8 Passengers: No beds, no food, but mom loves motherhood! | Part 18

[Josette]

Ok, why is 'bean dip' a special birthday gift? I guess for the same reason that granola is a Christmas present... It just makes no sense, like why can't Ruby just buy her kids food that they want? It's not as if they are asking for cake and candy - they're asking for bean dip and a granola snack. If my twelve year old daughter was asking for bean dip and potato soup, I would be so happy to buy that for her whenever she asked, considering all the processed crap that kids that age are usually asking for. And granola? If your teenage son wants granola buy him some dam granola. Making your kids wait till birthdays and Christmas to get food they like is just retarded.
I was glad to see Julie got some nice gifts, like the Nike clothes and the skateboard. Is Julie even really into skateboarding, though? She didn't seem to react much to it. I agree that Ruby and Kevin just don't know their kids at all. They just seem to throw in one random expensive gift into every birthday or Christmas gift exchange to make themselves look good, even if its not something the kid is remotely interested in. Also, for Christ's sake Kevin, you're a grown ass man with money, a car, a computer - you can surely buy your kids something besides 75% off candy from the BYU candy store. Again - how is that a birthday gift?! If I worked at a place right next to a candy shop where I get an employee discount, I'd probably brings my kids treats home every week. Not twice a year for my one birthday and Christmas gift from me to them.

The Griffith's have such a strange relationship with food. Ruby posted on her story some dinner she made that would maybe be enough for a family of 4. The portion she showed her having looked so tiny as well. I feel so bad for these kids, I wonder if they've ever had a normal sized serving of food

Abby once had breakfast at an aunt's house and she couldn't stop talking about, because it was delicious and she was allowed to eat as much as she wanted (I assume it was an aunt on Kevin's side). Then on Eve's last birthday, Ruby let her order her own meal off of the kid's menu at a restaurant, and Eve was talking about how it was "a lot of food for a little girl", which was heartbreaking. Chad gained weight hiking 12 miles a day eating only rations of rice and lentils, so I think it is safe to say he hasn't experienced a plate with an appropriate portion of food.

I am convinced that Ruby intentionally doesn't get the kids gifts that they want, whether it is something she learned from her own mother, or it is a purely narcissistic thing. My narc mother still only get us things she wants us to have, and we would never get something we asked for. Either way, it is not an accident. I could do a better job shopping for them just by watching vlogs. Julie does love her Ripstick, but I am not sure if that equates to a love of skateboards. That seemed to be part of Kevin's gift and he doesn't know his kids very well, so....

Just when I thought her beauty got her taken off the scapegoat list, Ruby blames Julie for Russell taking a chunk out of the wall with her new skateboard. Julie should have acted more excited over the presents. Now she'll probably have to repaint the house and sleep in the dog house until high school. By the way, is it normal for parents not to give their kids Christmas gifts? This is the first time I have heard of a family doing that.

I remember a vlog awhile back where Ruby made breakfast and the tiny portion of scrambled eggs she served Chad was barely enough for a toddler and definitely nowhere enough for a teenage boy. And I've seen some of the dinners she's served where the kids have a half-bowl of soup at best. Bonnie is just as bad, though. Of all the sisters the only one that seems to make an effort to feed her kids adequately is Julie and she's got less money to spend on food than her sisters.

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^ Well, Ruby does invest a lot into freeze-dry food in case her local power station gets nuked. LOL

[Liv94]

I can’t!! This is too funny! Look at what Shari and herself are working at

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[Kattiness Everdeen]

I can’t!! This is too funny! Look at what Shari and herself are working at 177FBC57-259B-4EFE-848C-9E421C24AFB4.jpeg

Shari is weeks away from being an adult. If she isn't capable of feeling empathy yet, then Ruby has failed as parent. Toddlers should feel empathy. Another generation of dysfunction has been guaranteed.

Ruby, 18 is far too late to start teaching your child that other people matter. I beg of you to get your kids into a licensed child psychologist so you don't poison their futures with your toxic narcissism as well.

[Happy+Charlie]

I can’t!! This is too funny! Look at what Shari and herself are working at 177FBC57-259B-4EFE-848C-9E421C24AFB4.jpeg

Shari is weeks away from being an adult. If she isn't capable of feeling empathy yet, then Ruby has failed as parent. Toddlers should feel empathy. Another generation of dysfunction has been guaranteed.

Ruby, 18 is far too late to start teaching your child that other people matter. I beg of you to get your kids into a licensed child psychologist so you don't poison their futures with your toxic narcissism as well.

Most children learn what they see from their parents......yeah, Ruby who admits to not having empathy for others until she started YT, REALLY failed with her children. The idea that Ruby was/is unurturing as a mom makes a lot of sense now.

Another interesting observation, to hear all they are doing since they've been home more, as well as the Friday field trips....what have she and Kevin been doing with their children all these years? They act like they've never taken family day trips before (outside of a play park).

As far as Russell learning cursive, Eve adding large numbers and Chad discovering science....is this not what kids their age learn in school, appropriately? You would think prior to COVID the kids were getting none of these experiences. Although, gifting your daughter with paints and paper/drawing books for the first time in her life at nearly 18 years of age, I guess Ruby and Kevin have failed to give them the basic experiences of childhood.

How is it a stay at home mother has the slightest idea about her children and who they are, what they like, etc.

[LetsGoPens87]

It's so strange to me that a person would admit they aren't empathetic. Has she ever given examples where she knows she lacked empathy?

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[Kataja]

It's so strange to me that a person would admit they aren't empathetic. Has she ever given examples where she knows she lacked empathy?

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All her vlogs are examples, no?!

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IIRC, She hasn't addressed it in any other ways than just stating it once. Even after admitting that, it is clear that she hasn't worked on herself. Otherwise she wouldn't have let her 5 y-o child go hungry and EVEN WISH that no one else also lets her eat. or made her son sleep without bed for months on end.

It seems that combined with her lack of empathy, she also is very unreasonable, which is a dangerous combination. Poor children.

[lmmomSD]

It's so strange to me that a person would admit they aren't empathetic. Has she ever given examples where she knows she lacked empathy?

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All her vlogs are examples, no?!

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IIRC, She hasn't addressed it in any other ways than just stating it once. Even after admitting that, it is clear that she hasn't worked on herself. Otherwise she wouldn't have let her 5 y-o child go hungry and EVEN WISH that no one else also lets her eat. or made her son sleep without bed for months on end.

It seems that combined with her lack of empathy, she also is very unreasonable, which is a dangerous combination. Poor children.

I think OP meant Shari, because apparently that was one of her goals? She did some kind of Q and A with her sisters on one of her videos if memory serves and said she lacks empathy. Her glee in tattling on her siblings and the way she seems to relish their punishment is a good example. It does seem strange for a 17 year old to admit she lacks empathy. And a 16 year old boy "discovering science"? Don't most kids at least get a taste of that earlier?
And this is petty, I know. But if Julie is going to bake, she needs to know: what they are holding are macarons. Macaroons are coconut drop cookies that are 1000 times easier to make.
So what has Ruby done? Oh, that's right-- she has freeze dried enough food to last until 2100.

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[Parktown]

It has and always will be about Ruby! If she likes it then it doesn’t matter who she shoves it on!!! All the sisters have this trait it is always about them then the rest must follow!
Empathy is not synonymous to the Griff sisters but then again empathy is usually a trait found in people with high IQs not necessarily educated but very intelligent so that might explain it.

[RottieMama]

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[boychik0830]

I can't they have to film Abby talking about how things are going with her Accutane. I doubt she wants to film this but ruby is making her do that. I feel like they forced Abby to do theater and pretended like it was her decision to start doing that.

[Wheresthecake]

8passengers: narcissistic traits and no food on our plates!

[Macarena]

8 Passengers: can't stop lying, freeze drying, or impulse buying

[Happy+Charlie]

While I hate listening to Ruby talk so much, the vlog with Abby was very informational. My son used it, and his face now looks like baby skin (no scars at all), unfortunately, his back is a different story. I hope Abby comes thru with less scaring on her face. It seems to me (and I know I'm probably wrong) but the pattern of her break out now appears to be in the path of face mask. I know my daughter's chin is very broken out for this very reason.

More confidence in Abby is always a good thing.

[Kattiness Everdeen]

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[Kattiness Everdeen]

It drives me nuts that Ruby forced Abby to use Dove soap for years despite making her acne worse, I assume to try and get a sponsorship. Unless she is just simply cruel. It is obvious that she always banked on Abby being this epic prom queen type, to make all the other mother's jealous. But when she realized she was just going to be a shy awkward dork like Ruby, she started tearing her down. It is awful to watch.

Not that I enjoyed the sexualization of her daughter when she was only 11 years old, bragging about how many Valentines she got, how all the boys wanted her like her mother (sure Ruby, you have talked about how you always felt like the ugly duckling, nobody is buying it), and how she was trying to force her to get a boyfriend before she even hit puberty. Then Abby revealed her friend paid a boy to be her valentine, and she refuses to wear make-up when Ruby asks her to, even when she enlists her flying monkey Shari to try and coerce her. Now Ruby is forcing her into activities like theater, to try and make her conform more to the "ideal Mormon" stereotype. Just let the girl be.

Meanwhile Julie was being told she was an awkward, smelly, ugly duckling by Ruby until the age of 11, at which point Ruby started treating her better because people were flooding her messages about how she could be a model. It really sucks that Ruby seems to equate their physical appearances to their worth to her as a mother, or society in general. If she helped them develop their minds and their talents, maybe she could stop worrying about their desirability to men at the age of 11.

[boychik0830]

Why does ruby have to pull her mask down every time she talks when she goes into a store. You don't have to pull your mask down to talk. Ruby says she is buying less stuff but she can't resist some of the clothes at target.

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[UKhousewife]

Look up ‘whatsundertherug’ on Instagram - Ruby’s new project?

[Wheresthecake]

Look up ‘whatsundertherug’ on Instagram - Ruby’s new project?

Oh my gosh, seriously? I couldn’t eyeroll harder looking at it. Especially at the post that says “when you keep sweeping things under the rug, eventually you will trip over the mess you made”. Sound familiar, Ruby? Like the last year or two of your publicly displayed life? How does she honestly expect anyone to ever take serious advice from her when she can’t even hold herself accountable for anything and practically lies through her teeth to keep up appearances? Oh yeah let me do what this lady online told me to even though she can’t even listen to herself over something as simple as not spending so much money...yeah right. Another example of her “Do as I say, not as I do” mentality. She should be seeking professional help for herself and her family to deal with everything that has gone on and clearly continues happening, especially for the kids, not to be guiding others as if she is this suddenly all-knowing life coach. Oh she boils my blood with this stuff. I would never trust her help.

[boychik0830]

Look up ‘whatsundertherug’ on Instagram - Ruby’s new project?

She has a YouTube channel too.

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