Gardner Quad Squad

[BumblebeeBubbles]

Minus the screeching, it seemed she did ok on her own with the girls. Well, the amount of time she was alone with them.

I have to give her some credit. She seems to be better with them then she used to be. She also seems to be better with them when Tyson isn't there. Is that my imagination? It's like when he is there, she falls into the helpless teenager role. Makes sense considering their love story. This sounds grosser then I mean it too - but it's almost like he becomes the father figure to 5 girls when he is there and she fits into the role of a fifth kid. When she's on her own, she tries. I don't agree at all with her food choices etc but that could be lack of development on her part and her husband isn't exactly a good educator or example. That's why I wish her family would intervene because I do think she's teachable. There are days I feel a little sorry for her. She tries to rise to the occasion and you see glimpses of it when he's not there. Thoughts?!?

[Snarky Lady]

Quote of the day, "I got to spend the day with my girls, JUST ME AND MY GIRLS" Yep Clown Ruby PrincAss you sure did. After Tyresome left (& the girls first breakfast of the day) you loaded up the girls to take to your parents (where they had their second breakfast of the day) and we know you were there 3 hours because we saw about 12 minutes of you there and you said you had not v'logged much but was there that long. (During which the girls had a treat-full bag of chips, probably more than one each). They the FOUR TWO YEAR OLDS took a FOUR HOUR NAP so you were free to work so you said you could have been napping too. More than likely you gave them a cup full of something for lunch before putting them down. Now think about that so far, two breakfast, snacks and lunch before nap After lunch they get more snacks while the TV entertains them and a trip outside.
Now on to the fire works, you had how many people show up to help with the girls, Mallory (Madisons friend) as well as your cousin and her family, sister and kiya. Yep you spent time JUST YOU AND THE GIRLS. I need to mention that in between bags of chips at the fireworks we saw hot dogs.
Those girls ate more than I did the whole day yesterday and because we only see a portion of their day I am willing to say they got at least two bottle of milk, one for that four hour nap and one at bedtime.

My hell! That's more than I eat in a weekend and my stomach is full-sized. It amazes me that doesn't make them sick. That just tells me their bodies are used to it. If I ate that much crap, I'd have the runs for a week! And then throw them in crib-jail for 4 hours where they burn no calories at all. I'm starting to think that the food thing might be something Ash throws at them when she doesn't know what to do with them? Not emotional eating for them but emotional sanity for her? Keeps them entertained? They aren't expressing that they are hungry. No way they are hungry. This is the first time it's occurred to me that it might be worse when Ash and Ty don't know what to do to keep them entertained - eh, throw some food at them. That'll keep them quiet and out of our hair.

Maybe it goes back to when they were infants and had to be fed every couple of hours. No one has ever proven the Greedners are geniuses lol. You are right though I think not knowing what to do with them they stuck something in their mouth. This is true for both T & A. They really are setting the girls up for some weight issues and speaking from someone who has struggled with those issues it is not a good road to be on. Carrot sticks, string cheese (instead of a bottle), dried fruit (with no sugar or preservatives). Maybe if they did not give them sweet treats they would not want them so many times a day. It may be too late the girls have already been exposed to the good tasting stuff and they will not give them up easily.

[Snarky Lady]

Minus the screeching, it seemed she did ok on her own with the girls. Well, the amount of time she was alone with them.

I have to give her some credit. She seems to be better with them then she used to be. She also seems to be better with them when Tyson isn't there. Is that my imagination? It's like when he is there, she falls into the helpless teenager role. Makes sense considering their love story. This sounds grosser then I mean it too - but it's almost like he becomes the father figure to 5 girls when he is there and she fits into the role of a fifth kid. When she's on her own, she tries. I don't agree at all with her food choices etc but that could be lack of development on her part and her husband isn't exactly a good educator or example. That's why I wish her family would intervene because I do think she's teachable. There are days I feel a little sorry for her. She tries to rise to the occasion and you see glimpses of it when he's not there. Thoughts?!?

I don't know she has mentioned her mother did not really cook when she was growing up so maybe she is like Mimi. MaybevTyresom was like her Papa and she went from one daddy to another.

[BumblebeeBubbles]

Minus the screeching, it seemed she did ok on her own with the girls. Well, the amount of time she was alone with them.

I have to give her some credit. She seems to be better with them then she used to be. She also seems to be better with them when Tyson isn't there. Is that my imagination? It's like when he is there, she falls into the helpless teenager role. Makes sense considering their love story. This sounds grosser then I mean it too - but it's almost like he becomes the father figure to 5 girls when he is there and she fits into the role of a fifth kid. When she's on her own, she tries. I don't agree at all with her food choices etc but that could be lack of development on her part and her husband isn't exactly a good educator or example. That's why I wish her family would intervene because I do think she's teachable. There are days I feel a little sorry for her. She tries to rise to the occasion and you see glimpses of it when he's not there. Thoughts?!?

I don't know she has mentioned her mother did not really cook when she was growing up so maybe she is like Mimi. MaybevTyresom was like her Papa and she went from one daddy to another.

I think that is defiantly true, SnarkyLady and explains why sometimes she is nothing but a big teenager with play dolls.

[WhyTheClownFace]

Just a couple things to add:

Why didn't the whole family go to the reunion instead of just Tyson?

During "second breakfast" at Mimi's house the girls were walking around with cooked sausages in their hands. No plates - just walking around with greasy sausages. Then the rest of the time shown there they walked around with bags of chips. When they left there were chips all over the floor and toys everywhere.

Bingham's at the evening party, shown briefly. Hot dogs and chips, as someone said before. It's like they are constantly grazing. Ashley filmed during fireworks with her flash on. I'm sure people appreciated that.

House fire during fireworks so Ashley actually was safe and left to avoid traffic but then was obviously filming while driving.

Ashley enjoyed the day "just mommy and babies" but as others said she really wasn't alone with the girls much. Maybe what she meant was she enjoyed the day without Tyson.

[BumblebeeBubbles]

Just a couple things to add:

Why didn't the whole family go to the reunion instead of just Tyson?

During "second breakfast" at Mimi's house the girls were walking around with cooked sausages in their hands. No plates - just walking around with greasy sausages. Then the rest of the time shown there they walked around with bags of chips.

The plate thing I do not get. Esme obviously wanted one for her slice of pizza and Ash waved it off - just eat it, kid. Grazing is a great word for it. Such healthier kids come out of family meals, away from the TV, set at a table. Grazing and snacking leads to such issues with weight.

[MoonMoon]

Ashley did seem a lot more confident and engaged with the kids in today's vlog, I really wonder if Tyson doesn't just domineer her in every aspect and without him she feels freer to actually be a mother without worrying. Ashley obviously loves her children a lot and I think now that they can actually somewhat communicate (albeit in one word replies) she feels closer to them and less afraid, but with Tyson around he just takes over everything. Not letting kids play with playdough because it's dirty but he has no problem with them playing with sticks and dirt? What planet is this man living on.

[eyesandears]

Yes, WhyTheClownFace, Ashley enjoyed the day Without Tyson! Free to make her own decisions about parenting the girls. Not all great choices but some good. She needs that confidence as a mom without Tyson taking over. She needs to grow up as a woman. She is about ten years behind because of him. And did he really go to a family reunion without a haircut?

[amyisnewhere]

Making a big deal that she took her kids ALONE to the fire works for all the positive attention she would get was ridiculous. When in the comments there were some ppl who said they helped her. She can't take them to the park alone or do bedtime alone, there's no way she'd go to a huge public event alone. that's laughable. She one again did this for attention. And I really hope those poor girls are not stuck in those cribs for 4 hours a day!! That has to be old info surely?

[snarksite]

Ok. If A would lose the screeching this might have been a tolerable vlog.
I noticed that the two girls who were actually teenagers (Bingham girl and niece) acted more mature than A.

I do now realize that, while I can't stand either of the parents, I would take A before T any day. And A I would smack until she shut up.

I am glad she made the attempt with the fireworks. She was never quite on her own as she claimed, but she interacted more with the girls than she usually does. She whines big time about them hanging all over her, but I think she secretly likes the fact that she gets all the attention. I wish she would encourage them to be a bit more outgoing but that's never going to happen. At least they were away from T. And, points to A for leaving when the fire started. Of course, the attention wasn't on her and her FTYO's any longer so there really wasn't any reason to stay.

I am so sorry about the eating habits they have instilled in the girls. None of them stand a chance. And I agree that sitting down to a family meal is a habit that, if started young, is one that creates good eating habits, good manners, and good memories. Even high chairs can be pulled up to a table and everyone sits together. But, at this point, the girls are way past ready to be sitting in boosters at the table and practicing good manners. Not the easy way, tho, so it doesn't happen. I mean, they are handed sausage links and left to just wander around at Mimi's? I guess we know why A doesn't know any better.

Best part of the vlog? No T!!!!!!!!!!!

Ugh.




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[Stellaboo]

They don't have 2 naps a day surely?

2 a day. 2 hours each. At least that was the case a couple months ago.

Did they say that? I have never known kids over two to nap twice a day. By 18 months most kids drop to one nap. No wonder they don't talk, they're never awake.

No, not anymore. They only take one nap a day now.

[OldCountry]

Not sure if Ashley said or not, but it appeared that the girls had no idea what Play Doh was. My take on it was that they had used it before but Tyson didn't like it, messy/dirty. But she saw a chance for them to have some fun, without the control freak there. My words not hers, but probably her thoughts... The looks on their faces told all.. I am surprised they didn't think it was another treat and start eating it. Ashley had to go one by one to show them they could squeeze it. I don't know why but I thought that was one of saddest things watching that. This is one more thing added onto the pile. Not knowing how to color, the one time with paint that clearly Ashley did for them, that stupid play kitchen without any items in it to pretend with which they have somewhere, where is story reading, not having one favorite stuffed animal or doll because they have so many, they enjoyed that basketball the other day, how about buying a big ball and create some kind of game with it. Their favorite toy is a shape box for a one year old...These poor girls are being stifled. What a shame..

[Stellaboo]

You know what I realized this weekend watching my mother with her grandkids? Tyson and Ashley are basically just like those relatives who want to seem "cool" to your kid, so they let them eat anything and do anything because they don't have to deal with the consequences when the kids leave.

Of course my mom is awesome and I love how much she cares, but my daughter doesn't need a cookie at 10am just because she asked for it.
And just because we are on "vacation" doesn't mean my daughter gets to leave her manners at home!

Except T&A don't realize that they DO have to live with the consequences. And they don't realize how hard they are making it on themselves.

I have a ton of stuff to say about the vlog, but I gotta run - so I'll catch you at the late-night show.

[mrsbarnaby]

I was never on GOMI but occasionally went there to read your posts. The main app I have always used is this one.
Warning, this is the first time I've posted in a very long time so it's going to be a long one!
My thoughts on Ashley: She is a self entitled brat who doesn't have any capability of being motherly towards anyone. She should have never had children. I don't think she would have been any different if she only had the one child she wanted. Once you become a mother, you want everyone to put your children before yourself, she still wants to be seen as more important than her children. She is the reason I haven't been able to watch a full video in MONTHS. Her baby talking has caused severe damage to her children's development which I tried to warn her about when they were little. I could say more but I'm going to stop there.
My thoughts on Tyson: He creeps me the f**k out. At first I felt like Ashley had him wrapped around her little finger, which is still *kind* of true but that man has a horrible controlling nature and just watching him makes me feel uneasy. He reminds me of my father if I'm honest, I think that's why he gives me the chills. He does not have OCD, he is controlling and they are two VERY different things. Him saying he has OCD is just to try and make the controlling behaviour look less abusive.

Family members: They are idiots for letting themselves be treated like slaves but I kind of understand the position they're in. I've had to play nice before just to stay in my nephews lives so, I kind of get it but at the same time, do you really think A and T would give up their slaves if they spoke up? Maybe, but I don't think they would.

The way they parent the girls honestly disgust me. Each of them need help with their development (even with their adjusted age) and it angers me their parents are ignoring it. I have two special needs children and we are doing EVERYTHING possible to give them the best future they can have. A and T have so many things they need to work on, I could be here all day. Our daughter has just turned 3, she has severe Autism, Global Development Delay and she cannot communicate but has a large vocabulary (knowing how to talk does not mean you can communicate). Even our Autistic daughter with a social communication disorder could speak better at their age. There is absolutely nothing wrong with admitting your children need help, it doesn't make your children stupid because they need help in areas of development. Our 3 year old is drastically behind but she can read (from memory) over 200 words so far, she's is FAR from stupid.
These girls have no attachment to their mother at all and she only has herself to thank for that but honestly, I really don't think she cares. I can't believe how much time they spend away from the girls, quite frankly it's disgusting. They anger me more than any family I've ever met before. They aren't just bad parents, they are bad human beings who do not deserve everything they have.
PUT THE DAMN CAMERA DOWN, STOP LEAVING YOUR CHILDREN AND BOND WITH YOUR GIRLS!
This week our daughter was very poorly and wouldn't stop being sick, she was clung to my chest the whole time cuddling and sleeping on me. Yesterday she started to get better in the evening and once the kids were in bed I just sat there and bawled my eyes out because it could be MONTHS before my daughter cuddles me again. I wouldn't change a single thing about my daughter, but dealing with the almost non existent affection can be very hard. Her girls are RIGHT THERE, wanting their mothers affection and she just leaves them at any opportunity she can get. Sorry, she just angers me to no end.

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[pollycracker]

Snapchat......since when are cousins "new friends"?

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[Merikat]

Yes, it's so very sad that A&T don't appreciate all the amazing Blessings they have! And they just don't.
I don't think A "loves" the girls at all. I think she sees them pretty much only as a reflection of her, and attention draw to her. Absolutely no awareness of them as individual people; that truly amazes me at their age.
I agree T is incredibly controlling and not a nice person at all. I do, however, think he genuinely loves the girls. He's just so arrogant, he thinks he deserves all good things, and that his Faith and Righteous Living have resulted in him "deserving" everything he has.
He's in for a rude awakening; they're facing a heap of trouble with the girls as they get older..

[OldCountry]

Just thinking, what if had been four boys? What would have been the dynamics of that? Curious, sure there would have been differences with what Fathead's approach was. If it had been four boys, very sorry for them to learn what a man should be like, You need to control, take care of every situation, make sure you control your family,, probably because you will feel insecure with your manhood because you are fat and unhealthy,, and get them when they are young, that's the key!..... Obviously the take of that girl's approach is not working. Why are you so beautiful? etc....don't see a lot of confidence going on either way....Just a thought...

[OldCountry]

When I said Get them when they are young, I meant the girlfriend/wife when they do not know any better, that's the key! So Sad...

[skipperpt]

The difference between the Gardners and the Binghams at the Fourth of July party is startling. The quads basically sat on a blanket for 2 hours snacking and watching videos on their family members phones. Hazyl went down the bouncy slides, was up dancing, and was walking all around. Why go out at all if your not going to get up and enjoy yourself? They trap those girls up all day, either in car seats, cribs, or high chairs, and when they do go out, they get carried around and made to sit on laps. It is sad to see.


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[Sneaky_snarky]

In the video where Esme is "working on something" I believe you can legit even hear her grunting to get it out. It's right before the camera switched off to a new scene.