Dani_465 wrote: ↑Sat May 23, 2020 5:55 pm
Sunshineee9 wrote: ↑Sat May 23, 2020 5:51 pm
Dani_465 wrote:
That annoyed me sooooo much! My younger daughter, Emma. My husband Justin. For real? We know their names!! Their names are in the intro. We know you only have one living daughter and what her name is.
And the whole boy mom thing? Uh hello!? You have a daughter, you aren’t a solely boy mom.
And her favoritism is ridiculous! Of course now she’s doing it on purpose.
I've had 3 miscarriages. If I eventually have a live birth, I'm not going to refer to that child as younger daughter or son. It's just weird and seems like she hasn't grieved her loss yet. I'm sure when my future kids are old enough to understand we will tell them about what happened before then but it won't be a frequent reminder.
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I’m sorry for your losses.
No one in my immediate family has ever had a miscarriage. But my aunt has. And I didn’t hear it from my aunt, I believe my mom mentioned it in passing. It just wasn’t something that was brought up.
Long time lurker, first time poster here.
I’m so sorry for your losses.
I really had to get this off my chest. By referring to Emma as her younger daughter, she is constantly pushing her into her stillborn daughter’s shadow. Which is super unfair and discredits all of the children she already had.
Some people try for years and don’t succeed. My grandma had multiple miscarriages, 1 life birth (my mom) and 1 late-term loss (the doctors did not believe my grandmother when she said she felt pregnant and didn’t test her even though she asked for it.) They deemed the chances of pregnancy small given her prior history and age. My uncle was way over his possible due date and died in the womb because of that and my grandmother was hospitalized to remove him from her womb. She never spoke about this and my mom told me herself years ago.
It took my mom years to get pregnant (we probably have fertility issues in the family) and she also had an ectopic pregnancy before she had me. Of course it hurts when she talks about it, but she never brings it up as she gave it a place years ago. She knew that it wouldn’t help her nor her children to dwell on.
Neither of them ever referred to their children as for example: “my third child” or “my second daughter”. Or even speak about their miscarriages/stillbirths like Rachel does. She really needs to go into therapy, because what she is doing is in no way healthy for her nor her kids. Mourning is understandable, but I feel like she keeps dragging it on and it might affect her kids as well, especially Emma.