I actually do think it’s okay to say that. I don’t believe in God, even though I spent 12 years of my life in Catholic school. So I understand the conservative Christian mindset and biblical interpretation and things.Zoellaeverafter wrote:I don’t think that it’s okay to say that their fertility issues are a sign from God they shouldn’t have had children. I do however feel it’s unfair they adopted those two beautiful girls when they were believed “bio baby or bust”. You all were right that as soon as they got Cassidy’s heart fixed they would run right back to the fertility clinic for that boy. I would love to know what the bio mother’s of the girls think about them moving across the country. Their moms’ haven’t visited in a LONG time, I think that has to do with Phil and Alex. I still don’t understand how they have any money neither of them have any jobs other than YouTube.
I believe that if someone is infertile, there’s no problem with using modern medicine to get pregnant. As long as the embryos created are healthy and will have a good quality of life, and the infertility is not linked to a genetic incompatibility that would cause suffering, I have no ethical problem with doing whatever you want to have a baby. Drugs, IVF, ISCI, etc. I don’t even care if people sex-select their embryos.
But I think it is massively hypocritical to believe in God and God’s plan (and preach about it all over social media) and then dig their heals in and refuse to go along with it. They move their line of ethics and trust in God based on convenience.
First it was only a natural pregnancy, then it was okay to use fertility drugs because it’s still in gods plan. Then it was adoption because God’s plan didn’t include IVF. That was ethically wrong. But when adoption wasn’t a good bandaid for getting pregnant, IVF was okay with God after all. But genetic testing wasn’t okay with God because you’re picking your baby instead of letting him do it. Then when they still couldn’t get pregnant with IVF, it was okay to do genetic testing. God must have changed his mind again. Now the goal post is “use all embryos” but let’s see if they really do that.
If God is real, he doesn’t want Phil and Alex to have bio kids. The multiple forms of infertility, failed transfers, and now a medically fragile baby that only exists and survived due to medical technology, should be enough of a sign. Clearly, them being bio parents was not in God’s plan because they had to fight against everything God gave them to have Cassidy.
So I think it’s okay to point out their hypocrisy. If they had said God’s plan had included IVF and genetic testing being okay from the beginning, it wouldn’t be an issue to me. But we know they thought it was wrong and judged other people for doing it.
None of what they’re doing is their God’s plan.
It’s all Alex’s plan.
And they conventionally shift their faith to go along with it.