Tayler Tragedy Part 15

[Avery]

When my son had his first birthday,(like Jakoby will have soon). We took him to the aquarium. He started watching baby Einstein DVDs and seemed to enjoy the Oceans one. I told the people that were going to the aquarium how much he likes Ocean things and everyone bought him ocean related things. He got a lot of really cute things. I know Tayler reads this forum and it would be cheaper in the long run to do something like that.
She could take him to the zoo and everyone can get him animal things like stuffed animals and puzzles. I don't see the bug thing working out, it seems obscure and weird. I hope Jakoby doesn't get cheated out of a birthday because of money issues. Maybe even just take her, Jakoby and Alesana to the zoo and have people meet her there. Our aquarium had a discount for group of 5+, idk if her zoo would do that.
Hopefully, her friends and family have enough tact to not ask for her to pay for their tickets, since her and Chuckie are going through rough times. Her sweet boy shouldn't suffer because his parents were selfish with their money.

[Beth_munday]

I'm super worried for my child's first birthday, he is due on July 1st this year and my boyfriends sister just announced her wedding date is July 5th next year, so I'm kind of scared his birthday will be over shadowed by a wedding, especially as he could be a little late and end up being born on the 5th. But that wont be my fault, I couldn't imagine blowing off his 1st because of money issues while I was sitting there with expensive electronics, so hopefully that is not what is going to happen for Jakoby.

Also on the issue with virginity, I lost mine super young, I was 14. It wasn't special and I thought I loved the person at the time but I had only been with him for a few months. I lost it to the person I'm still with now and we live together and are hoping to spend the rest of our lives together so I feel like I lost mine to the right person but at the wrong time, but I do not regret that. I think it made us stick through some shit normal 15/16 year old's wouldn't, because we were convinced sex=love. But that shit DID make us grow the hell up and realise we didn't know shit and our relationship is awesome now.

[TaylorKnows]

Yeah I don't expect my first time to be romantic or very special lol. It's not realistic, I know I'm gonna bleed (TMI) and I know it's gonna be awkward, but it'll be out of the way and hopefully I'll be with the person I'm gonna be with for a good long while (if not forever). I wouldn't have sex until I at least knew I could spend forever with a guy. But it wouldn't destroy me if he wasn't the only guy I ever had sex with, life goes on. You're supposed to get hurt in life, as awful as it sounds.

As for first birthdays, you don't need a lot to make them special, however you should do something. I also don't feel sorry that she's fallen upon hard times, I feel bad for Jakoby and Alesana, but maybe now it'll teach her something about life. I still hope that Jakoby gets something out of a party and more than Alesana had. If you do a theme Tayler, do your research! I'm not really sure what Jakoby is into since she never seems to talk about him, but some common themes are jungle or circus maybe. You can have a really cheap (and nice) birthday party.

[MakeupGirly]

I personally don't think 1st birthday parties are that much of a big deal? Maybe it's just here in Ireland, but most people don't even throw a party. If they do, it's normally just a small gathering of close family members with cake. A lot of people here don't really throw parties for their kids until they start school. I think it's kind of pointless for small kids. Most of the time they don't really enjoy the party because they are surrounded by people they don't really know. So they end up being really clingy to their parents, cranky all day because their routine has been interrupted and then upset all night because they are overtired. Plus they don't remember it. It's more a party for the parents than the child. You can still dress them up, get them a cake and take pictures for memories without the whole big shabang.

[sleep84]

For v-card discussions and anything sex-ed related my FAVOURITE vlogger of all times is Laci Green.
Really, how can young teens not be informed when her vlogs are out there? She's really cool.

In that "area", since I really like OTs I was at the same time a late bloomer, but it also happened without too much deep "I think we're going to grow old together" kind of meaning.
It's really subjective obviously, but I wanted it to be stress free and pressure free. Yeah, sure, there was respect and attention but maybe for me it was a good experience especially because I didn't burden it with huge expectations of any kind.
Like I said, that's just how I felt confortable exploring the foreign territory (Oh gee... how did that come out? ) Awkwardness can be there if it's your absolute first time or your first time with a new partner..

How I feel about teens having sex younger and younger? Tricky. Let's say that definitely 11-12 etc. is way too young. You have to be responsible when you're having sex, no matter the age.
I think that the general misconception is that if you start young you get pregnant young. Which is not true. It takes just one time. Realizing that you have to be as careful as you can is step one. Knowing the subject - even just theoretically - is definitely better than not knowing.

Slut-shaming is bad. But also virgin-shaming is bad. I know personally more than one 25-something who haven't had sex yet. Not because they have particular religious convictions (completely ok if you do) but it just didn't happen yet. Everything is normal. There is no general standard "normal".

Tayler started having sex before she knew how you conceive. She was DEFINITELY too young, not because of her age but because of her head.

[Yue195]

I personally don't think 1st birthday parties are that much of a big deal? Maybe it's just here in Ireland, but most people don't even throw a party. If they do, it's normally just a small gathering of close family members with cake. A lot of people here don't really throw parties for their kids until they start school. I think it's kind of pointless for small kids. Most of the time they don't really enjoy the party because they are surrounded by people they don't really know. So they end up being really clingy to their parents, cranky all day because their routine has been interrupted and then upset all night because they are overtired. Plus they don't remember it. It's more a party for the parents than the child. You can still dress them up, get them a cake and take pictures for memories without the whole big shabang.

Haha thats actually funny, my mum recorded my first birthday and I remember that my mum recorded my dad and his friend talking and he said ' First birthday parties are just an excuse for us to get on the piss '. I watch the video/dvd all the time.

I liked Vanessa, Britney and Haylee's parties for their kids because it was really simple and for family.

@sleep84; I LOVE LACI!

[TaylorKnows]

I personally don't think 1st birthday parties are that much of a big deal? Maybe it's just here in Ireland, but most people don't even throw a party. If they do, it's normally just a small gathering of close family members with cake. A lot of people here don't really throw parties for their kids until they start school. I think it's kind of pointless for small kids. Most of the time they don't really enjoy the party because they are surrounded by people they don't really know. So they end up being really clingy to their parents, cranky all day because their routine has been interrupted and then upset all night because they are overtired. Plus they don't remember it. It's more a party for the parents than the child. You can still dress them up, get them a cake and take pictures for memories without the whole big shabang.

It is more for the parents, but in my opinion, the child can look back and reflect. My 1st birthday party was not all that big, it was mostly family, so okay it was a little big since my dad is the youngest of 6, so I have lots of cousins and aunts and uncles plus my mom's parents and her brother. But yeah, it doesn't need to be big. But you should have something small and intimate, but at least make it look somewhat organized. Don't pull a party out of your ass the day before. Even if it's small, put a little planning into it. Maybe it's just because my former major was gonna be event planning.

[Kayliecoburn]

I personally don't think 1st birthday parties are that much of a big deal? Maybe it's just here in Ireland, but most people don't even throw a party. If they do, it's normally just a small gathering of close family members with cake. A lot of people here don't really throw parties for their kids until they start school. I think it's kind of pointless for small kids. Most of the time they don't really enjoy the party because they are surrounded by people they don't really know. So they end up being really clingy to their parents, cranky all day because their routine has been interrupted and then upset all night because they are overtired. Plus they don't remember it. It's more a party for the parents than the child. You can still dress them up, get them a cake and take pictures for memories without the whole big shabang.

It is more for the parents, but in my opinion, the child can look back and reflect. My 1st birthday party was not all that big, it was mostly family, so okay it was a little big since my dad is the youngest of 6, so I have lots of cousins and aunts and uncles plus my mom's parents and her brother. But yeah, it doesn't need to be big. But you should have something small and intimate, but at least make it look somewhat organized. Don't pull a party out of your ass the day before. Even if it's small, put a little planning into it. Maybe it's just because my former major was gonna be event planning.

I disagree. I didn't even have a first birthday party and I don't really care. I don't feel like I was loved any less. My parents had no family around and a 1 year old doesnt have friends so why should they throw one? I didn't really do anything for my son except get him a Mickey cake on his first birthday and a few balloons and hang out with family. We didn't even have a gift opening. This year he is turning 3 and finally has friends and is starting preschool so this will be the first time he gets a real party at a bounce house or something with kids, dinner, cake, presents, the whole shebang.

If that makes me a bad parent for "pulling parties out of my ass" the past two years...then whatever. I don't think parties make the world go round. I had nice birthday parties from 6-12 at skate parks and stuff...the pictures are nice but I'm not ogling them and thinking my parents are the best ever for throwing them.

[Kayliecoburn]

Oh and my children don't "suffer" and we aren't selfish with money either...considering we take them to disney every year.

[TaylorKnows]

No, I'm not trying to bash anyone's parenting skills. I think it's fine to do whatever, but at least have reasons behind doing it. Tayler isn't going to do anything out of pure laziness and lack of parenting skills. She doesn't care about Jakoby as much as she does Alesana. Parties aren't necessary. But how is Jakoby gonna feel when he sees that Alesana had a party that year and he didn't when there's barely an age difference between the two of them. Jakoby barely gets any love or attention, that's why I thought a party would be nice for him to have...I wasn't setting out to offend anyone, so I'm really sorry if I did. There's nothing wrong with having a small party or hanging out with family but at least acknowledge the day was my whole point.

[TaylorKnows]

I don't think parties are that big of a deal. I would rather just have my child and grandparents over for lunch or something. But when you just gave one child a party with a theme, cake, presents, and others there, your other child should get one.

This is my point. Had Tayler done nothing for Alesana's birthday or had just had a very small thing with her, Chuckie and the kids or whatever, I don't think it'd be that big of a deal if she did the same for Jakoby. She's not doing it out of cost, she's doing it because she just doesn't care. How far apart are Jakoby and Alesana?

[loverdose]

I'm from the UK and 1st birthday parties aren't really done here, at least my family doesn't! For my cousins first birthday my Auntie just had a bbq and invited her family and close friends, it was more of a family get together rather than a party.
I think more effort should be put into parties when the child is old enough to have their own friends and have them invited to their party so that way they are more likely to remember it!

[whatsername_]

Alesana was 6 months old when she conceived Jakoby. So...14 months?

[BornThisWay94]

I agree with Taylor and Cakewalked. When you have multiple children, it's your job to make them feel equally loved so one doesn't get left out. My mom was the middle child and she always got left out as a kid, and even to this day (She's almost 50 now) looks back on her childhood and remembers always being left out, never getting what her sisters got, always being forgotten, etc so it's not like memories can just fade forever. No matter what Tayler says, it's easy to see that she favors Alesana, most likely because she's a girl and because she's her first born. Since she had a themed party and everything with Alesana, it's only fair that Jakoby gets one too.

[TaylorKnows]

Once the baby comes, I'm kinda hoping it's a boy. I know Tayler will neglect him until kingdom come, but maybe him and Jakoby could band together, they'd be friends, they'd help each other through the hell hole that is their mother. Plus it'd piss Tayler off, so win win.

[BornThisWay94]

Once the baby comes, I'm kinda hoping it's a boy. I know Tayler will neglect him until kingdom come, but maybe him and Jakoby could band together, they'd be friends, they'd help each other through the hell hole that is their mother. Plus it'd piss Tayler off, so win win.

Same, Jakoby could have a buddy and they could bond together. But like I said before, I think Tayler will end up having a girl. Why? She gets whatever she wants or throws a fit until she does; whatever Tayler wants, Tayler gets.

[TaylorKnows]

I don't know...Jakoby wasn't a girl like she wanted. I think anatomy is the one thing she can't change.

[BornThisWay94]

I don't know...Jakoby wasn't a girl like she wanted. I think anatomy is the one thing she can't change.

Maybe it goes in a pattern? Girl, boy, girl, boy, etc.

[MakeupGirly]

I don't know...Jakoby wasn't a girl like she wanted. I think anatomy is the one thing she can't change.

Maybe it goes in a pattern? Girl, boy, girl, boy, etc.

Well if there was a pattern like that for her, it would be a total coincidence since realistically you have a 50/50 chance of the baby being a boy or a girl. Her Mom had Girl, Boy, Boy, Boy. I think Tayler would die if that happened to her.

[IAmTheNight]

I wanted my second to be a girl because I wanted one of each. I was so sure it was a girl that that's how I identified the baby weeks before I found out the sex. I called it by a girls name and everything. I didn't even pick out a boys name because I was so sure I was carrying a girl. Then low and behold I was having a boy! Needless to say, I felt pretty silly.