LilaLavender wrote:I was gonna add this at the end of my previous post but I decided to make it a post on its own because I'm really interested in you guys' opinion about it.
It is so odd to me how Jessica tries to portray herself as such a fantastic amazing supermom, while she lacks the number one quality that mothers should have: sensitivity.
She is not sensitive to her individual children's needs, such as when she blatantly ignored Kyson's explicit request for a certain gift for Christmas in order to give the twins the same thing.
She is not sensitive to a kid's interests or personality outside their gender, such as Lilia not being allowed to play baseball when she specifically expressed she wanted to, because she "has to sick with dance and gymnastics".
She is not sensitive to her children's age-appropriate needs or skills, such as baby-talking her almost-8 year old and not offering her any intelligent conversation beyond "are you excited????!!?" or by lecturing a 5-year-old for not being emotionally mature enough to not feel insecure when he has less friends than his twin sibling.
She is not sensitive to her children's physical needs, such as taking them to the doctor when they're properly sick or putting a hat on them when the sun is shining bright.
She is not sensitive to her children's emotional needs, not noticing when her elaborately praising one child makes another insecure, and, when they ask for her attention, complaining to them that they are being selfish.
She is also not sensitive to awkwardness or inappropriateness in social situations. She'll shameless grab the spotlight at someone else's wedding and touch and flirt with someone else's husband just because she dated him a third of her life ago.
She is not sensitive to her family and friends' sacrifices for her. She sees no problem her disabled grandmother watching her younger-than-8yo children, and has never (seemingly) thanked or done something back for her mother and stepfather for helping her financially and time-wise so much and catching her in moments her self-imposed mess came crashing down on her.
She is all "my family completes me" but from where I'm standing she appears to care about nothing besides herself.
I agree.And it irritates me that she doesn't have regular nap times for the younger ones,esp.Addie.They plan nothing around her,and just let her flop wherever she is,on the go.
I always kept reg. nap times for my younger ones,and the only exception I made was holidays.Bc everyone wanted to eat at a certain time,or wanted us to be there at a certain time.
Otherwise,if I went somewhere,it was scheduled around their naps.
That is prob. why Addie is so whiny;she doesn't have a reg.bedtime or nap routine.
And she can't be bothered to fix Addie age appropriate meals.Snacks and breastmilk are not meals at this age.
Pizza crust for dinner the other night is not a meal,not even on the go in a hotel.Feed her some real food,for goodness sake.The twins and Landen ate better than she does