BumpsAlongTheWay Part 2

[Amelia322]

yeah the whole time she was waiting for bryan to wake up and change the baby im like she could have already done it and laid back down ! I mean he doesn't work super long hours but im sure he was tired as well . But did anyone else notice how awkward missy looked around bryans family especially his mom . In the video they didn't really speak to each other or anything and anytime his mom was holding the baby missy was looking at her like I want my baby back . idk it just seemed like missy feels awkward around her ..

I thought Bryan's mom was gonna be staying at his house since that's his mom but I guess their family isn't like that. I know when ppl come from outta state they stay in our house but I guessit depends on the family also I know everyone likes their privacy as well so maybe that's it

[Amelia322]

I feel bad also because Bryan's mom didn't come every day to see them. Wasn't that the reason she came all the way out there?

[Moeproblems]

I know if my mom flew halfway across the country to see my new baby she would be there at least once a day if not more. I only saw her visit like 2 or three times for like the whole week or more she was there. I think it was definitely missy causing the distance.

[Amelia322]

I know if my mom flew halfway across the country to see my new baby she would be there at least once a day if not more. I only saw her visit like 2 or three times for like the whole week or more she was there. I think it was definitely missy causing the distance.

Exactly!! She came just for Ollie!

[Heartbreakcoverupxo]

Yeah, I thought that was weird too. My mother plans on coming to the US when my son is born and she'll be staying with us. Missy seems weird with his mother.

[FLOSSY77]

I really feel if you are the SAHM, you are the one to wake for baby. Sad that after losing a baby, she isn't thrilled to wake for and comfort her baby. That shows immaturity. I mean, did she not sign up for this? What did she think? No matter how tired I was, I wanted to be the one. My husband was a great help. But two tired parents is horrible. Atleast while he was at work I could nap with our baby. I should be honest. I wouldn't let Bryan take care of my hamster.

[Amelia322]

I feel bad for Bryan's mom, she looked like she wanted to hold him while saying by but missy kept him in her wrap

[surferbunny]

like me and my mil.. I just do not really know her so when she is all involved in my pregnancy makes me uncomfortable even tho she is grandma, I try and think I would be cool with her holding/being around my baby but I honestly do not know just because I do not know her

maybe they have bad blood
or maybe she does not know her mil either

it is awkward and probably strange to have a stranger or someone you do not like holding/being around your baby even if they are family

[FLOSSY77]

You need to be the bigger person and let them hold the baby. It's not like Missy wasn't right there. Most likely in this case, grandma knows the DIL is an idiot.

[Snow White]

Okay, I know this is outdated... But did it bother anyone else that Brian stayed and watched the movie ? (I have no idea the name of the video, but it was their outing to the Jobs movie!)
I mean Missy did not appear to be happy to be out on her own.. & I don't know that I believe her parents "just happened to be in the area"... I think she called them to come get her.. She seemed to be upset and maybe overwhelmed while she was out walking around the mall?

I know my husband would have NEVER stayed and watched the movie, he would have left with me... i think it sucks that Brian ditched her like that.. I think it's a clear sign of Brian's immaturity, not mention terribly inconsiderate...

On the topic of Missy & her MIL... When there's bad blood, being the bigger person is much, MUCH easier said than done than done

[surferbunny]

Exactly it is her baby.. bigger person yeah it is the right thing, but hard in a situation like this I would imagine

I mean if they do not know each other then she is a stranger no matter what her title is

[Snow White]

I think it's clear they don't have a close relationship... Brian seems to spend a lot of time with his mother privately.. Now one could argue "the baby is to young to be out and about" or "they are spending mother/son (Brian and his mother) time together.." And so on, but based on the lack of interaction, the body language & the solo visits I think it's safe to say, there's no love lost!

And yep, Missy does need to be mature in regards to her MIL , but having had mother in law issues in the past (my MIL has since passed away, so I won't speak ill of the dead..) it's hard to lay down your guns and pass over your child.

[carrieandtheboys]

Maybe i'm the only one that sees nothing wrong with her getting him up to change the baby. When you are breastfeeding a newborn you get pretty much no sleep. You are feeding them pretty much every 2 or so hours. You are so exhausted out of your mind. The dad needs to help out at night in some way. And changing the diaper does help. My husband barely helped with our second at night. I was getting no sleep because he was wanting to feed almost every hour and would not feed laying down so I always had to sit up. I started going out of my mind. Wish I would have had someone to change the diapers. Any little bit helps.

[iloveeeecheeesee]

I think he went to the movie with his mom? If that happened to me, I would let my husband stay. They had to have known Ollie wasn't going to sleep through a loud movie.

If there is bad blood, she doesn't have to be the bigger person; she has to do things for her son. If she won't even let his grandmother hold him, she probably won't let him have an actual relationship with her.

[Snow White]

I think he went to the movie with his mom? If that happened to me, I would let my husband stay. They had to have known Ollie wasn't going to sleep through a loud movie.

If there is bad blood, she doesn't have to be the bigger person; she has to do things for her son. If she won't even let his grandmother hold him, she probably won't let him have an actual relationship with her.

I believe he went with his mom and aunt? So she (his mother) wouldn't have been alone... Had he left with Missy.
And maybe she told him to stay and watch the movie, who knows?! But she appeared upset to be alone in the video.
I just think he chose to stay and watch it since he is such a fan.. And it's something that bugged me, but hey that's just me!

I don't know that it's all on missy, this whole MIL thing. Just a vibe I get...

[FLOSSY77]

Maybe i'm the only one that sees nothing wrong with her getting him up to change the baby. When you are breastfeeding a newborn you get pretty much no sleep. You are feeding them pretty much every 2 or so hours. You are so exhausted out of your mind. The dad needs to help out at night in some way. And changing the diaper does help. My husband barely helped with our second at night. I was getting no sleep because he was wanting to feed almost every hour and would not feed laying down so I always had to sit up. I started going out of my mind. Wish I would have had someone to change the diapers. Any little bit helps.

I don't agree. I was nursing,so I had to get up. Why wake dad just to change a diaper. Some people get upset. Like if I am up he should get up. But it's not a contest. And the one going to work should have some sleep. But that was just me. I just turned into a night owl and threw the idea of sleep out the window. I miss those nights now. I am kind of a baby hog though.

[Ambrosia]

Maybe something happened to their relationship during the time that missy and Brian were divorced? Maybe she didn't want them back together? Missy really needs to grow up.

[oh4thelawls]

Maybe something happened to their relationship during the time that missy and Brian were divorced? Maybe she didn't want them back together? Missy really needs to grow up.

I was just about to say that lol. It makes sense. A parent would be a little uneasy if their child got back with an ex after a breakup/divorce. Personally I think that that's the issue.

[surferbunny]

they were divorced lol? wow news to me lol

[Katieg2009]

When my youngest was a newborn, my husband and I would both wake up and take turns, and I also breastfed. If he didn't happen to wake up, I'd just do it, because waking him up would have just added more time than necessary. About the mother in law thing, I can understand having issues completely. My relationship with mine isn't perfect. I lost my mom 3 years ago, so she never got to meet two of my kids who were born after she passed. I just feel like their should be that grandparent bond, and not with just Missy's side of the family.