The Lindquists

[Margie]

I wonder how much coercion or flat out disregard for Dans wishes went in to Elle publishing those marriage vlogs. Dan seems like such a private guy, I can’t imagine that he was ever ok with her blasting to the internet the actual conversations they had in therapy. I guess it’s obvious by how much he contributed to the vlogs themselves. And then I wonder how against his will he was to “defend himself” during that solo vlog that followed. Guaranteed she forced him to do it so she didn’t look like the asshole that she is.

I mean, I get sharing with people that you’re in therapy, but to fully disclose everything that went down in your herapy sessions is like the most extreme TMI I have ever been privy to

[TeachIT]

I wonder how much coercion or flat out disregard for Dans wishes went in to Elle publishing those marriage vlogs. Dan seems like such a private guy, I can’t imagine that he was ever ok with her blasting to the internet the actual conversations they had in therapy. I guess it’s obvious by how much he contributed to the vlogs themselves. And then I wonder how against his will he was to “defend himself” during that solo vlog that followed. Guaranteed she forced him to do it so she didn’t look like the asshole that she is.

I mean, I get sharing with people that you’re in therapy, but to fully disclose everything that went down in your herapy sessions is like the most extreme TMI I have ever been privy to

That also makes me question her therapist. We saw a marriage counselor and she had strict rules about keeping “therapy in therapy” - it wasn’t for discussing with our friends or family - it was private, intimate, deep conversations between my husband and I that weren’t meant to be shared with anyone ESPECIALLY not social media.

[Margie]

Speaking of... I just went back to re-watch those videos and the car drive where Elle disclosed all of this are now private and unavailable to view, but she left Dans solo video up although, that will be private soon because we all know she reads here!!! Just interesting that she would take her videos down but leave Dans up... always covering up her own poop, but never anyone else’s...

[Margie]

TeachIT- that’s a really good point! I know when we were in therapy, the same thing was discussed! Our therapist also said that once we entered into couples therapy with her she would not see us each individually, if we wanted individual therapy we would have to seek someone else out to maintain the integrity and trust we developed with her. And if my memory serves correctly, Elle was seeing their therapist individually as well... her therapist may be out for the cash more than she is out to help!

[TeachIT]

Speaking of... I just went back to re-watch those videos and the car drive where Elle disclosed all of this are now private and unavailable to view, but she left Dans solo video up although, that will be private soon because we all know she reads here!!! Just interesting that she would take her videos down but leave Dans up... always covering up her own poop, but never anyone else’s...

Taking down the marriage videos!! Wow. I always wondered what his family thought of those. I’d be PISSED if my brother’s wife posted something like that. And I love my SIL.

[Margie]

I know!!! I can’t imagine anyone in anybody’s life comending them for public sharing the most private details of their marriage struggles. I would be horrified if anyone I knew did that. Heck, I was horrified when Elle did it!!

[BeepBoop28]

Speaking of... I just went back to re-watch those videos and the car drive where Elle disclosed all of this are now private and unavailable to view, but she left Dans solo video up although, that will be private soon because we all know she reads here!!! Just interesting that she would take her videos down but leave Dans up... always covering up her own poop, but never anyone else’s...

Well now we know what she was doing instead of vlogging the last little while. Scrubbing her channel clean of anything that proves she’s not what she claims. I wonder what else she’s decided to remove so she can maintain this fake ‘perfect’ yet relatable. ‘Aspirational’ but ‘real’ and ‘authentic’.

It must be so exhausting to be her and try to keep this up.

[Nacholife]

OMFG I can’t believe she made those marriage vlogs private now ?!!

I have a theory that she did this because Forde is in school and she’s starting to realize she needs to protect him from things. Which is why she deleted the DOG BIT MY BABY vlog months ago. That one video of Forde had a lot of views because people are weirdos and think they are going to see footage of a dog actually biting a kid.

She will never admit to this because then it would prove that she thinks having her kids in vlogs is WRONG but I really think she’s having to reevaluate some vlogs with Forde in particular because he’s at that age now where he can search words in YouTube and he can talk to friends at school how he’s on YouTube.

I remember thinking when she originally posted those marriage vlogs “why on earth would you want your children to relive these memories”. They are probably scarred for life from all the fighting they must have be doing.



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[BeepBoop28]

I know!!! I can’t imagine anyone in anybody’s life comending them for public sharing the most private details of their marriage struggles. I would be horrified if anyone I knew did that. Heck, I was horrified when Elle did it!!

I think the idea of sharing that they had issues that needed working on wasn’t a poor choice. It can be relieving to know everyone can have real struggles in their marriage. I don’t believe it was the smartest idea to have shared as much detail that she did. But if your relationship is on the rocks and you look at other people’s carefully selected online life it’s reasonable to think maybe your relationship isn’t right and instead of trying to fix the issues they leave.

So, with her trying to be ‘real’ and maybe answer some of her viewers questions on their relationship, I can understand why she shared. She definitely shared way too soon -months and not years after - but I don’t think it was a TERRIBLE decision like some of the other things she’s decided to post.

[Margie]

I know!!! I can’t imagine anyone in anybody’s life comending them for public sharing the most private details of their marriage struggles. I would be horrified if anyone I knew did that. Heck, I was horrified when Elle did it!!

I think the idea of sharing that they had issues that needed working on wasn’t a poor choice. It can be relieving to know everyone can have real struggles in their marriage. I don’t believe it was the smartest idea to have shared as much detail that she did. But if your relationship is on the rocks and you look at other people’s carefully selected online life it’s reasonable to think maybe your relationship isn’t right and instead of trying to fix the issues they leave.

So, with her trying to be ‘real’ and maybe answer some of her viewers questions on their relationship, I can understand why she shared. She definitely shared way too soon -months and not years after - but I don’t think it was a TERRIBLE decision like some of the other things she’s decided to post.

Yes, I agree. It’s commendable to share your struggles for sure! But I think she took it way too far by actually disclosing the stuff that they spoke about in therapy, and how she basically put Dan on blast from her perspective but downplayed the fact that it was actually her issue. It was so apparent during those two vlogs that their issues were still fresh and unresolved. But the bottom line is, she NEVER should have shared what they were working through. TMI to the extreme

[TeachIT]

I know!!! I can’t imagine anyone in anybody’s life comending them for public sharing the most private details of their marriage struggles. I would be horrified if anyone I knew did that. Heck, I was horrified when Elle did it!!

I think the idea of sharing that they had issues that needed working on wasn’t a poor choice. It can be relieving to know everyone can have real struggles in their marriage. I don’t believe it was the smartest idea to have shared as much detail that she did. But if your relationship is on the rocks and you look at other people’s carefully selected online life it’s reasonable to think maybe your relationship isn’t right and instead of trying to fix the issues they leave.

So, with her trying to be ‘real’ and maybe answer some of her viewers questions on their relationship, I can understand why she shared. She definitely shared way too soon -months and not years after - but I don’t think it was a TERRIBLE decision like some of the other things she’s decided to post.

Yes, I agree. It’s commendable to share your struggles for sure! But I think she took it way too far by actually disclosing the stuff that they spoke about in therapy, and how she basically put Dan on blast from her perspective but downplayed the fact that it was actually her issue. It was so apparent during those two vlogs that their issues were still fresh and unresolved. But the bottom line is, she NEVER should have shared what they were working through. TMI to the extreme

Agreed.

I also think what she shared was carefully selected. She was trying to be “real” but ended up just defending herself and blaming Dan a lot. I think they finally addressed it because it had been clear for a while they were having issues and people in comments were asking about Dan and if they were ok (quickly deleted, mind you)

I like knowing not all couples are perfect. But I don’t need to know that you almost threw up on your wedding day because you dreaded marrying him. Maybe just “I even had cold feet” would’ve sufficed.

[Seriouslysweetie]

Wow. She almost threw up on her wedding day with the idea of marrying Dan? Never saw the driving marriage videos just the shut up and let him talk one. Don't care much if the videos are gone but it says a lot that she's scrubbing her channel clean. She's been a busy bee.

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[Skinnie]

Wow. She almost threw up on her wedding day with the idea of marrying Dan? Never saw the driving marriage videos just the shut up and let him talk one. Don't care much if the videos are gone but it says a lot that she's scrubbing her channel clean. She's been a busy bee.

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The videos caused a lot of controversy at the time and I think a lot of people unsubscribed because of them.
Besides the 'cold feet' was the whole overarching idea that she was not really in love with him... she basically seemed to say they met on-line and he checked most of the boxes on her list --good on paper but reality a bit different-- She seemed to say it was a marriage of convenience (wanted to be financially supported, get married and start a family) and that he was a introvert, not very communicative, and lacked passion. She talked about how they were disconnected and she was considering divorce. Talked about how Dan withdrawing even extended to the kids. Made their marriage sound miserable.
Maybe it was an overshare(and I am sure there is plenty she did not share; which is kinda scary), but I think Elle really did try to be honest with her viewers... come clean. Shatter the phony facade she had been promoting. Maybe she felt guilty?

However, after the videos did not go over well she basically said the reason she felt okay to share is that they had overcome everything and were in a good place in their marriage. Many OG viewers are not buying it. I think it is one thing to hit a rough patch, but the intention of the marriage sounded purely functional from her end devoid of any deep love, care, or respect. They kept having children and trying to have more all while their marriage was in shambles. It almost seemed like the kids were the only threads holding them together.

[SuperchicDeadpool]

I like knowing not all couples are perfect. But I don’t need to know that you almost threw up on your wedding day because you dreaded marrying him. Maybe just “I even had cold feet” would’ve sufficed.

I would be heartbroken and incredibly hurt to hear my partner say that he felt that way about marrying me. Like I'll-be-at-my-mom's hurt. Wow. And then to have my partner share that on such a public platform so soon after I'm learning this? Just grinding the salt into the wound at that point.

[ForeverGauc01]

She spent $1500 on a fucking bassinet for her LAST baby. ONE THOUSAND, FIVE HUNDRED DOLLARS on a bassinet she’ll use for one baby.

I fucking hope that baby hates it, I hope the baby hates everything just like Cohen did.

She’s such a wasteful person, she’ll never be able to get that money back when she tries to sell it. It can barely be used for 6 months. God she is stupid.
I really wonder what dan thinks about her blowing all this money on useless shit for their last baby.

[Skinnie]

She spent $1500 on a fucking bassinet for her LAST baby. ONE THOUSAND, FIVE HUNDRED DOLLARS on a bassinet she’ll use for one baby.

I fucking hope that baby hates it, I hope the baby hates everything just like Cohen did.

She’s such a wasteful person, she’ll never be able to get that money back when she tries to sell it. It can barely be used for 6 months. God she is stupid.
I really wonder what dan thinks about her blowing all this money on useless shit for their last baby.

I wonder if this really will be their last...

[SuperchicDeadpool]

On today's vlog...when she showed her diaper pail I got to thinking about it and I'm sort-of-but-not-really surprised she won't be and never did use cloth. It's so easy and supposedly the environmentally friendly route(I only do cloth for the cost effectiveness ). Yet not surprised because unless baby is exclusively breastfed you do have to spray the poops off the diapers before you wash them...that part definitely doesn't fit the "Lindquist Aesthetic"

[TeachIT]

She spent $1500 on a fucking bassinet for her LAST baby. ONE THOUSAND, FIVE HUNDRED DOLLARS on a bassinet she’ll use for one baby.

I fucking hope that baby hates it, I hope the baby hates everything just like Cohen did.

She’s such a wasteful person, she’ll never be able to get that money back when she tries to sell it. It can barely be used for 6 months. God she is stupid.
I really wonder what dan thinks about her blowing all this money on useless shit for their last baby.

Yeah I’m not buying it’s their last. As much as she hates motherhood, she basks in the attention.

I predict another infertility journey OR an “oops” pregnancy after this girl where she can wallow in the miracle of natural conception after infertility.

[ForeverGauc01]

On today's vlog...when she showed her diaper pail I got to thinking about it and I'm sort-of-but-not-really surprised she won't be and never did use cloth. It's so easy and supposedly the environmentally friendly route(I only do cloth for the cost effectiveness ). Yet not surprised because unless baby is exclusively breastfed you do have to spray the poops off the diapers before you wash them...that part definitely doesn't fit the "Lindquist Aesthetic"

I’m actually really shocked as well that she never at least tried cloth. We do it as well and I love it. But cloth doesn’t get your sponsorships so elle isn’t about that life

[TeachIT]

On today's vlog...when she showed her diaper pail I got to thinking about it and I'm sort-of-but-not-really surprised she won't be and never did use cloth. It's so easy and supposedly the environmentally friendly route(I only do cloth for the cost effectiveness ). Yet not surprised because unless baby is exclusively breastfed you do have to spray the poops off the diapers before you wash them...that part definitely doesn't fit the "Lindquist Aesthetic"

Back when she was on a MAJOR environmental kick I talked to her about cloth diapers. She was trying to cut out all plastic and I told her, try cloth! I’ve done both and yes cloth is a tad more work but it’s not too bad and you save money and no plastic in landfills. She told me she used to nanny for a family that used cloth and it’s disgusting and no matter what you do it smells so she won’t even try it. I tried explaining that it doesn’t have to smell - I have 40+ cloth diapers and I used to wash once per week, no smell. I had way more stink from my diaper genie with disposable. She wouldn’t believe me and just shut down whatever I said. Then her followers jumped on me “you’re the problem with environmentalism, people like you make everyone think that they have to do EVERYTHING and it’s still not good enough”. No... If cloth isn’t for you, that’s fine. But don’t tell me it always stinks. But ya know, Elle knows everything. She used to be a NANNY