Rash and Justine - Life’s a slog, with nothing to vlog | Part 30

[spicy_dreams]

I know everyone deals with grief in different ways and I don't mean to offend anyone or be insensitive to loss, but did anyone else find it a little strange that Rachelle showed Emma pictures of Brynn? My parents lost a baby (my brother) at 39 weeks and growing up we heard his name and learned about him casually in conversation or when it was his birthday (we never had a party, but my parents would talk about him on that day). But I was never shown a picture of him as a young child? I don't know, it just seemed odd to me? I mean Emma is so little and can't really comprehend what it's a picture of. Plus (again trying not to be insensitive but) Brynn wasn't a full term baby so she doesn't look like a normal baby, and it could scare Emma? Or at the very least she could tell that "mommy and daddy were sad" and that alone is problematic considering Emma doesn't know why they're sad. I feel like she could've just talked to her about Brynn without the picture. I just hope Emma doesn't feel like she's growing up under Brynn's shadow.

I 100% agree with you. I've had 3 losses and plan to tell my hopefully future kids someday but 2 is not age appropriate. Even elementary school isn't really appropriate. I can't believe she shows her the pictures of that. Emma luckily isn't comprehending what it is other than mom and dad are sad but I agree that that is probably too much at that age too.

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Maybe I just don't know what I'm talking about but I like the idea of telling kids this stuff while they're still really young. You don't have to sit them down for a whole talk with photos and shit, but even though they don't really comprehend it, it still builds up the knowledge gradually. I think that's less traumatic than waiting until they're old enough to understand.

It's also maybe a trust/respect thing, but mostly because kids have a really basic gut instinct about trust, without the critical thinking skills to get the necessary perspective to understand why their parents didn't tell them sooner.

Just casually informing them with really simple facts about it as they're beginning to talk/listen/figure out their world. Like bringing it up on each birthday of the late sibling etc. And when the kid inevitably have questions, THEN you give more details. Giving more details as they're old enough to understand.

There was a traumatic death in my family before I was born. All I knew was that this person was dead, I'd be reminded of it every now and then, it was really normal. When I was old enough, my mother told me how they died. THAT part was a bit harder to deal with, but I still didn't know much. I was glad to finally know. I got more details as I got older and occasionally asked about it. The knowledge I have now was slowly compiled throughout my life, and it was really the best way to go about it imo. There was never a moment where I thought "why did my parents keep this from me for so long?". I think that could possibly cause kids to feel like... Excluded? Untrustworthy, disrespected, demeaned. Idk.

Anyway, I just think it's better to start off young as casually as possible and go from there. It's a lot to process for a kid, so it seems preferable to me that it should be a slow burn not a bomb drop.

[wonderwall99]

Did anyone see Justin's post about the boys not letting him have any time together and his frustration at the fact that he feels all the child caring is on Rash's shoulders and he feels useless....

So i get it. I think all babies go through the "hating dad" stage. My son did for about a month and my husband felt terrible he was so sad. But also.... my husband works everyday. He gets up in the mornings and busts his ass to give us a good life. He helps me when he gets home with cooking and cleaning and always did things for me when I needed it especially when our son was only a few months old.

I dont understand this guilt. He is home literally ALL DAY EVERY DAY. You wouldn't feel guilty that your wife does everything if you stepped up in other ways dude. Do laundry. Make dinner. Clean the bathroom. Roll up your sleeves and make a garden or start the landscaping in the backyard idiot. Vacuum. Or he could do his own DIY videos with wood working and building or doing things around the house! Bring your daughter out for walks or to the park or just out. They're so lucky to live in Cali. I realize the smoke is probably still bad but the weather is always so nice that they have the luxury to be outside practically all year round.

I think this dude needs to go out and get a damn job. He is so lazy in my opinion. I cant imagine someone saying all this and saying they feel useless at home but don't do anything to change that. He won't get a job. He likes being home and being lazy and sitting on the couch. I'm sorry I dont want to say that it's a mans job to work and the woman's to stay home with the kids but realistically that's the narrative they live in. But we know rash won't leave the kids, and there's 3 of them. So that leaves him to go out and get a job but ... nope. He would rather stay home and do 2 classes a week.

I would be very upset if my husband was that lazy.


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[Sunshineee9]

Did anyone see Justin's post about the boys not letting him have any time together and his frustration at the fact that he feels all the child caring is on Rash's shoulders and he feels useless....

So i get it. I think all babies go through the "hating dad" stage. My son did for about a month and my husband felt terrible he was so sad. But also.... my husband works everyday. He gets up in the mornings and busts his ass to give us a good life. He helps me when he gets home with cooking and cleaning and always did things for me when I needed it especially when our son was only a few months old.

I dont understand this guilt. He is home literally ALL DAY EVERY DAY. You wouldn't feel guilty that your wife does everything if you stepped up in other ways dude. Do laundry. Make dinner. Clean the bathroom. Roll up your sleeves and make a garden or start the landscaping in the backyard idiot. Vacuum. Or he could do his own DIY videos with wood working and building or doing things around the house! Bring your daughter out for walks or to the park or just out. They're so lucky to live in Cali. I realize the smoke is probably still bad but the weather is always so nice that they have the luxury to be outside practically all year round.

I think this dude needs to go out and get a damn job. He is so lazy in my opinion. I cant imagine someone saying all this and saying they feel useless at home but don't do anything to change that. He won't get a job. He likes being home and being lazy and sitting on the couch. I'm sorry I dont want to say that it's a mans job to work and the woman's to stay home with the kids but realistically that's the narrative they live in. But we know rash won't leave the kids, and there's 3 of them. So that leaves him to go out and get a job but ... nope. He would rather stay home and do 2 classes a week.

I would be very upset if my husband was that lazy.


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I'm not sure about the military paying for his college, but I know a friend of mine cannot work while they pay for him going to grad school. I'm not sure how it all works because my husband has a few years before he plans on going back to grad school so it's been the last thing on our minds and I haven't looked into it much.

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[Mammababe111]

There’s a difference between having a private conversation with your kids no matter how old on your stillbirth daughter but another thing when you’re exploiting her to get more views and more money. It’s not genuine and no one should justify that behavior. This is way past “ raising awareness” she needs therapy.

[frustratedytwatcher]

Did anyone see Justin's post about the boys not letting him have any time together and his frustration at the fact that he feels all the child caring is on Rash's shoulders and he feels useless....

So i get it. I think all babies go through the "hating dad" stage. My son did for about a month and my husband felt terrible he was so sad. But also.... my husband works everyday. He gets up in the mornings and busts his ass to give us a good life. He helps me when he gets home with cooking and cleaning and always did things for me when I needed it especially when our son was only a few months old.

I dont understand this guilt. He is home literally ALL DAY EVERY DAY. You wouldn't feel guilty that your wife does everything if you stepped up in other ways dude. Do laundry. Make dinner. Clean the bathroom. Roll up your sleeves and make a garden or start the landscaping in the backyard idiot. Vacuum. Or he could do his own DIY videos with wood working and building or doing things around the house! Bring your daughter out for walks or to the park or just out. They're so lucky to live in Cali. I realize the smoke is probably still bad but the weather is always so nice that they have the luxury to be outside practically all year round.

I think this dude needs to go out and get a damn job. He is so lazy in my opinion. I cant imagine someone saying all this and saying they feel useless at home but don't do anything to change that. He won't get a job. He likes being home and being lazy and sitting on the couch. I'm sorry I dont want to say that it's a mans job to work and the woman's to stay home with the kids but realistically that's the narrative they live in. But we know rash won't leave the kids, and there's 3 of them. So that leaves him to go out and get a job but ... nope. He would rather stay home and do 2 classes a week.

I would be very upset if my husband was that lazy.


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I came here to say this!! Like I get it, but most men aren't at home all day for their kids to not want them so if you find it so upsetting go out and get a job!!!! My husband works a 12 hour day comes home and gets 50 minutes with my son including putting him to bed.
Also I find it so cringey rachelle took that "emotional" picture of him and emma for the post

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[Tweedles3]

Did anyone see Justin's post about the boys not letting him have any time together and his frustration at the fact that he feels all the child caring is on Rash's shoulders and he feels useless....

So i get it. I think all babies go through the "hating dad" stage. My son did for about a month and my husband felt terrible he was so sad. But also.... my husband works everyday. He gets up in the mornings and busts his ass to give us a good life. He helps me when he gets home with cooking and cleaning and always did things for me when I needed it especially when our son was only a few months old.

I dont understand this guilt. He is home literally ALL DAY EVERY DAY. You wouldn't feel guilty that your wife does everything if you stepped up in other ways dude. Do laundry. Make dinner. Clean the bathroom. Roll up your sleeves and make a garden or start the landscaping in the backyard idiot. Vacuum. Or he could do his own DIY videos with wood working and building or doing things around the house! Bring your daughter out for walks or to the park or just out. They're so lucky to live in Cali. I realize the smoke is probably still bad but the weather is always so nice that they have the luxury to be outside practically all year round.

I think this dude needs to go out and get a damn job. He is so lazy in my opinion. I cant imagine someone saying all this and saying they feel useless at home but don't do anything to change that. He won't get a job. He likes being home and being lazy and sitting on the couch. I'm sorry I dont want to say that it's a mans job to work and the woman's to stay home with the kids but realistically that's the narrative they live in. But we know rash won't leave the kids, and there's 3 of them. So that leaves him to go out and get a job but ... nope. He would rather stay home and do 2 classes a week.

I would be very upset if my husband was that lazy.


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It’s interesting because he is home all day, that the babies should see a lot of him and not be so clingy to Mommy, only. My kids are lucky to have both of us around, my husband is with them a little more than me because I am working upstairs during the day. All three kids are equally attached to both of us, with little leanings to one parent. My 3-year old is daddy’s boy, my 12-month old son is mommy’s boy. Granted, I wasn’t able to bf my kids, so we both fed them and created bonds that way. If he plays with the kids at all and comforts them, they should be a little more accepting of him, right? That seems like a weird complaint from him, like it’s an excuse for him to be doing something else. What is he doing all day, I’m genuinely curious. I think that is part of what they are hiding from their viewers.


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[Cookiemonster24]

I wonder what happened. Reading here?


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[mamabear01]

I wonder what happened. Reading here?


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Oh for sure! Rash probably reads here how much we call Justin lazy and finally had enough and told Justin off and said that we all agree with her. So then he got upset and cried too.....
Let’s be honest, as much as they’re both lazy, it seems rash does everything with the kids, except the bedtime routine with Emma. At least that’s what they show in the vlogs and how are we supposed to believe otherwise.


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[mamabear01]

So I think this is why they won’t do a real “day in the life vlog”. This is how I predict their day goes.
Rash wakes up with the twins and nurses them and then makes their morning bottle to supplement.
Emma wakes up and Justin goes and gets her and brings her to their room and he lies back in bed while Emma runs around the room.
Rash puts the boys in their swings and goes into the kitchen with Emma and “makes” her a frozen waffle and puts her in the corner high chair to eat by herself while rash goes and eats cereal.
Then Emma plays by herself in the play room while rash goes and sits on the couch.
Then the boys need to eat and go down for a nap, so she makes them a bottle, props them to eat it in their swings and then when they finish she puts them in their cribs for their nap.
Then she goes back to the couch again.
Justin finally emerges from the room and grabs chips and goes to do his zoom class in the bedroom.
The boy’s wake up and rash puts them in the living room on the floor.
Rash “makes” lunch and sits with Emma to eat.
Then it’s Emma’s nap time. Rash decided to go to the store while Emma naps.
(Justin is alone with the boys!! You know what that means, they do stay with him and let him do stuff with him! Otherwise rash wouldn’t be able to leave the house. Also clearly rash wouldn’t be exclusive BFing because she would complain that her trips to the store are hard to plan with BFing boys).
Justin gives the boys a bottle and puts them down for a nap.
rash comes home and boys and Emma wake from nap.
Rash breastfeeds the boys and then tops them off with a bottle.
They go outside and put the boys in the bouncers while Emma runs around on the grass and Justin and rash just sit and watch.
The boys take a nap in the swings.
Uber Eats delivers dinner. They eat and then starts bedtime routine. Justin gives Emma a bath and puts her to bed while rash gives both the boys a bottle and puts them to bed.


Notice how I didn’t include their “daily” walks, cause we stopped seeing those so they only happened for that week. Also notice we no longer see rashes nightly pumping sessions...she’s not even pumping anymore or we would hear about it and she would brag about replenishing her stash.


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[MarshmallowBreath]

So I think this is why they won’t do a real “day in the life vlog”. This is how I predict their day goes.
Rash wakes up with the twins and nurses them and then makes their morning bottle to supplement.
Emma wakes up and Justin goes and gets her and brings her to their room and he lies back in bed while Emma runs around the room.
Rash puts the boys in their swings and goes into the kitchen with Emma and “makes” her a frozen waffle and puts her in the corner high chair to eat by herself while rash goes and eats cereal.
Then Emma plays by herself in the play room while rash goes and sits on the couch.
Then the boys need to eat and go down for a nap, so she makes them a bottle, props them to eat it in their swings and then when they finish she puts them in their cribs for their nap.
Then she goes back to the couch again.
Justin finally emerges from the room and grabs chips and goes to do his zoom class in the bedroom.
The boy’s wake up and rash puts them in the living room on the floor.
Rash “makes” lunch and sits with Emma to eat.
Then it’s Emma’s nap time. Rash decided to go to the store while Emma naps.
(Justin is alone with the boys!! You know what that means, they do stay with him and let him do stuff with him! Otherwise rash wouldn’t be able to leave the house. Also clearly rash wouldn’t be exclusive BFing because she would complain that her trips to the store are hard to plan with BFing boys).
Justin gives the boys a bottle and puts them down for a nap.
rash comes home and boys and Emma wake from nap.
Rash breastfeeds the boys and then tops them off with a bottle.
They go outside and put the boys in the bouncers while Emma runs around on the grass and Justin and rash just sit and watch.
The boys take a nap in the swings.
Uber Eats delivers dinner. They eat and then starts bedtime routine. Justin gives Emma a bath and puts her to bed while rash gives both the boys a bottle and puts them to bed.


Notice how I didn’t include their “daily” walks, cause we stopped seeing those so they only happened for that week. Also notice we no longer see rashes nightly pumping sessions...she’s not even pumping anymore or we would hear about it and she would brag about replenishing her stash.


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You hit the nail on the head with this. Bravo


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[dramallama429]

Maybe it’s just me but I totally think she’s overplaying the boys not wanting Justin. I feel like she over exaggerates it to make herself feel good and like she’s the best mom ever. It’s a competition for her. I feel like she loves seeing Justin upset over not being the “favorite parent.”

[Haulnarse]

Maybe it’s just me but I totally think she’s overplaying the boys not wanting Justin. I feel like she over exaggerates it to make herself feel good and like she’s the best mom ever. It’s a competition for her. I feel like she loves seeing Justin upset over not being the “favorite parent.”

100%

Theres never any indication given in vlogs that the boys scream for him or know shes not there. It’s ridiculous.

Shes out running errands without any kids multiple times a week. Her sister babysat, kaylee babysits. Thats not indicative of the boys ONLY wanting her.

Shes doing this for arsepats and “sympathy”. That is all.

[Dani_465]

This photo screams staged. I firmly believe in real men cry and have emotions. But there’s something about justina’s emotions that rub me the wrong way and i find it annoying.

[ZaGaNoDr1968]

Has anyone else noticed that we have NEVER seen the boys get a bath? Not ONCE.

[spicy_dreams]

This photo screams staged. I firmly believe in real men cry and have emotions. But there’s something about justina’s emotions that rub me the wrong way and i find it annoying.

Agree, his emotions are always so off/fake. It's not a guy thing either, I've seen plenty of guys get genuinely emotional and it always hit me in the heart. I feel nothing when it comes to Justin's display of emotions, it just always seems like he's acting? And badly.

If I'm watching someone *really* cry it makes me cry too, if somebody is writing something that's genuine and honest then that also hits me. And maybe it's just because I don't like or trust Justin, but he's so... Superficial. When he's showing his emotional side he's gotta really make a show out of it, or at least what he thinks people want. And Rachelle encourages it, it's appealing for a vlogger family audience.

It's just slimy. Justin thinks he's gonna come off so sensitive and profound and "perfect husband material". Rachelle knows that image is good for the brand. It's gross, surface level deception that their young impressionable audience falls for.

Remember when Justin sobbed over BLM and then never mentioned it again? Cause I do lol.

[discretechristine]

This photo screams staged. I firmly believe in real men cry and have emotions. But there’s something about justina’s emotions that rub me the wrong way and i find it annoying.

Agree, his emotions are always so off/fake. It's not a guy thing either, I've seen plenty of guys get genuinely emotional and it always hit me in the heart. I feel nothing when it comes to Justin's display of emotions, it just always seems like he's acting? And badly.

If I'm watching someone *really* cry it makes me cry too, if somebody is writing something that's genuine and honest then that also hits me. And maybe it's just because I don't like or trust Justin, but he's so... Superficial. When he's showing his emotional side he's gotta really make a show out of it, or at least what he thinks people want. And Rachelle encourages it, it's appealing for a vlogger family audience.

It's just slimy. Justin thinks he's gonna come off so sensitive and profound and "perfect husband material". Rachelle knows that image is good for the brand. It's gross, surface level deception that their young impressionable audience falls for.

Remember when Justin sobbed over BLM and then never mentioned it again? Cause I do lol.

The only times I’ve heard Justin (or Rash for that matter) genuine display of emotions is during the births of their children.

Him crying over the BLM movement was 100% forced/ fake. Rash constantly poking her fingers in her eyes, again forced/ fake.

She 100% edits his photos and writes his captions for Instagram pictures.


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[Sunshineee9]

Here's some advice Trashy. Don't force your kids onto a schedule to make your life easier. Clearly that's not what they need.

Also suprise surprise that she's going to put Reuben in another room but Asher will stay with her.

And WTF is up with that weird angle hugging scene.

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[discretechristine]

“WHY we are separating our twins”

~~~FoR sLeEp ReAsOnS~~~

(watched on double speed and skipped the ads lets me watch so much faster lol)

UGH this whole video pissed me off! I can’t stand these two anymore!
Okay I get it, it’s hard being a parent to newborns. I’m right there with you, my baby isn’t even a year old yet. These two have GOT TO STOP HAVING SUCH HIGH EXPECTATIONS FOR THEIR BABIES SLEEP! AND FORCING THEM ON THE SAME SCHEDULE.
Stop forcing a schedule!!! I’m a big believer in “flexible routine” rather than “ridged schedule” I know it would make life easier but you two are home 24/7!!!!! No mandatory commitments outside the home besides for fun “extra curricular” activities or youth group or whatever.
Anyone feel free to enlighten me, why two stay at home parents need to force a schedule on their young tiny babies.
Rash mentioned so many times that they are individual babies. So here’s an idea, why don’t you start treating them like that!! Why keep forcing a schedule. They clearly have different needs at different moments so why not responds to your babies cues and needs as they present them instead of “oh it’s TIME to feed THEM” when one is hungry but the other is not. “oh, A just woke up, can’t let R sleep too much longer.”

To me that is so SAD! Stop forcing your children to be/ do things they aren’t ready for and just RESPOND to them as the individual babies that they are!!


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[mamabear01]

Hi rash! thanks for including your rice cake breakfast and then a hello fresh meal to show you can cook! Lol please realize that she said her favorite part (big emphasis) ofhello fresh is that she can skip weeks and months. AKA skip when they don’t have a sponsorship.


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[justhereforthetea88]

“WHY we are separating our twins”

~~~FoR sLeEp ReAsOnS~~~

(watched on double speed and skipped the ads lets me watch so much faster lol)

UGH this whole video pissed me off! I can’t stand these two anymore!
Okay I get it, it’s hard being a parent to newborns. I’m right there with you, my baby isn’t even a year old yet. These two have GOT TO STOP HAVING SUCH HIGH EXPECTATIONS FOR THEIR BABIES SLEEP! AND FORCING THEM ON THE SAME SCHEDULE.
Stop forcing a schedule!!! I’m a big believer in “flexible routine” rather than “ridged schedule” I know it would make life easier but you two are home 24/7!!!!! No mandatory commitments outside the home besides for fun “extra curricular” activities or youth group or whatever.
Anyone feel free to enlighten me, why two stay at home parents need to force a schedule on their young tiny babies.
Rash mentioned so many times that they are individual babies. So here’s an idea, why don’t you start treating them like that!! Why keep forcing a schedule. They clearly have different needs at different moments so why not responds to your babies cues and needs as they present them instead of “oh it’s TIME to feed THEM” when one is hungry but the other is not. “oh, A just woke up, can’t let R sleep too much longer.”

To me that is so SAD! Stop forcing your children to be/ do things they aren’t ready for and just RESPOND to them as the individual babies that they are!!


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Two stay at home parents here and I have no idea how one forces a baby on a schedule. Our daughter rules the roost. Luckily she's a good night sleeper naturally. Naps are a always a disaster. I can't handle the crying long enough to even attempt any kind of nap training. But pretty much everything is on demand with her. Perhaps a perk her being an only child for now.

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