Ugh I was just thinking about this. I realize all people greive differently and some people internalize it and completely go inwards. It can be hard to support someone grieving if they won't let you but also when you're married you HAVE to communicate that. You have to express what helps, what doesn't, what you need and what you don't need.tieruhhlynn wrote:So I don't normally comment in here but the fact that she used Frank's grandpa as an excuse as to why they're having problems is ridiculous. My husband's grandpa passed away (his parents didn't raise him, his grandpa did) and he was super close to him so he was devastated. If anything, we became stronger as a couple because I knew that he was grieving and took care of him during that dark period of time. I get having a traumatic birth can be hard too, but these problems are problems that many married couples face and they don't air out their dirty laundry *cough cough FRANK cough cough* or completely disown children just because they're being "petty". That's some high school shit. They're ADULTS. Act like it. I swear these YouTube families just become more toxic as time goes on. Sometimes I wish they'd just retire and focus on their kids and relationships.
I had never experienced a death in my family until this year. My godmother passed away from cancer in May and it was ( and still is) so difficult. I remember the night before she passed we had gone to say goodbye and when we got home I was howling and sobbing and crying for probably an hour or two straight and my husband was by my side the entire time. He let me wipe my snotty nose on his shirt and grab him and cry and laugh and be angry and relieved and all the emotions. I know men and women also react differently but still.
The fact that my husband was there for me in a very new and sad experience made me love him more. Losing a family member shouldn't put a bigger rift in your marriage it should truly strengthen it and bring our a very supportive and comforting and loving side.
The fact that frank probably pulled away and it caused more issues is incredibly telling. And I'm sure brit was dealing with a lot of her own post partum stuff but honestly, growing up im realizing when it rains, it freaking pours. When things are overwhelming, sometimes it gets worse before it gets better. And all these difficulties and tests in their marriage could make or break them. Its definitely a testament to how poorly paired they are for each other. Their relationship is still so new that all these things adding onto one another just kept showing them their marriage flaws.
And don't get me wrong everyone has flaws, no marriage is perfect. But as time passes all the good and bad won't determine whether your marriage lasts or not. You should be able to go to your spouse when you lose someone close to you. Mothers should be able to go to their husband's and tell them what post psrtum journey their on and lean on them. If a women decides to completely remove their tubes their partner should be on board. Although she doesn't need him to make that decision, I think both people need to agree on something like that. If he is full set on having more kids, clearly this won't last.
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