Rash and Justine - Life’s a slog, with nothing to vlog | Part 30

[Dani_465]

I came on last night to mention her “posters” and how they are for restaurants and y’all beat me to it lol. Trashy claims she isn’t a decorator and it shows. LOL Altho, she claims it but goes on to buy “posters” and love muted colors BS. trashy needs to get REAL artwork, they have the money. And she bought “posters” from
SCANDINAVIA? Doesn’t that go against her IG bull shit and only buying from small businesses?

Hey trashy? The word is PRINTS not posters, dumbass. You don’t put posters in frames.

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Is Beau Beau going on walks with them? Since its a revolutionary thing and Rash mentions it every chance she can does that mean that they never walked him? Also newsflash Rash lots of people go on walks everyday with their kids even twice a day. When I was off work sometimes I would even go *gasp* three times a day.

Also does anyone else think it's weird that every color is yellow to Emma? And that she still doesn't know her colors? I get sometimes kids mix up their colors every once in a while but she says everything is yellow. In the one vlog she called 5 different crayons yellow until she got the right one. I don't think my son is advanced by any means but he's a month older than Emma and has known his colors for a long time.

[mamabear01]

Is Beau Beau going on walks with them? Since its a revolutionary thing and Rash mentions it every chance she can does that mean that they never walked him? Also newsflash Rash lots of people go on walks everyday with their kids even twice a day. When I was off work sometimes I would even go *gasp* three times a day.

Also does anyone else think it's weird that every color is yellow to Emma? And that she still doesn't know her colors? I get sometimes kids mix up their colors every once in a while but she says everything is yellow. In the one vlog she called 5 different crayons yellow until she got the right one. I don't think my son is advanced by any means but he's a month older than Emma and has known his colors for a long time.

My daughter is Emma’s age and has know all her colors from 18 months and is on to baby blue, light pink, turquoise, etc. but it would surprise you how many 24/25 month olds don’t know more than 1 or 2 colors. Many kids in my daughters play group only can correctly guess 1 or 2, especially when their vocabulary is 100-200 words


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[Dani_465]

Is Beau Beau going on walks with them? Since its a revolutionary thing and Rash mentions it every chance she can does that mean that they never walked him? Also newsflash Rash lots of people go on walks everyday with their kids even twice a day. When I was off work sometimes I would even go *gasp* three times a day.

Also does anyone else think it's weird that every color is yellow to Emma? And that she still doesn't know her colors? I get sometimes kids mix up their colors every once in a while but she says everything is yellow. In the one vlog she called 5 different crayons yellow until she got the right one. I don't think my son is advanced by any means but he's a month older than Emma and has known his colors for a long time.

Well don’t forget trashy only believes in fugly muted colors. Emma wouldn’t know any bright colors to save her own life.

[mamabear01]

I actually have a theory that this Montessori play/learning method is bad in the long run for kids, it’s the reason we have “strong, independent” kids that don’t like to listen to instruction and don’t sit well in class and are hitting the bare minimum milestones. Many of my mom friends are like Rachelle in that they wanted their baby/toddler to learn independent play quickly. They were always working on forcing them to play by themselves, like Rachelle putting Emma in a corner with the exercise table or by herself to play with a sensory bin. In her update on Emma’s speech, she said one of the goals was for Emma to play more independently from mom, because Emma is a mommy’s girl...how messed up is that? So then Emma and these kids all learn that they can play by their own rules and play in their own way without having instruction from their parents or even their parents teaching them what they’re playing with.
Thoughts??

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[Mammababe111]

I actually have a theory that this Montessori play/learning method is bad in the long run for kids, it’s the reason we have “strong, independent” kids that don’t like to listen to instruction and don’t sit well in class and are hitting the bare minimum milestones. Many of my mom friends are like Rachelle in that they wanted their baby/toddler to learn independent play quickly. They were always working on forcing them to play by themselves, like Rachelle putting Emma in a corner with the exercise table or by herself to play with a sensory bin. In her update on Emma’s speech, she said one of the goals was for Emma to play more independently from mom, because Emma is a mommy’s girl...how messed up is that? So then Emma and these kids all learn that they can play by their own rules and play in their own way without having instruction from their parents or even their parents teaching them what they’re playing with.
Thoughts??

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I completely agree! I think you either have that type of kid or don’t. You can’t force it or try and teach it.. just let it happen naturally. With my 4 year old she has a hard time playing alone .. she’s constantly asking me or my husband to play with her and we do but we set boundaries and tell her “ ok we will play with you for 20 minutes and after that we have to cook dinner” or something like that, and she’s always usually involved in the tasks we are doing and I explain/ teach and show her. My 10 month old is super independent. He will play with his toys for hours by himself and I can get a lot of stuff done. Most of the time I do want to sit down and play with him, introduce the colors, teach him words, etc. she just has really bad parenting expectations and freaks out when it doesn’t go to how she wants. She needs to chill and enjoy those kids in all of what they want to do. She needs to get down on the floor and teach her some shit. Parenting is hard! It’s not plopping your kids in front of an activity 24/7 hoping they will magically develop on their own.

[Tweedles3]

I actually have a theory that this Montessori play/learning method is bad in the long run for kids, it’s the reason we have “strong, independent” kids that don’t like to listen to instruction and don’t sit well in class and are hitting the bare minimum milestones. Many of my mom friends are like Rachelle in that they wanted their baby/toddler to learn independent play quickly. They were always working on forcing them to play by themselves, like Rachelle putting Emma in a corner with the exercise table or by herself to play with a sensory bin. In her update on Emma’s speech, she said one of the goals was for Emma to play more independently from mom, because Emma is a mommy’s girl...how messed up is that? So then Emma and these kids all learn that they can play by their own rules and play in their own way without having instruction from their parents or even their parents teaching them what they’re playing with.
Thoughts??

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I agree with this, I think engagement is the best way for your child to learn. I also think too much independent play doesn’t challenge toddlers to learn how to play with others. Understandably, play dates aren’t really happening now, and if your child doesn’t go to daycare, you have to become the daycare, in a sense. Maybe Justin needs to get more involved with Emma, if she is clinging to mommy too much.


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[mamabear01]

I actually have a theory that this Montessori play/learning method is bad in the long run for kids, it’s the reason we have “strong, independent” kids that don’t like to listen to instruction and don’t sit well in class and are hitting the bare minimum milestones. Many of my mom friends are like Rachelle in that they wanted their baby/toddler to learn independent play quickly. They were always working on forcing them to play by themselves, like Rachelle putting Emma in a corner with the exercise table or by herself to play with a sensory bin. In her update on Emma’s speech, she said one of the goals was for Emma to play more independently from mom, because Emma is a mommy’s girl...how messed up is that? So then Emma and these kids all learn that they can play by their own rules and play in their own way without having instruction from their parents or even their parents teaching them what they’re playing with.
Thoughts??

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I agree with this, I think engagement is the best way for your child to learn. I also think too much independent play doesn’t challenge toddlers to learn how to play with others. Understandably, play dates aren’t really happening now, and if your child doesn’t go to daycare, you have to become the daycare, in a sense. Maybe Justin needs to get more involved with Emma, if she is clinging to mommy too much.


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Well I think Emma wants rash because rash never spends quality time playing with her on floor. If she’s playing with her, it’s in front of a camera or distracted on her phone. If rash spent the boys nap times solely focusing on Emma, then Emma would feel seen and heard. It would do wonders for her!


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[mamabear01]

I actually have a theory that this Montessori play/learning method is bad in the long run for kids, it’s the reason we have “strong, independent” kids that don’t like to listen to instruction and don’t sit well in class and are hitting the bare minimum milestones. Many of my mom friends are like Rachelle in that they wanted their baby/toddler to learn independent play quickly. They were always working on forcing them to play by themselves, like Rachelle putting Emma in a corner with the exercise table or by herself to play with a sensory bin. In her update on Emma’s speech, she said one of the goals was for Emma to play more independently from mom, because Emma is a mommy’s girl...how messed up is that? So then Emma and these kids all learn that they can play by their own rules and play in their own way without having instruction from their parents or even their parents teaching them what they’re playing with.
Thoughts??

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I completely agree! I think you either have that type of kid or don’t. You can’t force it or try and teach it.. just let it happen naturally. With my 4 year old she has a hard time playing alone .. she’s constantly asking me or my husband to play with her and we do but we set boundaries and tell her “ ok we will play with you for 20 minutes and after that we have to cook dinner” or something like that, and she’s always usually involved in the tasks we are doing and I explain/ teach and show her. My 10 month old is super independent. He will play with his toys for hours by himself and I can get a lot of stuff done. Most of the time I do want to sit down and play with him, introduce the colors, teach him words, etc. she just has really bad parenting expectations and freaks out when it doesn’t go to how she wants. She needs to chill and enjoy those kids in all of what they want to do. She needs to get down on the floor and teach her some shit. Parenting is hard! It’s not plopping your kids in front of an activity 24/7 hoping they will magically develop on their own.

Yes exactly! My daughter is the same way, but now that’s she in imaginary play she talks with her toys and doesn’t always need me there. It just took time for her to learn! And my son is the same way, so I make a point to really engage with him so that he does learn.


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[discretechristine]

I think Montessori teaching and learning in a whole is a different than a lot of people think.

Even though it is child directed it is the parents or teachers responsibility to arrange play activities, toys and daily chores and routines in a child friendly way and observe the child as they interact in their environment. That makes learning appealing in a natural no pressure way. While also setting up a free environment with safe limits!

People like Rash hide behind the fact that their children should be able to play independently. Montessori philosophy is much more than independent play. It tells heavily on the fact that a parent or teacher creates an environment that is child friendly and safe. Yes it teaches independence but in a “natural” or regular way. For example, Montessori toilet training is different that a lot of traditional methods of potty training. Instead of praise and congratulations on every little thing like peeing on the potty “oh my gosh amazing, here’s a fruit snack, good job!” The action is acknowledged/ appreciated and then you move on from that. No one cheers or gives fruit snacks to adults when they use the toilet!

Children that are raised in a truly Montessori environment while practicing it properly don’t act out in those ways described above. Kids just are the way they are regardless of teachings. Especially when a parents claims to practice those philosophies but does so poorly with little to no structure.

EDIT: To add, Rash is DEFINITELY not practicing Montessori in the proper way. Sure she uses some Montessori elements. But if you do a quick search of Montessori channels on YouTube you can really see how twisted Rash has things.


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[mamabear01]

I think Montessori teaching and learning in a whole is a different than a lot of people think.

Even though it is child directed it is the parents or teachers responsibility to arrange play activities, toys and daily chores and routines in a child friendly way and observe the child as they interact in their environment. That makes learning appealing in a natural no pressure way. While also setting up a free environment with safe limits!

People like Rash hide behind the fact that their children should be able to play independently. Montessori philosophy is much more than independent play. It tells heavily on the fact that a parent or teacher creates an environment that is child friendly and safe. Yes it teaches independence but in a “natural” or regular way. For example, Montessori toilet training is different that a lot of traditional methods of potty training. Instead of praise and congratulations on every little thing like peeing on the potty “oh my gosh amazing, here’s a fruit snack, good job!” The action is acknowledged/ appreciated and then you move on from that. No one cheers or gives fruit snacks to adults when they use the toilet!

Children that are raised in a truly Montessori environment while practicing it properly don’t act out in those ways described above. Kids just are the way they are regardless of teachings. Especially when a parents claims to practice those philosophies but does so poorly with little to no structure.

EDIT: To add, Rash is DEFINITELY not practicing Montessori in the proper way. Sure she uses some Montessori elements. But if you do a quick search of Montessori channels on YouTube you can really see how twisted Rash has things.


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Well then no one I know practices Montessori in the proper way, even the Montessori schools, cause it’s rarely teachers or parents guiding the kids. The environments are set up safely and then the kids try to learn by themselves or being taught by the older kids.


ETA: let’s not get off topic of snarking on Rash. Sorry!

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[Tweedles3]

I think Montessori teaching and learning in a whole is a different than a lot of people think.

Even though it is child directed it is the parents or teachers responsibility to arrange play activities, toys and daily chores and routines in a child friendly way and observe the child as they interact in their environment. That makes learning appealing in a natural no pressure way. While also setting up a free environment with safe limits!

People like Rash hide behind the fact that their children should be able to play independently. Montessori philosophy is much more than independent play. It tells heavily on the fact that a parent or teacher creates an environment that is child friendly and safe. Yes it teaches independence but in a “natural” or regular way. For example, Montessori toilet training is different that a lot of traditional methods of potty training. Instead of praise and congratulations on every little thing like peeing on the potty “oh my gosh amazing, here’s a fruit snack, good job!” The action is acknowledged/ appreciated and then you move on from that. No one cheers or gives fruit snacks to adults when they use the toilet!

Children that are raised in a truly Montessori environment while practicing it properly don’t act out in those ways described above. Kids just are the way they are regardless of teachings. Especially when a parents claims to practice those philosophies but does so poorly with little to no structure.

EDIT: To add, Rash is DEFINITELY not practicing Montessori in the proper way. Sure she uses some Montessori elements. But if you do a quick search of Montessori channels on YouTube you can really see how twisted Rash has things.


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Good information! Maybe this is my inner-cynic talking, but I think a lot of moms, including a lot of influencers, are just into the toys alone, not the teaching style. There are some awesome wooden, open-ended toys out there, and there are dozens of Youtube channels based on these toys and making the ultimate, minimalist playroom. I got caught up in it for a short time, almost spent $100 on a Grimms wooden rainbow. The toys are nice, but definitely draw an affluent crowd. I can absolutely see influencer moms feeling elitist about being able to buy these.


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[Haulnarse]

What got me in the recent vlog was emma not being able to say the boys names. Then them cheering her on even though she said the names wrong. The boys are what 3-4 months old?? She should have their names down AND how to hold a baby - she had poor reuben in a choke hold!

She shows very little interest in the boys and/or rash and justin haven’t spent time doing proper introductions - bar “be gentle”.


My eldest was 16 months old when his sister was born and he was all over her - absolutely loved her, wanted to help with everything, asked to hold her every five minutes, brought her toys, diapers, blankets etc. Same kid was 3 when his next sister was born and he was glued to that baby too. He cried when he had to go to kindy because he didn’t want to miss out on her cuddles! We spent ages both times with baby dolls, friends babies, doing introductions, role play, teaching him all the things babies needs or want, showing him how to hold a baby, teaching him their names, reassuring him.

Emma just seems so incredibly blah and disinterested in everything. They have all the time in the world and are fudging parenting big time!

[Tweedles3]

What got me in the recent vlog was emma not being able to say the boys names. Then them cheering her on even though she said the names wrong. The boys are what 3-4 months old?? She should have their names down AND how to hold a baby - she had poor reuben in a choke hold!

She shows very little interest in the boys and/or rash and justin haven’t spent time doing proper introductions - bar “be gentle”.


My eldest was 16 months old when his sister was born and he was all over her - absolutely loved her, wanted to help with everything, asked to hold her every five minutes, brought her toys, diapers, blankets etc. Same kid was 3 when his next sister was born and he was glued to that baby too. He cried when he had to go to kindy because he didn’t want to miss out on her cuddles! We spent ages both times with baby dolls, friends babies, doing introductions, role play, teaching him all the things babies needs or want, showing him how to hold a baby, teaching him their names, reassuring him.

Emma just seems so incredibly blah and disinterested in everything. They have all the time in the world and are fudging parenting big time!

I wonder if having twin siblings versus just one has some effect in Emma’s relations with the boys. My son is like her, just older. He has little interest in his twin siblings , I honestly think he feels outnumbered and threatened by their presence. Especially now that they are crawling/almost walking, and they often close in on him and grab him to pull themselves up. My daughter pounces on my older son and pulls his hair. He can’t get through a meal at the table without a baby pulling up and grabbing at his legs. He’s now three and we allow him to go upstairs to his room to play when he wants to, because being around the babies all day has to over-stimulating and exhausting. I’m wondering how Emma will be with the boys once they are older and mobile.


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[Sillysailing]

Can I just say that Rachel’s vocal fry is SO bad? Why does she do that? So many vloggers think it sounds good and it is like nails on a chalkboard to me.
Also dairy free cooking is not hard. There are tons of food without milk/dairy in them. She is so weird.
And then the walks at night. She acts like she invented taking a walk with your kid!!! I mean come on.....


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[mahamilton]

Rachelle can't even say 'grande'?

Howwwwwwwwwww?

[mahamilton]

Can I just say that Rachel’s vocal fry is SO bad? Why does she do that? So many vloggers think it sounds good and it is like nails on a chalkboard to me.
Also dairy free cooking is not hard. There are tons of food without milk/dairy in them. She is so weird.
And then the walks at night. She acts like she invented taking a walk with your kid!!! I mean come on.....


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Yes!! I was watching old vlogs (pre emma) a few days ago and her voice seems SO different now. She keeps getting more and more annoying each day lol.

[Dani_465]

Rachelle can't even say 'grande'?

Howwwwwwwwwww?

There’s A LOT of words she can’t say. That’s one thing you’ll never hear Kaylee say lol. Trashy you’re so smart!

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Oh I don’t know, Rachelle... maybe change Reuban’s diaper at least once a day?? Jesus...

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[discretechristine]

I think Montessori teaching and learning in a whole is a different than a lot of people think.

Even though it is child directed it is the parents or teachers responsibility to arrange play activities, toys and daily chores and routines in a child friendly way and observe the child as they interact in their environment. That makes learning appealing in a natural no pressure way. While also setting up a free environment with safe limits!

People like Rash hide behind the fact that their children should be able to play independently. Montessori philosophy is much more than independent play. It tells heavily on the fact that a parent or teacher creates an environment that is child friendly and safe. Yes it teaches independence but in a “natural” or regular way. For example, Montessori toilet training is different that a lot of traditional methods of potty training. Instead of praise and congratulations on every little thing like peeing on the potty “oh my gosh amazing, here’s a fruit snack, good job!” The action is acknowledged/ appreciated and then you move on from that. No one cheers or gives fruit snacks to adults when they use the toilet!

Children that are raised in a truly Montessori environment while practicing it properly don’t act out in those ways described above. Kids just are the way they are regardless of teachings. Especially when a parents claims to practice those philosophies but does so poorly with little to no structure.

EDIT: To add, Rash is DEFINITELY not practicing Montessori in the proper way. Sure she uses some Montessori elements. But if you do a quick search of Montessori channels on YouTube you can really see how twisted Rash has things.


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Well then no one I know practices Montessori in the proper way, even the Montessori schools, cause it’s rarely teachers or parents guiding the kids. The environments are set up safely and then the kids try to learn by themselves or being taught by the older kids.


ETA: let’s not get off topic of snarking on Rash. Sorry!

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Apologies for going off topic. I just find it infuriating that Trashy hides behind the veil of Montessori practises. Just because she worked at a Montessori play school/ daycare. She gives the wrong impression to her audience. She’s had the whole thing backwards from the beginning. She never does activities with Emma geared to her age range, she doesn’t have a safe environment or yes space for Emma to play in, she’s never shown or practices with Emma any real life skills such as brushing her own teeth or helping in the kitchen. She just sends her off to play in her messy playroom while she sits her ass on the couch talking to the camera.


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