Freecali wrote: ↑Wed Dec 23, 2020 12:50 pm
wonderwall99 wrote: ↑Wed Dec 16, 2020 6:17 pm
Okay so I only have 1 kid, and I know all moms are different but like... the more I think about it the weirder it is that she put crew alone in a room that isn't her house on a bed.
Last Christmas, mind you it wasn't in a home, my brother booked the party room at his apartment complex so I didn't have a bed or room to put my son down to sleep but towards the end he fell asleep and I just held him. He was only 6 months old and even through all the noise and yelling and talking he slept for like 30 mins.
Why didn't she just hold crew while he slept? Or bring a pack n play?? Again, I know she has 3 older boys and yeah maybe they're noisy but like, why didn't she say Jeff please handle the older boys crew is going to sleep. Or why didn't she take 30 mins and stay with him in the room while crew napped? I'm SURE no one would've said no you can't leave the party for 30 mins/an hour.
Not even taking into consideration safe sleep, this whole situation was preventable.
Maybe I'm a little too much with my son, but if I were in her shoes I would've said hey my son needs a nap I'm going to your guest room for an hour while he sleeps and I would've later next to him to make sure he was fine. Plus the peace and quiet would be nice, right?
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We will never know. And I have no doubt the family has played this
Over and over again thinking back on that day.
One thing that I wonder is if Brittani was already distracted or in a bad emotional place when she put Crew down. If her Mom and Ex were involved in any way at the time it must have been horrible to be celebrating Christmas at her moms house. She’s got a bunch of kids, a young baby, her current husband, her ex- and the situation with her mom.
I don’t say this as an excuse as much as I wonder how that factor impacted the day. Going back to when it happened and her YouTube video about it I always got more of an angry vibe than a sad mourning one. Obviously anger is in fact part of the mourning process- but I have begun to think there is more to the back story of why Crew was in the bed to start with and what the mood in the house was before anything happened.
I agree. It must make for awkward family holidays. From what I have read and seen online, I get the impression that BBL’s mom and ex hooked up while both were still married. I read somewhere that both BBL’s marriage and her parents’ marriage deteriorated at the same time. There would obviously be distance following that. I wonder if maybe she didn’t start getting closer to her mother once she had Cooper. To give her kids a “normal” sense of family holidays. So by no means are they all lovey dovey but they do what they have to to make it work. Carter would have been quite young and all he knows is what was there from the outset. Honey and daddy live together. So I don’t think it’s weird for the other kids. It’s their “normal”. But it can’t be comfortable at all for BBL- but she must endure it for her kids’ sake.
I remember one “assumptions” video where someone said “you and your ex are friends” and she kept saying “no, we aren’t friends, more like acquaintances that work together for our kid” - then after the passing, it was said that a “friend” set up the go fund me. It was her ex wasn’t it?
All this to say, that Christmas Day last year wouldn’t have been the day that normal families would have envisioned. Perhaps she didn’t expect to stay long etc. No one will ever know. And I’m sure many people have put their babies down on a bed when they’ve been visiting someone. Not safe, but hindsight is 20/20.