Ellie really just thinks she is a princess, doesn't she? Who locks themselves up in their room for months after having a newborn while they have other responsibilities? Sure, she's lucky to have so much help- but when will it be her turn to return the favor and selflessly serves the others in her family?
She had a relatively easy pregnancy (despite her anxiety and the normal discomfort that comes with the end of pregnancy) and a pretty relaxed labor and delivery with her THIRD baby. If this was her first, or she had an exceptionally hard pregnancy/delivery, I could understand the need for recovering and what not. But there is literally no excuse for her behavior except she is just plain selfish. And she's got one hell of a pushover for a husband. And everyone else in her life enables her, because if they disagreed with her they've been cut off.
She should try being pregnant for the first time with an incredibly rough first trimester, gallbladder issues, scares with baby's health (baby is fine now- just a precaution thing at first), AND being a foster parent to a 6 month old and 16 month old and having to manage their appointments, your own appointments, court dates, lawyers visiting, case workers visiting, transporting to visits, and doing so all on your own because your husband works 12+ hours a day 5 days a week. Ellie, I WISH I could be posted up in bed all day forgetting about anyone except myself and my growing baby, but I'm not a selfish twat.