Baconsgirl wrote:I completely understand if she’s tried to be by his side but what about the vow Katie took when she married Cullen “in sickness and in health.” Doesn’t that mean something? She should be by his side helping him and not kicking him out of the house.
On the other hand I do understand if she doesn’t want the kids seeing this.
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That's a tough one. Believe it or not, I actually get it. My ex told me that if I relapsed he would kick me out, which made it harder for me to ask for help when I did relapse. People say "You wouldn't kick him out if he had cancer, how is this different?" But although cancer destroys families, families don't usually blame themselves when someone has it either. Sometimes "tough love" is the only thing that gets through to the addict. When I was complaining about my ex kicking me out, one of my friends said "Get over it. You know you wouldn't respect him if he let you walk all over him". It's a hard line to walk between being supportive and enabling. For instance, getting up and getting the kids ready for school so I could go to my favorite 7am meeting every day was supportive. Enabling would have been covering up for me, or something like that.
It's so hard to say what the right thing to do is in that situation.
Katie is right that _Cullen's_ addiction isn't her fault. She didn't cause it, she can't cure it, and she can't fix it. But she does need to be facing up to any issues she may have herself.
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