Yue195 wrote:dazzled wrote:Yue195 wrote:
Well three years he's been MIA, three almost four years he was active in the boys and Lilia's lives. Frankly I believe if he never cheated I think a lot of people would speak of him like they speak of Gabe.
People talk that way about Drake because he doesn't bother to be in his kids' life for the most part, not because he's cheated on Jess. Why do y'all act like those who criticize Drake do so because they love Jess?
I don't believe anyone here loves Jess, I don't like Jess. I don't even like Drake. I understand why a lot of people would be in Jess's corner on the topic and that's reasonable but I'm not gonna pretend he was always like this when he was very active in the twins lives and he did care a lot about Lilia and tried to work it out for them.
I'm not disagreeing he's a lack lustre dad that needs to put his issues aside for the boys and Bella's sake and pay CS, but I will always be side eyeing anything about Drake from Jess. Mostly because she has done the same thing to Gabe and tried to push him out to even talking about his own personal life to lack of CS she had no business to discuss to build Drake up as a super dad and that went down hill. Now Gabe is awesome. I'm just saying if he had never cheated on Jess and wasn't your regular guy who likes rebound sex like most 20 something year olds, close to being like Gabe, I think the picture would be painted different. I keep in mind Drake does work, does have other responsibilities and he is only human, just not a smart one. Like Jess is only human (not a smart one either) and doesn't need CPS like some members think she does.
I kinda agree with what you say and disagree at the same time because of course him being a cheater doen't help "appreciating" him but actually I don't give a damn about him cheating on Jess, yes he is an asshole but that's not my problem, he didn't cheat on me. It is true that he was there for the twins when he was still with Jess and actually it's what pisses me of even more, when he is not with the mother anymore he just leaves his kids too (he is done the same thing with his daughter before) and in a way that's worse because it's like the kids are not his priority, when you are a parent, you are it 100% of the time. I prefer to be fair, I am not neutral in this because my father is the same, he was a dad -not amazing one let's be honest but he was there- when he was with my mother and from the moment they separated he just didn't bother even calling except to ask to talk to my mother he is an ass and growing up it as clear we were not a priority so when I see Drake putting picture with Landon for his birthday and he is not there the rest of the time, and when I read comment here saying, "well at least he is making an effort", well no that's not good, he may give an image of someone who is still a dad but for me he is just "playing dad", he's done nothing! I can understand him not wanted to be in contact with his ex, especially with an ex like Jess but he made children with her and if his kids were really his priority he would be more present for them, I don't care about the problems he has with Jess, I only care about the children.
I don't really like to compare Drake and Gabe because it's not the same situation, I think in both case Jess exagerate how shitty they were to her and the kids but even if Gabe wasn't paying child support at the begginning with Lilia (?) and she said his family were taking care of Lilia instead of him, you can't forget he was young, is it an excuse? hell no! But it probably was not as easy for him to get a job for child support for example and now that he is older he is a better father. Do I consider Gabe as a great father throught? Hell no, he is a "normal" father, he is just doing what he should which is taking care of his child but Drake is older and maybe he was trapped by Jess with the twins (that sucks) but he still decided to marry Jess, then they had unprotected sex and Jess got pregnant with Landon and quickly after Nat got pregnant with Arabella (I mean seriously!?!?). I doubt what Jess say about any of her exes is completly true but It's not about what Jess said it's just about the facts, if he really wanted to take more care of his kids he would have but it's because he didn't even take his children as often a he could that a judge reduced his rights, that's not Jess' doing.
I am just seriously feeling sorry for these kids to have parents like that, I mean all of them suck except maybe Gabe because he seems to have mature and be a real father to Lilia but the rest: Drake, well I said what I have to say , Chris, well he has his precious bald daughter now but I am sorry for his sons leaving so far away from him, and Jess... Yes she is taking care of her kids but there is no stability in her children life because of her reckless choices, she has 5 children at 25, she's had 2 husbands, moved in and out I don't know how many times and she is the one who choose her babies daddies, but she didn't even take the time to see if they would be good parent before having children with them, she is irresponsible in every possible way!! Poor children...
Sorry for the rant, I meant to write a short post but obviously I failed...
gemmie wrote:Why do people get disappointment over bald babies? It's a freaking baby, who cares! I would just be happy with having a healthy baby.
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It's not about her being "bald" it's about her being bald when Jess is obsess with her being a readhead. Also because Ad has a very round face and is very pale, her being bald make her a little weird looking (and yes I feel mean for saying/thinking that). I wouldn't get disappointed if I had a bald baby, maybe just weird out because in my family every newborns were born with hair but yes the most important is a healthy baby which she is more likely to be if Jess put blankets away from her...
