AthenaA wrote:photonailpolish wrote:Mommasnark wrote:
Well you know they had to custom build their house because they aren’t a “normal” family! They do have four 4 year olds! Lol. Everyone now days has 4 kids and gets by with a regular house and a regular refrigerator. Hell the Bjnghams have 4 and 3 are boys who are going to be huge if they follow their dads height and eat a ton of food. They have a normal house and fridge. It’s laughable just because they are the same age doesn’t make your family size dynamic any different than anyone else’s.
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I would honestly think having 4 kids the same age is easier. Mindy has 4 kids in 3 different schools, 4 different activities, and 4 different needs. As do most people. When you have 4 kids the same age they all have relatively similar needs (in the Gardner’s case, basically all the same need, one gets a cut and they all get a bandaid mentality). Just don’t understand why that’s constantly an excuse, maybe I’m missing something?
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I think as 0-3 year olds four kids the same age would be hellish. But beyond that one dance class? One drop off for school? I can’t even add up how many pick up/drops off I have done this week and my kids aren’t super scheduled.
Similar developmental stages means that you can do activities and outings that suit everyone without much adjustment.
I would say this may change as they get older and develop their own interests but that won’t be allowed to happen.
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I have three different school aged kids. This school term I have 16 different practices/games/events per week. A lot of the time two kids need to be dropped off on the other side of town from each other at the same time. Im having to drop Mr 11 off 20mins early to get Miss 7 to her gymnastics. This is only Mon-Fri, it doesnt include weekend sports (one kid has friday night, two kids have Saturday mornings - at the same time) extra events (we mountain bike, triathlons, running events, etc).
It is a lot, but id much rather they be busy in sporting and extra curricular events than at home on devices and watching tv.
We are probably the exception around here. Most families would pick a summer sport and a winter sport and be down with that. We swim all year round, Mr 11 trains for soccer 3/4 of the year, Miss 7 trains for competitive gymnastics all year round (school holidays included).
Thankfully three kids are at the same school still, so one school drop off and pick up. My husband works 50-60/hrs a week and attends as many in school events as he can. I work 20-30/hrs a week (love love my job) and still fit in parent helping at various events the kids participate in. Our school sports co-ordinator always rings me when one of our kids is attending an event to check if ill be there
Shes lovely and she says I make her job easy on the day. So ill take that!
this year we are aiming to be more present in our kids lives - my husband nearly died from complications due to a very very routine surgery mid 2018 - so for us we know how fragile life is, we both want our children to have success and be able to participate in whatever takes their fancy and have us there to cheer them on. I am very lucky too that my kids are my parents only grandchildren so they are at the kids events 85% of the time too!
I wish the Gardners realised how easy they have it, real life is literal hard work - rill life is easy. They barely work and have help with the house, the girls, the lipshit and the blankets.