I condemn Mike and Megan for a lot, including their neglect of their children and not taking COVID seriously, but watching that video, I also felt really sorry for them. The pandemic is hard, and Megan clearly has severe mental health issues that have been exacerbated this year. She acknowledges that thrifting is an addiction, like gambling, but she’s in denial about the severity of her issues, and the whole family is suffering for it.
Depression is extremely common among Mormon women. Here’s an article from BYU that says that 27% of Mormon women are on or have been on antidepressants and gives a theory about why:
Megan has put double pressure on herself. She’s told the world that she has the best, happiest life both because she’s Mormon and because she’s chosen an unconventional life - big family, unschooling, etc. - that others may judge but she knows is best. Instead of facing that life isn’t perfect, she’s covering up her mental health issues with an addiction. Because if she’s unhappy, that means both her faith and her life choices are subpar.People in LDS culture pretend to be the happiest people because they believe they have the true gospel, De Soto said.
“I think we try to put on this face, especially in the LDS Church, that our lives our perfect, when that is completely false,” De Soto said. “The gospel is for the sick. It’s for the people that need help.”
Jensen said perfectionism — “the damaging belief that one’s worth is inherently attached to always doing or being their absolute best,” — is often a factor that negatively affects his patients’ mental health.
“I see people stuck in erroneous beliefs that negative feelings must mean they are less righteous, or being punished by God, or deeply flawed,” Jensen said. “I hear people say they are doing everything the church tells them to do but they are still unhappy, and then assume it’s because they are just ‘bad’ people.”
https://universe.byu.edu/2018/02/05/mental-illness-1/
I hope she or Mike will google “thrifting addiction,” recognize many others have had the same compulsions as Megan, and get her help for the underlying causes.