pineberry wrote: ↑Mon Jun 15, 2020 2:29 pm
MSAfan wrote: ↑Mon Jun 15, 2020 9:43 am
These mothers who only want girl babies, I don’t get...just have gender selection done then because if it’s a boy you’re not going to be that into him. And the child will know.
This is something I’ve been noticing especially ever since I’ve become pregnant beginning of this year and been in a lot of contact with others who are. Seems like 99% of women just want daughters and I have even seen some say they’d be "devastated" (
) to have a boy. You know what *I* would be devastated about?! Not being able to conceive, having a loss, having a stillbirth, having a baby that has severe health issues.. you know, the stuff that actually warrants devastation. Also, there’s a roughly 50/50 chance of having a boy so if you absolutely cannot deal with a precious little boy, then maybe dont even try for a baby in the first place lol. Also, how sad for that little person that you CHOSE to create, that has no control over their gender..that you were disappointed/devastated with what they are gonna be.
Geeze I’m sure you can tell how annoyed I am at all these women just wanting girls hahaha. I swear, in my bumper group on another forum I’m like the only woman there that’s actually excited to be having a boy. Freaking annoying.
I’ve said it before on this forum but one of the big reasons why "youtubers" or "instagrammers" only want girl babies is becauset they’re more instagrammable and sell better on social media. Also, because these vain narcissistic women want a "mini me" (I cringe when I see someone refer to their daughter that way) instead of an actual individual, that they can put bows and frilly pink dresses on. In those cases I hope their daughters grow up to be tomboys & want nothing to do with any of that girly stuff lol.
I have seen women say they would be “devastated” to have a boy, cried for hours, all that stuff. It’s so weird to me because they knew going into it there was a chance for a boy. And what is so bad about a little boy anyway? These same women will be wanting some woman to have a boy for the daughter they want so bad to reproduce with in the future, lol, so it’s ironic. Glad for them their husband’s moms didn’t feel the way they do.
I’m like you, the real causes for devastation would be to have a child that is seriously ill, for the child’s sake. Or one that doesn’t make it.
I remember some blogger who both her and her husband were devastated they were having a boy, and the poor little guy was born with something life-threatening, I don’t remember the disease. And then her second baby was a boy too, I can’t remember but he might have had a disability too.
She had wanted a girl so she could put her in ballet classes.....okay but what if the girl hadn’t wanted to be in ballet?
I think I’m sensitive on the issue because my niece was a tomboy through most of her childhood and adolescence and she caught hell for it. Bullied at school, bullied by her own cousins, her grandmother on her father’s side...it was very upsetting to me, who was a teenager at the time. My sister could have cared less about her not wanting to wear fancy dresses or being into princess costumes or not wanting to play with dolls and choosing sports over dance classes. My niece was sickly so my sister only worried about her health.
I think a lot of it was people’s fear that she was going to be gay p, as if that was such a big deal, and it never was to me and it really bothered me to see that even family would be willing to shun a member for something like that.
So I am with you, while it might be fun to dress a baby up fancy, that is a reason to have a baby. It’s not a doll, it’s a human being. I really do think a lot of the obsession with a daughter is to dress her up, to have her be the stereotype of a “girly girl” and to be pretty and all that because I see a lot of the complaints of “no cute clothes for boys” (which I disagree...I could find cute clothes for boys).
I want a baby someday but my chances are slim to none at my age and maybe that’s why I can’t imagine not being grateful just to have a child.
Also I worked with kids with severe disabilities so I saw what can really be something to be “devastated” about, seeing your child suffer, over not being able to get more followers or dress someone a certain way.
And I do worry about those children who have those expectations on them to be the dream child that the parent wants.
Ironically I was wanted to be a boy because my dad hoped to have someone to go to baseball games with him. And while that was normal and sweet and all, even if I had been a boy, I might not have been into sports.
I hope parents just love their child for who they are, no matter what it is.