Phil and Alex: Struggling With Maternity After Laboring For Eternity | Part 10

[Chatabox]

It’s like they’ve never heard of a cot or a bassinet. In their newest vlog she slept in the high chair with a blanket propping her up, and later she was sleeping on the floor. That can’t be comfortable for Cassidy.

[ChickyChickyParmParm]

It’s like they’ve never heard of a cot or a bassinet. In their newest vlog she slept in the high chair with a blanket propping her up, and later she was sleeping on the floor. That can’t be comfortable for Cassidy.

Or safe, for that matter. I could pay off my hospital bill of I had a nickel for every time a doctor or nurse stressed to me that babies need to sleep:
-alone
-flat on their backs
-in a crib

I keep saying it over and over again, but it's astonishing to me that a former NICU nurse and mother of three knows virtually nothing about caring for an infant. It's mind-blowing.

[sondraK]

Alex could get a pack n play or a bassinet for the living room.It would be better than the floor or a high chair

[lizzipizzo]

Why would she take her (and the whole fam) all the way into the ped just to get a weight? You'd think she would buy a scale for home since weight fluctuations are such a factor right now.

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[Elliecat]

Ta da! “Cassidy the Unicorn has tongue and lip ties! Not my fault she failed to thrive. Not my magical milk’s fault. She’s cardiac and has these ties. No one believed me and I’ll show them.”

She’s gleeful. Positively euphoric. Making a whole blog about ties, like she’s now an expert. Give. Me. Strength.


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[Here_2_talk]

#TTchampion
#TongueTieSurvivor
#notMYfault

[In the middle]

Alex is so freaking smug and it irritates the shit out of me. Regardless of WHY Cassidy was struggling to feed, having a newborn with CHD and failure to thrive, number one priority is weight gain. She didn’t care that he daughter was not gaining weight, nor does she seem happy now that she has. Cassidy’s health is far more important than Alex’s stupid BF dream

[theshamanisright1]

Alex is so freaking smug and it irritates the shit out of me. Regardless of WHY Cassidy was struggling to feed, having a newborn with CHD and failure to thrive, number one priority is weight gain. She didn’t care that he daughter was not gaining weight, nor does she seem happy now that she has. Cassidy’s health is far more important than Alex’s stupid BF dream

She just wanted to lord it over people, nevermind her sick starving infant

[LucyDiamond]

My first had a lip & tongue tie and getting it fixed made a big difference so I’m usually a big advocate for getting them diagnosed and fixed quickly but O. M. G. Alex needs to move on. It can’t possibly be very severe if multiple medical professionals missed it. I also feel like that poor babe is going through enough as a young baby that I think unless they thought it would cause speech issues I would leave it. A revision isn’t a huge deal but it’s one more thing for that poor baby to have to recover from. Plus they would have to actually do the aftercare for it to not come back.

[JeasicaA71184]

My first had a lip & tongue tie and getting it fixed made a big difference so I’m usually a big advocate for getting them diagnosed and fixed quickly but O. M. G. Alex needs to move on. It can’t possibly be very severe if multiple medical professionals missed it. I also feel like that poor babe is going through enough as a young baby that I think unless they thought it would cause speech issues I would leave it. A revision isn’t a huge deal but it’s one more thing for that poor baby to have to recover from. Plus they would have to actually do the aftercare for it to not come back.

I just had a baby about 3 weeks ago and we are choosing to not get it revised at this current time. It’s a personal decision. Plus I found it nearly impossible to find either a pediatric dentist or ENT who was completely on board with doing them on babies. It seems it’s more acceptable of speech is involved. Which I
Am perfectly ok with doing if there are issues.

I’d be curious how many people have completely stopped following or watching Alex at this point. Her obsession with breastfeeding and breastmilk is beyond weird. We get it - it’s world breastfeeding week and every damn post on Instagram is repeating itself. It’s obnoxious at this point.

[mg1978]

Their dreams of having a biological baby have finally come true and shes beautiful but their channel is so boring lately. I honestly dont care how much milk shes got stored in the freezer. I'm annoyed with her constantly trying to push breastmilk on a baby that isnt handling it well

[ChickyChickyParmParm]

So whatever happened to Cassidy nursing like a rockstar? In her first days at home, Alex could not get off her high horse about how amaaaaazing Cassidy was at breastfeeding. Now all of a sudden she has a lip tie and tongue tie that were preventing her from eating well?
Which is it?

[Amsouthernbell]

I actually don’t believe they went and saw a special Lactation consultant. I think she is lying just to “proof” she is right.

I already can see her say “Cassidy overcame her lip and young tie”

[Tiredofspoiledbrats]

My daughter has a tongue and lip tie and ya she was a pretty crappy feeder.. my milk never came in so she was a bottle feeder from the start and literally took foreverrrrr to eat but she still ate? The tongue and lip tie can not be the reason Cassidy is flat out refusing to eat. We never got hers fixed and she actually did overcome it (she’s 3 now) now she sticks her tongue out and when she was still on the bottle she gradually got better and better. The lip tie we will have to address as she gets older and gets braces and stuff but never did she just flat out refuse to eat to the point that she needed a feeding tube. Alex is just looking for someone to blame as usual

[HashtagBlessed]

So whatever happened to Cassidy nursing like a rockstar? In her first days at home, Alex could not get off her high horse about how amaaaaazing Cassidy was at breastfeeding. Now all of a sudden she has a lip tie and tongue tie that were preventing her from eating well?
Which is it?

Oh I completely agree, her shifting narratives make zero sense. According to her, Cassidy's feeding issues have been from her cardiac condition, acid reflux, and now a lip/tongue tie. Except Alex went on and on about how much milk she was getting from breastfeeding after weightings, so probably not a lip/tongue tie if she was getting plenty of milk before she ran out of steam/suddenly started throwing everything back up depending on the narrative of the day.

I'm sure some lactation consultant are great, but even if she actually met with one, they are not medically trained. The lactation consultant at the hospital I delivered at was useless, but the pediatric nurse practitioner was awesome and greatly helped me figure out breastfeeding. I find it hard to believe that a severe lip/tongue tie was missed by numerous pediatricians. I agree, sounds like Alex looking for someone to blame for things not going her way. Frenotomies to correct this "condition" have exploded in recent years (A 2017 study found an 866% increase in frenotomies in babies between 1997 and 2012.) And it's mostly lactation consultant pushing parents to take their babies to pediatrics dentists to have the procedure, without ever consulting a pediatrician. While some babies may truly need it, it's become a trendy catch-all diagnosis for lactation consultants' when breastfeeding is rough in the beginning.

It can help some people, but a lot of babies feed just fine and outgrow it, so you really need to weigh baby after feedings to gauge if it's causing a true issue or not. Since Cassidy was taking in plenty of milk when she could breastfeed, I find it hard to believe that was her issue.

This sounds like the "cardiologist's nutritionist" allegedly telling Alex to feed her newborn walnut oil, before it became "my friend the nutritionist" who in all honesty is probably a nobody she met on social media, if she exists at all.

[Haulnarse]

My two oldest both had tongue ties. My oldest would latch well but not stay on, resulting in raw and bleeding nipples. It took us 7 days to get it confirmed as a tie and on day 10 we had it snipped. Literally the easiest thing - doctor uses tiny wee nail like scissors to cut it. (2007) No theatre, no numbing, baby latches immediately after and job done. Our second was confirmed in hospital at day 2 and although she fed okay, she was premature and wasn’t gaining weight. We has hers snipped also (2009), hers was heart shaped and would have 100% affected her speech (think Jamie Oliver).

Our nieces (4 out of 7 nieces/nephews) all had tongue ties none were snipped - SIL didnt believe in it she battled to breastfeed. Her girls are 6-13yrs old and all have some kind of speech issue, cant lick ice creams, poke tongues out far etc. Apparently ties can be genetic - we had 6 kids out of 10 born to siblings with it.

If in doubt - honestly get it cut! They are more painful if cut later and cause way more issues than people realise if untreated.

[webbygurl626]

My youngest had a lip and tongue tie but couldn’t find anyone local who would cut them luckily he outgrew the tongue tie and his big brother helped him with the lip tie when he was about one year old by accidentally kicking him right in the exact spot and it’s been fixed ever since


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[In the middle]

My baby had an undiagnosed heart condition and she was SO much like Cassidy. Fed like a dream, slept like a dream etc, but failed to thrive. She ‘looked’ to be feeding great because she’d feed then drop off to sleep, seemingly content. Really it was sheer exhaustion from the effort it took to feed with her heart the way it was & at one month she was still under birth weight. You can’t always take your cues from baby, because sometimes unwell babies are a dream because they sleep so much & aren’t fussy.
Alex, being a NICU nurse, should know this.

[Dani_465]

Now “nurse genius” is looking for baby scale suggestions. She should have already had one!

[Elliecat]

Argh, she is totally missed the point of World Breastfeeding Week. This week is not “to celebrate the beauty of breastfeeding”, as she says. It is all about getting mothers the correct support to breastfeed. She thinks she is being all humble by saying that she stands for all women, when that is actually the whole purpose of the week. She is clearly getting confused with National Breastfeeding Celebration Weeks.

I quote from the WHO: “The theme of World Breastfeeding Week 2020 is “Support breastfeeding for a healthier planet”. In line with this theme, WHO and UNICEF are calling on governments to protect and promote women’s access to skilled breastfeeding counselling, a critical component of breastfeeding support.”

Instead of acting high and mighty, whilst going on and on about how amazing you are at it, train to be a peer supporter (I did the training with a 7 month old last time). Get to women in your community who need support and learn how to give that support without making women feel like they have failed.

Alex has truly fucked up here and I’m so cross that she has undermined the whole purpose of this important week.


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