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lmmomSD wrote:That's the thing. I get it if hunting is a thing your family enjoys. But before a few weeks ago, I had never heard Cullen mention guns. And he's not a hunter. I never saw him with a gun before those instastories of the kids shooting BB guns. Right after the Parkland shooting. Which was insensitive at best.


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I also feel like you can teach gun safety without actually having a gun. I get twitchy even letting my 3 year old handle a pencil... I’m not giving him a gun. Definitely a foreign concept to me.


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lmmomSD wrote: With a 3 year old? I get it with older kids. I get that for some people it's accepted. But I just think a 3 year old is too young.


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My son got a bb gun for his 3rd birthday. It doesn't thrill me but my husband is a hunter and is very safe and teaches our kids gun safety at a young age. It's just normal around here.
Unless it was a “for when you’re older gift” I’m seriously side-eyeing this. Like, technically my preschooler OWNS a savings account, stocks and bonds, but they’re not really something she manipulates, yaknow?

So, I can see getting the little one her very first Pink Daisy for her 3rd birthday, but, aside from a few photo ops after unwrapping it, putting it away until the kid is at least 6.
Letting toddlers handle and discharge weapons is misguided and irresponsible. It’s flat out wrong, and yeah, I judge people who are okay with it.
Our kids don't have free range over their guns, they are kept in a locked gun safe, with the ammo in a separate locked location. They are taken out, used safely, cleaned and put away when finished.

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Re: C&K: The 'D' Word. Part #17

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nutbagmcgee wrote:
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nutbagmcgee wrote: My son got a bb gun for his 3rd birthday. It doesn't thrill me but my husband is a hunter and is very safe and teaches our kids gun safety at a young age. It's just normal around here.
Unless it was a “for when you’re older gift” I’m seriously side-eyeing this. Like, technically my preschooler OWNS a savings account, stocks and bonds, but they’re not really something she manipulates, yaknow?

So, I can see getting the little one her very first Pink Daisy for her 3rd birthday, but, aside from a few photo ops after unwrapping it, putting it away until the kid is at least 6.
Letting toddlers handle and discharge weapons is misguided and irresponsible. It’s flat out wrong, and yeah, I judge people who are okay with it.
Our kids don't have free range over their guns, they are kept in a locked gun safe, with the ammo in a separate locked location. They are taken out, used safely, cleaned and put away when finished.

Judge away.
She just said she judges people who let their children handle weapons without guidance or safety, and from what you described, that doesn’t sound like you.
If you teach your kids to respect guns and hot to safety handle them, no one is judging you.


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rdt1004 wrote:
nutbagmcgee wrote:
Theirmom wrote: Unless it was a “for when you’re older gift” I’m seriously side-eyeing this. Like, technically my preschooler OWNS a savings account, stocks and bonds, but they’re not really something she manipulates, yaknow?

So, I can see getting the little one her very first Pink Daisy for her 3rd birthday, but, aside from a few photo ops after unwrapping it, putting it away until the kid is at least 6.
Letting toddlers handle and discharge weapons is misguided and irresponsible. It’s flat out wrong, and yeah, I judge people who are okay with it.
Our kids don't have free range over their guns, they are kept in a locked gun safe, with the ammo in a separate locked location. They are taken out, used safely, cleaned and put away when finished.

Judge away.
She just said she judges people who let their children handle weapons without guidance or safety, and from what you described, that doesn’t sound like you.
If you teach your kids to respect guns and hot to safety handle them, no one is judging you.


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Exactly. Plus there is a time and place. It’s one thing to use a BB gun in a rural location, but it’s entirely another to be using one in an urban neighbourhood on a golf course. It’s disrespectful, gun issues aside.


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Is todays vlog a joke? Talking about how they help the kids behave in public when they are horrible at home and eating dinner together as a family? Deflection? I want to know what they are doing about the bad behavior at home!
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nutbagmcgee wrote:Is todays vlog a joke? Talking about how they help the kids behave in public when they are horrible at home and eating dinner together as a family? Deflection? I want to know what they are doing about the bad behavior at home!
They're not dumb. They've DEFINITELY seen all of the comments about cranky Brooks and both kids' bad behavior lately. They just want the engagement of positive OR negative comments. All the people that have stopped watching because the kids are poorly behaved will come back to see what they've done to improve their behavior. I'm irritated I even gave them a view.
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nutbagmcgee wrote:Is todays vlog a joke? Talking about how they help the kids behave in public when they are horrible at home and eating dinner together as a family? Deflection? I want to know what they are doing about the bad behavior at home!
I'm glad I haven't watched, then. Just the title and thumbnail irritated me.
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askeptichere wrote:
nutbagmcgee wrote:Is todays vlog a joke? Talking about how they help the kids behave in public when they are horrible at home and eating dinner together as a family? Deflection? I want to know what they are doing about the bad behavior at home!
I'm glad I haven't watched, then. Just the title and thumbnail irritated me.
Someone in the comments asked what is being done to address Gaines' interrupting. C or K responded and told the person to click the icard for a suggestion. I didn't click the link but I assume it's a link to the vlog when they were attempting to teach Gaines to put a hand on their arm when she needed to interrupt. I'm rolling my eyes so hard.

Of course Brooks was throwing food at the end of the vlog today. How about make him get down from the high chair if he throws food?!? I bet he'll pitch two or three fits and learn throwing = no more food.

If you watch Cullen's instastories, he takes of a pair of headphones and hurls them across the room and then cuts his eyes to see Cullen's reaction. The kid KNOWS better but they don't follow through with discipline.
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How about addressing your husband's behavior while out in public as well? Actions speak louder than words, and you know those kids see their dad acting a fool and making a mess in stores.
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Playsinrain wrote:
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Playsinrain wrote: Neither did I.. i sat here for the longest last night wondering if i was the only one that didn't get that post. I've used it my whole life, even called my kids that, i didn't know it was derogatory. Here in the US it just means crazy, hyper, off the walls....
I believe it’s akin to the r-word in the UK. Image
Yikes, i had no idea!! It doesn't have the same stigma here at all.
In Australia it began as a medical term for example my ( now DEC) little brothers medical records show as him having spastic hand response , meaning gripped constantly with thumbs under.
It was a common term for a variety of delays bullies at school when I was little called kids spastics. Over time and the PC culture it became known as a derogatory term and is no longer commonly used.unsure if still used as medical terminology but definitely can't call someone that in Australia

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Wow. They’ve fallen pretty far. Their “advice” to keep kids well-behaved in public is to bribe them.

I’m all for positive reinforcement, but that only works if you withhold the reward when they act up. Those kids were definitely getting those toys regardless of how they behaved.
The sticker charts only work if you also TAKE AWAY stickers if they act up. Most importantly, rewards are only half of it. You don’t just reward good behaviour, you reprimand bad behaviour. Behave=get a reward. Misbehave=lose a privilege.

Although, in my opinion, it’s poor parenting to always reward your kids for behaving well. Good behaviour is an EXPECTATION. Rewards are for EXCEEDING expectations, not just meeting them. No, you do not get a cookie for cleaning your toys. You get to KEEP them. No, you don’t get a toy for not having a tantrum at the store, you get to not get sent to time out as soon as we get home. Respect and continued privileges are the rewards for behaviour that meets expectations.

These people really think that bribery is good parenting advice.
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the vlogs are 3 days behind.


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Theirmom wrote:Wow. They’ve fallen pretty far. Their “advice” to keep kids well-behaved in public is to bribe them.

I’m all for positive reinforcement, but that only works if you withhold the reward when they act up. Those kids were definitely getting those toys regardless of how they behaved.
The sticker charts only work if you also TAKE AWAY stickers if they act up. Most importantly, rewards are only half of it. You don’t just reward good behaviour, you reprimand bad behaviour. Behave=get a reward. Misbehave=lose a privilege.

Although, in my opinion, it’s poor parenting to always reward your kids for behaving well. Good behaviour is an EXPECTATION. Rewards are for EXCEEDING expectations, not just meeting them. No, you do not get a cookie for cleaning your toys. You get to KEEP them. No, you don’t get a toy for not having a tantrum at the store, you get to not get sent to time out as soon as we get home. Respect and continued privileges are the rewards for behaviour that meets expectations.

These people really think that bribery is good parenting advice.
So true. Our kids did not have an option. Behave or be in time out. We never caved and we were always consistent. My husband got a bonus at work for going above and beyond, not doing the bare minimum. My kids got treats for the same reason.


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They're joking with the parental advice, right? Gaines has been running that house for ages and nothing they do now is going to undo the behaviors they've let her get away with. I feel for Brooks; Katie's post the other day referring to him as "not being a touchy-feely kid" really got to me considering I don't know these people. I know it's hard to read tone online, but with everything going on, it felt like a loaded statement.

We all know Katie is clinging to the life she thinks she's entitled to and Brooks is failing at being cuddly, calm and easy to parent like Gaines was. It would've been interesting to see how a male sibling would've done in GrandDolly's household.
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Speaking of Grand Dolly, why haven’t they started Grand Dolly Days with Brooks yet? Pretty sure Gaines was already going when she was Brooks’ age.


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These two should not be giving any parenting advice. Lately, it seems that B&M are better parents than C&K. The amount of dangerous things that they allow the kids to do is alarming. I was cringing watching Brooks stand and walk on top of a ping pong table. He is a toddler and they are naturally clumsy. Why risk a fall???
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Have they said if they’re going to playlist or not?
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spooky wrote: I feel for Brooks; Katie's post the other day referring to him as "not being a touchy-feely kid" really got to me considering I don't know these people. I know it's hard to read tone online, but with everything going on, it felt like a loaded statement.
Hmm. We all know how much resentment she has towards Cullen that touch isn’t his love language. I wonder if she’s the same with Brooks.

She puts up with Gaines when she’s being a down right little snot, because it comes with kisses and cuddles. Brooks so much as pouts and she takes to social media about what a martyr she is for continuing to love that hellion. I wonder if she’d be half so annoyed if he was a snuggler.
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Theirmom wrote:
spooky wrote: I feel for Brooks; Katie's post the other day referring to him as "not being a touchy-feely kid" really got to me considering I don't know these people. I know it's hard to read tone online, but with everything going on, it felt like a loaded statement.
Hmm. We all know how much resentment she has towards Cullen that touch isn’t his love language. I wonder if she’s the same with Brooks.

She puts up with Gaines when she’s being a down right little snot, because it comes with kisses and cuddles. Brooks so much as pouts and she takes to social media about what a martyr she is for continuing to love that hellion. I wonder if she’d be half so annoyed if he was a snuggler.
Poor Brooks is “just like his father” in Katie’s eyes and I feel like all the things she can’t control and dislikes about one she sees in the other and blames them for too. She can act like she has it all together, but there are definitely still issues with her marriage. She can’t stand Cullen and is unwilling to let him be who he is, and by association Brooks is going to always be less than MG for this same reason. MG is Katie and Brooks is Cullen. It’s all very sad.


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FitMom wrote:These two should not be giving any parenting advice. Lately, it seems that B&M are better parents than C&K. The amount of dangerous things that they allow the kids to do is alarming. I was cringing watching Brooks stand and walk on top of a ping pong table. He is a toddler and they are naturally clumsy. Why risk a fall???
LOL I haven’t watched the daily bumps in a while and I agree with that statement.


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