saltybitters wrote: ↑Wed Aug 05, 2020 9:51 pm
spicy_dreams wrote: ↑Wed Aug 05, 2020 6:21 pm
Sorry I know I just posted but I suddenly remembered that beau was purchased as an ESA and I find that so hilarious. He's literally just a pet who they enjoy having around which is definitely not the same as an ESA. Did they ever mention this? He was supposed to go into specific training so he could perform tasks, but that never happened. Instead they just got preoccupied with having more babies, which is definitely not a fucking substitute for mental health care.
On that note, when and why did Rachelle stop getting therapy? She clearly still needs it, and probably now more than ever. Therapists are currently doing appointments via phone, so it's not impossible by any means. If it's money she's worried about she could just funnel her shopping addiction money into therapy which could have the added bonus of helping treat her shopping addiction.
IIRC, Rash stopped going to therapy around the time of the embryo transfer that resulted in Emma. Not sure why, but I speculate it's because the idea of having the possibility of a new baby gives her a temporary high and even sort of feels like it fills the whole in her life for a while, then wears off after the kids are born. So she probably thought she was miraculously "all better" rather than actually managing her issues.
Also, do we even know if it was an actual licensed grief counselor she saw? I know some churches offer "counseling" that isn't really any kind of therapeutic help beyond "trust in ThE lOrD and all will be right," which really isn't helpful for someone with her kind of issues.
Ugh that's so frustrating. Having big life changes, especially pregnancies, is DEFINITELY the time to have therapy. Even if you've never had it. But especially if you just recently had a traumatic miscarriage and aren't over it yet, how the fuck are you supposed to have a mentally healthy approach to a new baby? Her mental health has suffered and her kids have suffered as a result. She has a responsibility. She even has big issues with a parent, which is an ongoing problem. That will affect your ability to parent, and if you don't address it, it's not going away.
The fact that she's just stuffing down her unresolved trauma with babies, a shopping addiction, and an obsession with being the "perfect" mother, it's really sad. I can't see it going well for those kids. She can find one hour every week to speak to a therapist, she can afford it, she can find a good one who suits her. Why not!!??