It's easy to be so righteous and say you wouldn't react in a negative way when you're not in the same position. The problem here isn't *just* the sibling having to give up the downstairs bedroom, and the post literally explains that. In fact, that's probably the least of the issues, there's clearly a lot more beneath the surface for this reddit user. It seems like a lot of misplaced anger, probably towards the parents but it ends up being taken out on the sibling. They probably should have figured out a better way to be attentive to both if possible, and it seems like they've created a dynamic where the older sibling's feelings don't even matter anymore.megangold27 wrote: ↑Sat Jun 13, 2020 11:58 amThank you. I couldn’t believe that this person was legitimately defending a 20 year old being angry that she has to move out of her bedroom in her parents house because her rapidly declining brother is wheelchair bound and can’t go upstairs anymore.stephdee wrote:The person in the Reddit post clearly stated they were 20 so yes that person is a grown ass adult perfectly capable of living independently compared to the terminally ill 7 yr old brother. I can’t believe a person could be so heartless specially towards their sibling complaining about attention being taken away from them. I don’t condone that type of resentment at all there’s absolutely no excuse. The little brother was 3 when the poster was 16 what could the child have “gotten away with” that bothered them so much. I was 13 when my little brother was born and yes he gets away with a lot of shit too specially since he’s the only boy (out of 5 siblings) of course we feel like he’s the favorite but I would never talk about my little brother like that ever.oracle51495 wrote:Yeah, I think the difference is her kids don't even know about Nolan's condition so it's not really an issue between sibling relationships at this point. I would say they will end up resenting HER more than they would Nolan since they have that close sibling bond. But as this person on reddit said, they have zero relationship with this disabled sibling, plus they mentioned they were in University or something. It's unfair to say they're a disgusting person because first of all, they're clearly not a "grown ass adult" making those comments. They're college aged.
The parents should've done a better job too, to just baby him all the time is probably what turned him into somewhat of a brat to begin with. Sometimes we see Nolan being bratty too, and I'm sure a bunch has to do with the pain they're in, but parents really need to take responsibility for those things.
There's probably much more to the story, and it's easy for YOU to call them disgusting because you're not in their shoes. I don't blame them for feelings of resentment at all, same as how I wouldn't blame Aria, Harlow or Scarlett for any feelings if resentment towards their own situations. All I'm saying is that in their situation, they're more likely to feel the hate and betrayal towards their mother than Nolan, but I certainly don't blame this person either, especially if the sibling has zero bond with them and their entire family and expects them to drop their college work, real work (said they worked 8 hours or something) all the time.
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What would we be saying if this was Aria off in college, working an 8 hour essential job, and Britney sitting on her ass making Aria take care of Nolan? I'm sure people would be sympathizing with Aria.
Plus, my overall point was I DO NOT think Aria or Harlow will feel this way towards Nolan BECAUSE they have a very close sibling relationship and not a strained one like this.