CognitiveDissonance wrote: ↑Mon Aug 03, 2020 12:58 am
I tend to give Shari a massive break when it comes to her behavior. For so many years, especially in the beginning videos you could see Shari and Ruby just clashing/rubbing each other the wrong way. It really seemed like Shari wanted nothing to do with her mom. Shari seemed like she was hungry all the time and always just as assumed child caregiver for Ruby. Regardless if her grades are not perfect A's, I do believe that she is the smartest one in the house (yes including Kevin).
I think we don't see her "boyfriend" or "school friends" any more is that she flat out refuses to play that game with Ruby. She used to give her mom some footage of her evenings out, but that stopped before the move. I think Shari is full into her exercise addiction that she can share with her dad away from the house.
If Ruby chooses to homeschool but doesn't put Shari back into private school for her senior year, I can see her enrolling herself at the local high school. She's not about to get trapped into Ruby's Flower's in the Attic: Homeschool 2020 bc she will end up as primary teacher and she does not have the patience for that. Ruby needs to help Russell with his reading and Ruby needs to get Abby caught up with math. It would be nice to see Kevin participate, but I don't see that happening. This is Not Shari's responsibility. This family has resources more than most.
I agree with you that Shari is the smartest in the house. I am an Engineer and hearing Kevin speak makes me cringe every time. Unless he was letting the experiment fail to help Shari learn, that bridge building vlog provided a terrifying insight into Kevin's innate understanding of simple trusses (or lack thereof). Ruby actively works against them in their education, so it is a huge credit to Shari that she has been the only kid in the house to not fall below grade level.
I also agree that Shari is too smart to be trapped in Ruby's Flower's in the Attic: Homeschool 2020 (awesome name, can we make this the next thread title?). I still have hope Kevin will participate in the homeschool with tutoring after work at minimum. I am in this weird place with Kevin. I find him to be awful, but after watching tons of old footage it is clear that when he was around (which isn't enough), he was often spending the time with his kids. We just never saw as much footage of it because Ruby was the one with the camera at home, and Kevin was shuttling the kids around.
When it was only Shari and Chad at the private school, Kevin was the one driving them up before work, and then picking up from activities after work. When he couldn't fit the long school commute in anymore, Ruby still refused to drive them, choosing to sleep in with Eve every day and hire a driver. He was always coming home with surprise pizzas as if he had known Ruby would fail to feed the kids dinner yet again. He would bring Chad to the sport's bar for his birthday, or Abby to harp camp weekend, buying her a new outfit when she forgot to pack a dress. He didn't even make her pay for it. I still haven't figured out when Kevin abandoned the one-on-one time though, as neither parent seems to make an effort now.