Part of me really wishes I could vent about everything especially with how he's has been portraying things. How many people here are a military spouse? How many of your husbands have security clearances? Randy isn't "some valet" like some of you think. Randy isn't a bad guy & I don't have it in me to be spiteful towards him. Only close family knows what Happened & thats how its going to stay.twomommies wrote:Are you ever gonna tell us what happened between you and Randy?TheRealHayleeAndBaby wrote:Otay,
Debt- I'm not sure what else to say but life happens, the end of 2016, 2017 & 2018 have been rough. To clear things up we have never been on Medicaid. when I was younger & living with my parents they counted all of the families income & we ended up making above threshold. I do have a few bills from back then I am currently paying back (almost paid off) co pays were high & very frequent due to some of Hazzels health issues. When Randy & I got married he went active duty for a year & we had tricare, then when he went back to working the civilian side he was no longer active duty & a reservist. Cars broke down... more times then I can count at this point & when I first started youtube I didn't understand the tax accept of it, well tax season came around & I didn't have nearly enough saved so I'm still paying on that & thats half of what I owe. I didn't get "deep" into debt because of "Tacky Victorias secret" crap, I don't have a credit card for them for the same reason I don't have one for target.. I'd max them out the first month haha My mistake was I didn't prioritize debt, well fuck lesson learned. The reason I don't just say these things is because I just want things private, no one needs to know everything but I realize the less detail I give the more people fill in the blanks with what they think happened.
House- We rent it, as for the timeline I have no idea, Randy & I haven't had much communication, anything I ask about I get "Don't worry about it" or "I'll take care of it" I don't have it in me to pry at the moment so when I thought he was going to be out he decided to stay & thats fine by me, I'm not sure what his plan is & I can't speak for him.
Bed situation- I really don't know how to say this without having people freak out but my dad is just kind of an ass... He's the tough love type, he hates any kind of change & is always irrational in the moment. Growing up his answer was always no till he actually sat back & thought the situation though. I brought up a few suggestions & he shot them down, I don't expect him to change his mind because it is his home but I think he will come around to the idea, as of right now Hazzel gets the bed & Ive been sleeping on the couch, someone suggested putting a body pillow between us so I think I'm going to give that a chance. ultimately my dad loves me & he's the one that offered me to stay because I went to him with this situation first.
I also wanted to talk about the 8 months to a year time I gave myself. Something else I didn't want to talk about just yet is that I talked to my parents about seeing a doctor to help with my depression & anxiety, given my past with trying different anti depressants my parents want to give me time to find whats going to work best & stay on them for a few months. not because they fear I will self harm, but because they both have been in my situation, they know its not good to be alone with thoughts. My dad will not accept any money I give him but we compromised, I'll be paying the internet bill & Tv bill.
The Dann situation- All I can say is poor Dann haha he's painted in a bad light when I can promise you all he's a good guy. He meant no ill intentions & was trying to help me make light of the shitty situation I'm in, he made a few jokes but I know he didn't think it would have blew up as big as it did. I really don't think he's interested in trolling this site, When I saw someone wanted to message him, I sent him a message just to give him a heads up that someone was going to confront him about something they "saw" (we have grabbed a drink a few times with friends but we've never been to a mall together) I just asked him to respect my privacy & not answer anything personal about my life. I babysit his son once or twice a week, he isn't my "New Man" but he has been a good friend to me. He thought he was helping but it wasn't taken that way, He sees the "production" & "entertainment" side of youtube, he doesnt watch family vloggers or daily vloggers he watches people who have a whole production team.
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I can't find the right words to express what I want to say/feel but "It just didn't work out" doesn't feel like an acceptable answer for us getting a divorce.FakingIt_MakingIt wrote:"at the end of the day he made his choices & I couldn't be around or forgive any longer."
See, this is where a lot of my questioning comes in. In one breath you want privacy, the next youre offering up explanations, and the next youre making very leading statements that clearly invite speculation.
If you don't want the rumors and attention just say it didn't work out, end of story.
Im not even 100% convinced this is actually Haylee replying here, but I'll play along for now...
TheRealHayleeAndBaby wrote:I can't find the right words to express what I want to say/feel but "It just didn't work out" doesn't feel like an acceptable answer for us getting a divorce.FakingIt_MakingIt wrote:"at the end of the day he made his choices & I couldn't be around or forgive any longer."
See, this is where a lot of my questioning comes in. In one breath you want privacy, the next youre offering up explanations, and the next youre making very leading statements that clearly invite speculation.
If you don't want the rumors and attention just say it didn't work out, end of story.
Im not even 100% convinced this is actually Haylee replying here, but I'll play along for now...
I wanted privacy with certain things & others I was going to talk about later on once I started to see a change. either way everyone is going to speculate but I can at least put the "new man" rumors to rest.
Randys parents actually took Hazzel for the weekend the week before, they still want to continue to be in our lives, they are amazing people & truly do love us. Honestly when we got married it felt so right, I had no doubt in my mind, we did rush it a bit for reasons but in the moment everything was perfect. Honestly it scares the crap out of me how ready I thought I was & I worry if things will be rushed next time because "it feels right". its yet another mistake added to the long list that I am learning from. My parents are not divorcing hahaMaxxinsta96 wrote:Haylee if this is really you on here it’s great you can be mature and come on here. Britney just sends all her little minions to attack people and she’s a few years olds than you. Do you think Randy’s parents will stay a part of hazzels life? If you don’t want to answer that’s fine. A lot of us do feel you two only got married for the house reasons. I’ve been in a committed relationship for 6 years and we aren’t married yet. We don’t want to rush into anything it’s much cheaper getting into a marriage than getting out of one. Maybe you can do a few extra sponsorships and try to get out sooner than what you have planned. You’re obviously not happy about being in the basement. That house is already full to the brim. Also someone posted earlier that your parents are divorcing is that true?
If i would have left it as things just didn't work out there would be way more speculation. Damned if I do, damned if I don't type situation, You don't have to believe me I just wanted to say my piece. I'm not seeing anyoneFakingIt_MakingIt wrote:TheRealHayleeAndBaby wrote:I can't find the right words to express what I want to say/feel but "It just didn't work out" doesn't feel like an acceptable answer for us getting a divorce.FakingIt_MakingIt wrote:"at the end of the day he made his choices & I couldn't be around or forgive any longer."
See, this is where a lot of my questioning comes in. In one breath you want privacy, the next youre offering up explanations, and the next youre making very leading statements that clearly invite speculation.
If you don't want the rumors and attention just say it didn't work out, end of story.
Im not even 100% convinced this is actually Haylee replying here, but I'll play along for now...
I wanted privacy with certain things & others I was going to talk about later on once I started to see a change. either way everyone is going to speculate but I can at least put the "new man" rumors to rest.
You've been feeding into the rumors though. There is really no need to say most of what you have said regarding the divorce, someone who truly wanted privacy and didn't want to air their dirty laundry would have just said it didn't work, its nothing specific that was done/said but its better for both of us to go our separate ways. That leaves a LOT less room for speculation and rumors.
I don't really feel the new man rumors have been put to rest either. I have no reason to believe that youre telling the truth, or that youre even Haylee, over another commenter here who has seen you in public, or the things Dan has said...
I thought we could work through it, I didn’t really have extra money to be putting away towards a new start, I didn’t expect it to happen ha.mocalyn wrote:If things were rocky for a while why didn't you save up to be prepared for it ending?
Can you do an update on how Hazzel is doing? How much of what's going on does she really understand?
Will you do mental health updates on your channel?
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I really don’t have any idea who that person was, from my understanding she had multiple accounts? You can see all I follow on Instagram so maybe she just chose one of the few guys I follow? I’m not sure why Dann got singled out but that was an embarrassing conversation to with with a man who pays me to nanny.Echox3 wrote:Unsure if it’s really Haylee or not.
However, if it is her, I’m glad she’s being civil and an actual human vs Britney with her sending minions to attack and leak others information.
The person that claimed to see you guys together - do you know who that was then? They easily found Dann and they at least knew that you knew each other.
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I'll respect that and I hope you can stay single for awhile and focus on your happiness. The best advice I've ever been given after a bad breakup is to stay single for a year and discover how to make yourself happy. I also hope that this isn't affecting Hazzel negatively.TheRealHayleeAndBaby wrote:Part of me really wishes I could vent about everything especially with how he's has been portraying things. How many people here are a military spouse? How many of your husbands have security clearances? Randy isn't "some valet" like some of you think. Randy isn't a bad guy & I don't have it in me to be spiteful towards him. Only close family knows what Happened & thats how its going to stay.twomommies wrote:Are you ever gonna tell us what happened between you and Randy?TheRealHayleeAndBaby wrote:Otay,
Debt- I'm not sure what else to say but life happens, the end of 2016, 2017 & 2018 have been rough. To clear things up we have never been on Medicaid. when I was younger & living with my parents they counted all of the families income & we ended up making above threshold. I do have a few bills from back then I am currently paying back (almost paid off) co pays were high & very frequent due to some of Hazzels health issues. When Randy & I got married he went active duty for a year & we had tricare, then when he went back to working the civilian side he was no longer active duty & a reservist. Cars broke down... more times then I can count at this point & when I first started youtube I didn't understand the tax accept of it, well tax season came around & I didn't have nearly enough saved so I'm still paying on that & thats half of what I owe. I didn't get "deep" into debt because of "Tacky Victorias secret" crap, I don't have a credit card for them for the same reason I don't have one for target.. I'd max them out the first month haha My mistake was I didn't prioritize debt, well fuck lesson learned. The reason I don't just say these things is because I just want things private, no one needs to know everything but I realize the less detail I give the more people fill in the blanks with what they think happened.
House- We rent it, as for the timeline I have no idea, Randy & I haven't had much communication, anything I ask about I get "Don't worry about it" or "I'll take care of it" I don't have it in me to pry at the moment so when I thought he was going to be out he decided to stay & thats fine by me, I'm not sure what his plan is & I can't speak for him.
Bed situation- I really don't know how to say this without having people freak out but my dad is just kind of an ass... He's the tough love type, he hates any kind of change & is always irrational in the moment. Growing up his answer was always no till he actually sat back & thought the situation though. I brought up a few suggestions & he shot them down, I don't expect him to change his mind because it is his home but I think he will come around to the idea, as of right now Hazzel gets the bed & Ive been sleeping on the couch, someone suggested putting a body pillow between us so I think I'm going to give that a chance. ultimately my dad loves me & he's the one that offered me to stay because I went to him with this situation first.
I also wanted to talk about the 8 months to a year time I gave myself. Something else I didn't want to talk about just yet is that I talked to my parents about seeing a doctor to help with my depression & anxiety, given my past with trying different anti depressants my parents want to give me time to find whats going to work best & stay on them for a few months. not because they fear I will self harm, but because they both have been in my situation, they know its not good to be alone with thoughts. My dad will not accept any money I give him but we compromised, I'll be paying the internet bill & Tv bill.
The Dann situation- All I can say is poor Dann haha he's painted in a bad light when I can promise you all he's a good guy. He meant no ill intentions & was trying to help me make light of the shitty situation I'm in, he made a few jokes but I know he didn't think it would have blew up as big as it did. I really don't think he's interested in trolling this site, When I saw someone wanted to message him, I sent him a message just to give him a heads up that someone was going to confront him about something they "saw" (we have grabbed a drink a few times with friends but we've never been to a mall together) I just asked him to respect my privacy & not answer anything personal about my life. I babysit his son once or twice a week, he isn't my "New Man" but he has been a good friend to me. He thought he was helping but it wasn't taken that way, He sees the "production" & "entertainment" side of youtube, he doesnt watch family vloggers or daily vloggers he watches people who have a whole production team.
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I'm not trying to put the blame on him, things have been rocky for a long time, I take responsibility for my faults in this marriage & he admits his faults, we both could have been better in different aspects, at the end of the day he made his choices & I couldn't be around or forgive any longer.
Kinda sounds like he had a work related incident. Thinking back now I think I remember them saying he took a security position when he started working the overnights... oh shit, if something happened there than I see why she doesn't want to talk about it and thinks it could ruin him.TheRealHayleeAndBaby wrote:Part of me really wishes I could vent about everything especially with how he's has been portraying things. How many people here are a military spouse? How many of your husbands have security clearances? Randy isn't "some valet" like some of you think. Randy isn't a bad guy & I don't have it in me to be spiteful towards him. Only close family knows what Happened & thats how its going to stay.
If you came out and said “Randy and I have decided to separate due to wanting different things in life and we both saw our futures differently. We were young when we got married and unfortunately we it didn’t work out. My parents were nice enough to let us stay with them while I get my life back together and save for our new future..” no one would have speculated anything, they would have taken what you said as that. People are speculating and trying to fill in gaps in your story because it doesn’t make total sense. You said “He made a mistake no one should be expected to forgive” or something like that. Hell yeah people are going to speculate then! I find it interesting that you were reading here already; prior to that person finding Dann online.TheRealHayleeAndBaby wrote:If i would have left it as things just didn't work out there would be way more speculation. Damned if I do, damned if I don't type situation, You don't have to believe me I just wanted to say my piece. I'm not seeing anyoneFakingIt_MakingIt wrote:TheRealHayleeAndBaby wrote: I can't find the right words to express what I want to say/feel but "It just didn't work out" doesn't feel like an acceptable answer for us getting a divorce.
I wanted privacy with certain things & others I was going to talk about later on once I started to see a change. either way everyone is going to speculate but I can at least put the "new man" rumors to rest.
You've been feeding into the rumors though. There is really no need to say most of what you have said regarding the divorce, someone who truly wanted privacy and didn't want to air their dirty laundry would have just said it didn't work, its nothing specific that was done/said but its better for both of us to go our separate ways. That leaves a LOT less room for speculation and rumors.
I don't really feel the new man rumors have been put to rest either. I have no reason to believe that youre telling the truth, or that youre even Haylee, over another commenter here who has seen you in public, or the things Dan has said...
