Annavi04 wrote:I think he loves her as the mother of his children and thats it. It seems like hes with her because separating takes too much effort (selling the house, moving, coparenting) and because he wants to be able to see his kids really often (even though hes not father of the year, he loves them a lot and would miss them).
I think Oscar planned Alaya with Kyra so Levi could have at least one full sibling. Many people rather have several kids with whoever they already have one with even though they know it wont work out just so they can say "I don't have 2 baby mamas" or etc. i think hes more skeptical about baby #3 because he feels satisfied that Levi has Alaya and that its enough.
I think they bought a house together simply because it was more comfortable than an apt and they had the money to do so, not because it was a step to further their relationship.
Also people say kids are a bigger commitment than marriage and yeah you do have to deal with your children forever but you can do so mostly alone if you choose. Sure, you can get married, divorce and part ways forever but i think the idea of choosing Kyra forever scares the crap out of Oscar because it seems like he can hardly be with her for now. Also a divorce is a lot of work. I dont think he sees their relationship lasting so he doesnt want to bother with being married. It seems to me that hes stuck between being free and single but missing his kids or being miserable with Kyra and enjoying his children daily. People have been saying he doesn't compromise and that he always gets what he wants but in this case i do NOT think he should compromise and get married if he doesnt 110% want to. Thats unfair.
Kyra should cut her losses and move on.
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I didn't mean he should compromise and get married. I mean the man doesn't do anything he doesn't want. It's very much about him, all the time. How he likes things. He never takes anyone else's feelings into consideration. So the chance that he would take a moment to consider how Kyra feels in all this is laughable.
I agree, Kyra needs to GTFO. He is not in love with her. He is not going to marry her and they will never last. Both of them should be with other people.