Brittani Boren Leach: Part Three

[hereforthekids]

I defended her and I had to take a huge step back from this thread. Some of the things I have read are absolutely sickening. Personally I will still defend her because I have never lost a child and I have no idea how I would react. I would want to lay around in bed all day sobbing but as a mother with 4 children myself, I wouldn’t be able to do that. Life has to go on. I’d have to put on a brave face at some point and start doing normal things again.

She may still be in denial that he’s gone, she may be clinging to some sense of normalcy by getting out of the house and going to Target. Who cares? I’m personally glad to see that so far she is not sinking into a dark depression. She’s getting out and doing things with her kids and with her spouse which I personally think are healthy outlets for grief. The truth is we only see what she wants us to see, and if she posted pictures or stories of herself crying in bed Lord knows everyone here would be up in arms about that too. And really, social media is her job, it’s the way she supports her surviving family members. While most people get back to work without much fanfare, she makes money by putting herself out there, so you’re all seeing it to criticize. If she doesn’t post she doesn’t make money. Now whether or not social media as a job is a good thing or not is another story but I’m not here to debate that aspect of things.

As for the GFM money, well Colleen Ballinger just posted a link of a GFM for the family of a 14-year-old girl who just died of cancer. They have exceeded their $150k goal by 3k so far. $153k, which is $53k more than “greedy” Brittani’s. Hopefully you are all equally as outraged over this.

Is that family on Instagram showing them blowing money on things like redecorating their child’s room for their birthday or redoing the floors in their home while posting shopping trips to Target after receiving $153,000? WHEN that family starts doing that come back here and ask me again then I can have an answer for you.

She went to Target and redid her floors before Cew’s death and the go fund me, so what’s so different about doing those things now? People act is if she and Jeff had absolutely no money before Crew’s deaths and are out spending every dime of the go fund me money now. You know what, if they are it’s heir business. Many on this site have already stated they didn’t donate so why does everyone fricken care how she spends it? It just blows me away that people think she can’t spend it on anything but hospital bills and has to donate it to people, how do you know she hasn’t done that?

We will see her intentions by the house she buys IMO. His income hasn't changed and hers hasn't from last year so, if they suddenly are able to buy a much more expensive house, then EVERYONE will know.

[kabuki]

I would honestly be VERY surprised if she donated any remaining GFM money. If she does, I could see her just donating a small portion of it and pretending that’s all that was left. I don’t think we will ever see receipts. I never contributed so I don’t really care tbh.

[honestT]

This is how this thread has been going.

Normal people posting speculations and stuff about Brittani.
Trolls responding to every post defending her

Mod comes in and tells them to stop

They stop for a while, but come back a few days later.

Rinse and repeat


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I think the other loss moms are well intentioned trying to empathize with her and defend her, but this girl was recently replying/commenting laughing and clapback emojis to her buddies on the photo of her child on life support – a photo from the night before he officially died. Her behavior is disturbing and there's no way around it.

[Ms Davis]

Hahahaaha we’re watching you like a hawk Brittani what’s your next purchase from ohhh could it be a Nordstrom’s try on haul???? I can’t with this pathetic girl.


Did the alcohol taste good last night?? I’m calling it she’ll be pregnant by the end of 2020.


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Yep, before this year is done she will be knocked up again.


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[kmarie]

This is how this thread has been going.

Normal people posting speculations and stuff about Brittani.
Trolls responding to every post defending her

Mod comes in and tells them to stop

They stop for a while, but come back a few days later.

Rinse and repeat


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And lots of people disrespecting the mods rules for no cause of death speculation and please be respectful to Brittani and other posters. You forgot that.

[kmarie]

Is that family on Instagram showing them blowing money on things like redecorating their child’s room for their birthday or redoing the floors in their home while posting shopping trips to Target after receiving $153,000? WHEN that family starts doing that come back here and ask me again then I can have an answer for you.

She went to Target and redid her floors before Cew’s death and the go fund me, so what’s so different about doing those things now? People act is if she and Jeff had absolutely no money before Crew’s deaths and are out spending every dime of the go fund me money now. You know what, if they are it’s heir business. Many on this site have already stated they didn’t donate so why does everyone fricken care how she spends it? It just blows me away that people think she can’t spend it on anything but hospital bills and has to donate it to people, how do you know she hasn’t done that?

We will see her intentions by the house she buys IMO. His income hasn't changed and hers hasn't from last year so, if they suddenly are able to buy a much more expensive house, then EVERYONE will know.

I would be shocked if she wasn’t making a lot more now than a year ago with all the sponsorships and endorsements, I stopped watching her videos Because of all the sponsorships.

[kmarie]

She just posted that she's redoing Cash's room now. I would think if they thought they were going to be in a new house in the next few months she would just wait until they had moved to do it. Why buy more stuff only to take it down soon and have to drag it with them when they move?

All I saw was new sheets, a pillow and a framed picture... it didn’t seem like it’d be hard to take down.

[fossilfinger]

She just posted that she's redoing Cash's room now. I would think if they thought they were going to be in a new house in the next few months she would just wait until they had moved to do it. Why buy more stuff only to take it down soon and have to drag it with them when they move?

All I saw was new sheets, a pillow and a framed picture... it didn’t seem like it’d be hard to take down.

Yeah, you're right. I guess I was thinking she would redo all the boys' rooms and then move. Maybe it's only Cash's for his birthday.

[sezzajaydee]

I still don’t understand how she hasn’t officially acknowledged Crew’s cause of death.
I get she doesn’t owe us an explanation but putting everything else out there but not that seems odd.

Personal - my cousin passed from SIDS before my parents even met. My aunt rang me the day found out I was having a baby and suggested websites (Red Nose for those wondering) for me to go check out. 40 years after her son died, it’s still her first priority to educate people in the hopes they never have to deal with it.

I hope that once this manic episode passes Brittani can use her platform to educate and hopefully prevent even at least one person from having to bury their child.

[skippy1931]

I'm far from an idiot I make mistakes like anyone else and I spoke up that I made the mistake one would hope people could accept and apology move on and not be nasty about it

You aren’t an idiot at all. I don’t think that she was specifically talking about you. I totally understand why you were defending Brittani as you are also a loss parent, as were most of the people who were defending her. You are a very nice person actually


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Thank you so much for saying this .

[jessbless]

I was one who defended her when people were suggesting she killed her child, were demanding to know how every penny of the GFM was spent, and other weird things.

But I also see how her behavior does not come across as normal. She’s doing weird things but I also think being a social media “influencer” is weird. She’s been posting swipe up links to Target for Lord knows how long. Are we really surprised she’s still doing that? It’s how she makes money. Yeah, we all thinks it’s strange because we’d never do it. But we’re also not influencers. We’d all be back to work by now and so is she. As untraditional as it may be.

Also, I never understood why some people think gossip has to equal hate. You can gossip about someone and not despise their existence.


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[LexiRae]

This is how this thread has been going.

Normal people posting speculations and stuff about Brittani.
Trolls responding to every post defending her

Mod comes in and tells them to stop

They stop for a while, but come back a few days later.

Rinse and repeat


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And lots of people disrespecting the mods rules for no cause of death speculation and please be respectful to Brittani and other posters. You forgot that.

The mod hasn’t had to come in multiple times to tell those people to stop starting in. You however...


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[girlandboymom]

I was taught that if you want to give to someone who appears in need, do it and don't worry about what they do with the money. That is between him/her and his/her conscience/ God. That being said, I certainly won't be giving to her. I don't see a need and I have completely lost the tiny bit of respect I had for her. She lost a follower and subscriber in me. She appears to be the furthest thing from a grieving parent and I've unfortunately known quite a few.

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[kmarie]

This is how this thread has been going.

Normal people posting speculations and stuff about Brittani.
Trolls responding to every post defending her

Mod comes in and tells them to stop

They stop for a while, but come back a few days later.

Rinse and repeat


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And lots of people disrespecting the mods rules for no cause of death speculation and please be respectful to Brittani and other posters. You forgot that.

The mod hasn’t had to come in multiple times to tell those people to stop starting in. You however...


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Uh yeah she has Lol. And me what???

[kmarie]

Also, I never understood why some people think gossip has to equal hate. You can gossip about someone and not despise their existence.


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THANK YOU! However, some seem unwilling to grasp this concept.

[wonderwall99]

I found out about brittani maybe on day 2 or 3 of crew being in the hospital. My son had judt turned 6 months old, it was just after Christmas and her story absolutely killed me. I was posting her posts to my stories getting the word out, I held my son that night crying and praying for them. The pain they must have felt is unfathomable. Every mother that heard this story I think was grieving for them.

And I didnt even watch the girl! After he had passed and reading all the prayers here in the early days of his "accident" let's say I was genuinely emotional for her and her family. But ever since this, I've had such a funny feeling about family vloggers.

When everyone was posting about how could she be posing on the floor in the hospital and all these filters on her photos of her brain dead child tied up to all these machines I sort of felt like, when we don't know how shes dealing with this, shes an influencer she lives her life on SM its maybe natural for her.

But now I feel so weird about how hard I felt for this family, all family vloggers. Like, we dont know these people, it's not like actors where we dont see their personal lives every day. They dont bring us into their bathrooms or kids dr appointments or kitchens for every meal whereas these youtubers do. Vloggers are in my opinion now creepy and personal but not in a good way.
It feels ominous that she had vlogs of Crew since his birth and then suddenly hes gone. Obviously she didnt know but I keep thinking about it in such a creepy way. Anyways, I just wanted to let that out for some reason.

I dont hate the girl, I still think outliving your children is hell on earth but I also dont agree with how she has decided to post about her grieving process.

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[ZaGaNoDr1968]

Loooonnnngggg time lurker ( literally years), first time posting.

Just saw on IG, she's/they're out HOUSE HUNTING y'all. She's trying to get Cash to walk down the stairs and he keeps jumping and nearly falling. That bugged me. I didn't hear her once say "stop" or "no, you'll fall and hurt yourself" or actually parent him and teach him how to safely maneuver the stairs. I'm a Mom to FOUR boys, all but one (my baby is almost 16) are grown and out of the house.

Also, I posted a comment on her IG post of the boys zooming down the street on scooters "Helmets, please!!!" before she removed them.

[angelmamma]

I’m just curious if anyone else has noticed all the ones that defended her for weeks are now nowhere to be found on this thread or have been changing their tune all of a sudden.

I've not changed my tune. I've buried a child, I understand grief looks different for everyone. The woman that I've worked with for the past 17 years lost her oldest son to suicide about 2 years ago --- I've watched her grieve completely different from myself -- her grief looks more like Brittani's.

But I just don't post because it's just a hate fest, no matter what she does there is someone accusing her of something. It doens't matter if she cries, smiles, stays home or goes out -- it's all met with vitrol and hatred.

Would I do some of the things she's done? No. Would I do things the way my co-worker has? No. But I am at least willing to accept that everyone grieves differently and in this era of self-absorbed social media it's only predictable that some people are going to hit that publish button on their grief.

I thought to redecorating of his bedroom was a huge cry for help, she's talked about pretending he's a home, now she's redecorating his bedroom? I think she's close to a complete breakdown --- but I'm sure in about 30 seconds someone will be on here sayng she's doing it for views.

So no, we're not gone, and we haven't changed our minds, we're just chooseing not to engage with the hate-fest.

Funny how most of the people defending her were extremely loud, and aggressive, and created their own 'hate-fest' towards other members who had opinions that differed from theirs. Now that more people are actually realizing how shady they've been, they have been more quiet.
I have noticed loss parents on here seem to be triggered and taking other people's opinions personally, especially when this all broke out. Sorry, but if you're triggered by this, maybe reading a gossip forum regarding this isn't a conducive environment for you.
I am a loss parent too and I do not excuse any of Brit's behavior. I actually think she's a piece of shit who exploited her son's last moments and death for 10 seconds in the sun and $$$. I find her and the husband disgusting for also scamming and purposefully pulling on people's heartstrings and wallets so they can buy a bigger house and shop. Grief is not an excuse to scam or exploit. The whole, "Oh, everyone grieves differently" just enables her unhealthy, toxic, and opportunistic behavior.
Just because someone is grieving does not give them an excuse to make their child's death one big advertisement for their own personal gain. Grief is not an excuse to be scum.
Does anyone know if her house is on the market yet? They have been house shopping I have noticed.


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[brittknee]

She went to Target and redid her floors before Cew’s death and the go fund me, so what’s so different about doing those things now? People act is if she and Jeff had absolutely no money before Crew’s deaths and are out spending every dime of the go fund me money now. You know what, if they are it’s heir business. Many on this site have already stated they didn’t donate so why does everyone fricken care how she spends it? It just blows me away that people think she can’t spend it on anything but hospital bills and has to donate it to people, how do you know she hasn’t done that?

Some of us did donate and those of us who did are raising the questions so there’s that.

As far as it blowing your mind that people think she can’t spend it on anything but hospitals you should click the link to the GFM that was setup for her where it clearly states that’s what the money was needed for AND that as the family saw fit for the hospital charges they’d raise the goal.

I AM JUST SAYING if you or a family member saw the need to set up a GFM because you were financially in need then you don’t need to be on social media showing shopping trips and redoing the floors in your closet and other things along those lines.

If your finances were or are that bad to where you continuously raised the GFM goal to where it exceeded 6 figures then there is no need for the excessive shopping and spending when 3 weeks ago you asked for financial assistance.

[hereforthekids]

She went to Target and redid her floors before Cew’s death and the go fund me, so what’s so different about doing those things now? People act is if she and Jeff had absolutely no money before Crew’s deaths and are out spending every dime of the go fund me money now. You know what, if they are it’s heir business. Many on this site have already stated they didn’t donate so why does everyone fricken care how she spends it? It just blows me away that people think she can’t spend it on anything but hospital bills and has to donate it to people, how do you know she hasn’t done that?

Some of us did donate and those of us who did are raising the questions so there’s that.

As far as it blowing your mind that people think she can’t spend it on anything but hospitals you should click the link to the GFM that was setup for her where it clearly states that’s what the money was needed for AND that as the family saw fit for the hospital charges they’d raise the goal.

I AM JUST SAYING if you or a family member saw the need to set up a GFM because you were financially in need then you don’t need to be on social media showing shopping trips and redoing the floors in your closet and other things along those lines.

If your finances were or are that bad to where you continuously raised the GFM goal to where it exceeded 6 figures then there is no need for the excessive shopping and spending when 3 weeks ago you asked for financial assistance.

And Brittani made a point in her video to say "We didn't start the GFM"

But she hasn't made one reference to starting a memorial fund or such for Crew.
She didn't stop the giving until it was well over 100K. And she didnt' even stop it.

She didn't say "Hey, donate this portion of your sales to a local non profit like Now I lay me down to sleep to help with others who want those precious memories.

She acts as if she was oblivious to all of this but will freely take the money.

I think she should be accountable for the 100K that she received in funds from people.