. And the spreading of misinformation (like your liver starts detoxing at 3 am) that ends up putting people into actually dangerous or debilitating situations. I think B has a mix of actual physical disorders (adenomyosis) potentially compounded by her NSAID use, and a psychosomatic disorder. I would bet money that seeking out a really great psychiatrist and getting on some psych meds would dramatically would dramatically improve her life. She can stop having these “low Lyme” days were she feels depressed and too fatigued to get off the couch.

Hopefully fostering will help her realize her limitations and she’ll seek out some additional help from better sources.


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Post by Kataja » Wed Sep 11, 2019 3:14 am

Thank you for the link! I'm also totally on the side of science, I just hadn't heard enough to make any judgement.

I'm hoping that fostering will bring more meaning into her life so that she slowly starts realizing that life is more than focusing intensely on her ''symptoms'' and energy-levels. It seems that her parents are quite enablers when it comes to that.

We all have days that we feel bit more tired, bit more sad or melancholic, and those feelings don't mean that they should be diagnosed. People (she?) have to learn that life has ups and downs without it always being part of some kind of ''condition''.
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Post by calliebaity77 » Wed Sep 18, 2019 4:33 pm

Kataja wrote:
calliebaity77 wrote:
Tue Sep 10, 2019 2:43 am
Kataja wrote:Hi! Does anyone watch a young British single foster mom named Bryony Farmer?


She has been vlogging tons of stuff about periods and female hygiene products during many years and she has about 131 T. subscribers.

Now she has started fostering and she's got 4 year old foster son ''Arlow''

Her life basically revolves around her periods and now that she's got foster son, it goes on revolving around her periods.
Her parents even offered to watch the kid when she is on her periods. How crazy is that?!
I don't know if she has disclosed any real medical issues with her periods (like endometriosis etc.) but it seems that she is making the periods much bigger deal than it really is.

Any thoughts?
I have been watching her for years she has Lyme disease and Andometriosis( like endo but more rare and on the outside)

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That is interesting. I didn't even know that Andometriosis existed. What do you think of her? She seems pretty liberal with her views and kinda ''world saver'' taking refugees in and now starting fostering at really young age.

I watched couple her videos randomly and I was questioning that is she just so coddled by her parents that she won't ''survive'' any small bothers of life without help, but her having some health conditions actually explains a bit.

I also get the idea of educating and sharing non-shaming positive message of periods and female sexual health but having a full vlog series dedicated to periods and its symptoms seems bit intense, I guess.

Also, I cannot be without mentioning that she seems to mention ''Arlow'' watching TV on every video she is talking about him. Nothing bad with the TV but is she using it as a baby-sitter?
I enjoy her, she is pretty liberal but she lives in a "socialist" country so their political views are going to be strange to those of us living in a country that thrives on capitalism. She has the best intentions though and I think she is lonely. She seems a little off like she might have SPD, be on the spectrum or have some social delays from being so sickly as a child and I think she is just lonely. It doesn't seem like she has many friends to be honest.

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Post by Tiger27 » Wed Sep 18, 2019 9:45 pm

calliebaity77 wrote:
Kataja wrote:
calliebaity77 wrote:
Tue Sep 10, 2019 2:43 am
I have been watching her for years she has Lyme disease and Andometriosis( like endo but more rare and on the outside)

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That is interesting. I didn't even know that Andometriosis existed. What do you think of her? She seems pretty liberal with her views and kinda ''world saver'' taking refugees in and now starting fostering at really young age.

I watched couple her videos randomly and I was questioning that is she just so coddled by her parents that she won't ''survive'' any small bothers of life without help, but her having some health conditions actually explains a bit.

I also get the idea of educating and sharing non-shaming positive message of periods and female sexual health but having a full vlog series dedicated to periods and its symptoms seems bit intense, I guess.

Also, I cannot be without mentioning that she seems to mention ''Arlow'' watching TV on every video she is talking about him. Nothing bad with the TV but is she using it as a baby-sitter?
I enjoy her, she is pretty liberal but she lives in a "socialist" country so their political views are going to be strange to those of us living in a country that thrives on capitalism. She has the best intentions though and I think she is lonely. She seems a little off like she might have SPD, be on the spectrum or have some social delays from being so sickly as a child and I think she is just lonely. It doesn't seem like she has many friends to be honest.

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I’ve never considered those things but you could definitely be right. She is just a tiny bit off. I’d think she’d do great with some therapy. All her intentions and actions seem to be kind hearted and pure...she is just an odd duck. It’d be hard to have friends and relate to most people her age when she’s taking in refugees, full time nannying (to the extremes of buying car seats), and fostering in her late teens and early twenties.


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Post by calliebaity77 » Thu Sep 19, 2019 12:51 am

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That is interesting. I didn't even know that Andometriosis existed. What do you think of her? She seems pretty liberal with her views and kinda ''world saver'' taking refugees in and now starting fostering at really young age.

I watched couple her videos randomly and I was questioning that is she just so coddled by her parents that she won't ''survive'' any small bothers of life without help, but her having some health conditions actually explains a bit.

I also get the idea of educating and sharing non-shaming positive message of periods and female sexual health but having a full vlog series dedicated to periods and its symptoms seems bit intense, I guess.

Also, I cannot be without mentioning that she seems to mention ''Arlow'' watching TV on every video she is talking about him. Nothing bad with the TV but is she using it as a baby-sitter?
I enjoy her, she is pretty liberal but she lives in a "socialist" country so their political views are going to be strange to those of us living in a country that thrives on capitalism. She has the best intentions though and I think she is lonely. She seems a little off like she might have SPD, be on the spectrum or have some social delays from being so sickly as a child and I think she is just lonely. It doesn't seem like she has many friends to be honest.

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I’ve never considered those things but you could definitely be right. She is just a tiny bit off. I’d think she’d do great with some therapy. All her intentions and actions seem to be kind hearted and pure...she is just an odd duck. It’d be hard to have friends and relate to most people her age when she’s taking in refugees, full time nannying (to the extremes of buying car seats), and fostering in her late teens and early twenties.


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I'm a year or so older than her, married with a baby and it's hard to find friends. I cant imagine having that unique of a situation, I think a better option would have been to go school and get a degree/certificate in early childhood education and be a pre-k, kindergarten teacher or nursery school teacher. (Idk how the process to be one of those works outside of the US)

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Post by aral12 » Mon Sep 30, 2019 4:14 pm

I’m so SO thrilled that she is no longer allowed to post videos with specifics about fostering, she’d already given quite a bit of information out about “Arlo” and it could have been identified by a family member had they come across a video- I mean she gave the exact date he moved and how long he’d been with the other carer etc!

I honestly don’t think she should be “educating” people about fostering at all. The process of applying, maybe. But she barely has experience. She’s not a teacher, a childcare worker, or a social worker. Her background with children comes from having a few refugees stay with her and doing some very casual babysitting.

She seemed woefully unprepared from the videos she did post. Needing her Mum to come and stay the night just because she had an upset stomach? Considering DELAYING THE MOVE because of it? How confusing for “Arlo”.

Most of his “acting out” she has described is not crazy and outlandish for a 3/4 year old... it’s generally pretty typical/ on the higher needs side but nothing to suggest he’s out of control. She loves to make drama out of nothing and seem so saintly! I just can’t stand her and her holier than thou “I’m God’s gift to children” attitude.


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calliebaity77 wrote:
Kataja wrote:
calliebaity77 wrote:
Tue Sep 10, 2019 2:43 am
I have been watching her for years she has Lyme disease and Andometriosis( like endo but more rare and on the outside)

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That is interesting. I didn't even know that Andometriosis existed. What do you think of her? She seems pretty liberal with her views and kinda ''world saver'' taking refugees in and now starting fostering at really young age.

I watched couple her videos randomly and I was questioning that is she just so coddled by her parents that she won't ''survive'' any small bothers of life without help, but her having some health conditions actually explains a bit.

I also get the idea of educating and sharing non-shaming positive message of periods and female sexual health but having a full vlog series dedicated to periods and its symptoms seems bit intense, I guess.

Also, I cannot be without mentioning that she seems to mention ''Arlow'' watching TV on every video she is talking about him. Nothing bad with the TV but is she using it as a baby-sitter?
I enjoy her, she is pretty liberal but she lives in a "socialist" country so their political views are going to be strange to those of us living in a country that thrives on capitalism. She has the best intentions though and I think she is lonely. She seems a little off like she might have SPD, be on the spectrum or have some social delays from being so sickly as a child and I think she is just lonely. It doesn't seem like she has many friends to be honest.

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I don't watch a lot of her videos so may have missed something, but I don't think she shares any 'out-there' wild political views lol?
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Post by fossilfinger » Tue Oct 01, 2019 2:49 pm

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I’m so SO thrilled that she is no longer allowed to post videos with specifics about fostering, she’d already given quite a bit of information out about “Arlo” and it could have been identified by a family member had they come across a video- I mean she gave the exact date he moved and how long he’d been with the other carer etc!
Yeah, I thought she gave out too much information when she showed his personal belongings and said how old he was and when he moved in with her. Someone could have easily found him that way.

I also completely disagree with her when she says that not being able to share any specific information about her foster children will hurt them in the long run when they look back at her videos and see things about her future biological children but not about themselves. There's a lot to unpack about that statement. First of all, she's said that she can't give any information in order to protect them, so that speaks for themselves. Second, they shouldn't have to be validated by their presence on social media, and if they think their foster mother needs to be a "sharent" to know they're loved, there's something wrong there. Third, it's not right to plaster your biological children all over social media either. So that was kind of a strange thing for her to say. She and other foster carers have plenty of resources like other foster parents and her council to help her out; she shouldn't feel like she needs social media to get and give information about fostering.
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Post by Prinnywoo » Sat Nov 23, 2019 10:38 am

I’m unsurprised to see her calm, gentle parenting didn’t last now she’s out the honeymoon phase
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Post by fossilfinger » Sat Nov 23, 2019 12:02 pm

Sounds like she wasn't ready to be a foster carer and should have waited until if/when she had a partner to help her. Her ability to foster care was conditional on the fact that the child would be going to school, which is fair enough I suppose for an older child, but she also said she was willing to take a child who was younger than four, even a baby. I don't think she would be able to get much work done if she had taken on an infant, and there would be no option to put that child into school. Caregivers deserve a break, of course, but she should have thought of this type of thing well before she agreed to foster. And what foster child doesn't have behavioral issues? Again, this is something she should have prepared herself for, or put off fostering until she had a care plan set up for them so she could work, or only taken a child who went to school full-time.
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Post by emmy1618 » Sat Nov 23, 2019 1:08 pm

I just have to wonder what she thought she was taking on when she signed up to be a foster parent. She acts like she’s signed up to be a babysitter and the expectation that she parents this child is unreasonable.


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Re: Bryony Farmer - Precious star pads

Post by emmy1618 » Sat Nov 23, 2019 1:20 pm

I cannot understand what she thinks she signed up to do. I think she thought this would be like an extended baby sitting job. I understand she has issues with the system, but this isn’t unique to her and her foster child. She obviously isn’t at the place to have biological children because of her health and commitment to her job, which is understandable because of her age. If that is the case though, she should not have volunteered to take on a child that she couldn’t fully parent and support. This poor kid sounds like he’s been through a lot, and it makes me feel worse to know that he’s witnessed yet another foster parent who seems unwilling and incapable to parent.


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Re: Bryony Farmer - Precious star pads

Post by Kataja » Tue Nov 26, 2019 10:41 pm

I think partly her complaints are reasonable. They should have told her about the extra support they have for challenging kids, and I think she was open from the very beginning that she needs to have him in school in order to support her small family. That shouldn't have been surprise to his or her social workers. After all she is a single parent who works as an entrepreneur. I don't think parenthood is only reserved for people who can be stay-at-home parents.

What I don't understand, is why she signed up for it health-wise. As I understood, her periods are pretty crippling and she has a condition relating to it that causes her to be bedridden or unable to watch her kids. Glad that she has her support system but what if her parents can't watch Arlow when she is having hard time? After all they didn't sign up for it, did they?
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Re: Bryony Farmer - Precious star pads

Post by Kataja » Tue Nov 26, 2019 10:45 pm

Prinnywoo wrote:
Sat Nov 23, 2019 10:38 am
I’m unsurprised to see her calm, gentle parenting didn’t last now she’s out the honeymoon phase
I feel kinda bad for her but it was good reality check for her. Her thinking must have been super idealistic. Real parents show real feelings to their kids. That's how kids learn that other people can get super upset when they do something naughty and how their behaviour affects others. Parents are allowed to have also ''negative'' emotions.
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Re: Bryony Farmer - Precious star pads

Post by iamelisabeth » Mon Jan 20, 2020 7:41 am

Now that her foster child is gone, do you think she'll be signing up to accept another?
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Re: Bryony Farmer - Precious star pads

Post by Prinnywoo » Mon Jan 20, 2020 10:10 am

iamelisabeth wrote:Now that her foster child is gone, do you think she'll be signing up to accept another?
I would have a look on her page on Tattle, people on there reported her to social services after she made that video saying she was rejecting the foster child and comparing it to post-partum depression. Shortly after that her foster son was suddenly removed from her care and she said she was angry about how it happened, so if the two were related she might not be allowed to foster in future.

Either way, I don’t think she should take on another foster child until she is more mature and less self-absorbed as she did not seem able to cope this time and children who already have a traumatic past need the best care possible, not someone who is going to push them away, use the TV as a babysitter and not want to be in the same room as them.
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Re: Bryony Farmer - Precious star pads

Post by laurasleaf » Mon Jan 20, 2020 5:03 pm

Ohh god. I've been sporadically following Bryony for years. I can't remember what drew me in to her. She truly has such a deluded sense of reality. And agree it is compounded by the spoilt only child syndrome and dropping out of school so young.

I too am in healthcare, I first realised she wasn't all there when she made a video years ago about having all of her allergies diagnosed e-meter style by a 'health' clinic. And that she used to have her parents push her around in a wheelchair because of fatigue. I agree that she likely malingered and doctor shopped to justify her symptoms to herself, she more likely has a somatisation disorder instead of ME/CFS/fibromyalgia/Allergies/Lyme disease/any other rubbish she has claimed.

She portrays herself as a polished and intelligent young women, but really she is a well-meaning very naive and entitled person.

I just read through that tattle forum mentioned above, it was disturbing to see how obsessed and aggravated one specific person was with her, and that this person instigated the group of complaints to her fostering agency. I firmly believe any online gossiping should stay online and not venture IRL. However, I'm glad her foster child was removed, only because I believe she is entirely unqualified to parent. She is way too young with no life experience to be suddenly lumped with a complex four year old child.
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