What IF you got pregnant?

[hi_bye]

I thought this would be an interesting little topic.

Basically, if you found out you were pregnant at this moment (and you ultimately decided to keep the child), how would your situation be?
Even if you have an IUD, tubes tied, went through menopause.. just for the sake of this topic (to make it more interesting), haha... what if you found out you were with child?


Would you be depressed? Happy? Scared?
Ecstatic! I am not trying at the moment and really would optimally wait but I want nothing more than children! A bit worried about finances though.

Feel as if you were way too old or too young? Children are too far apart or too close in age?
A bit young, but I think old enough to have and take care of the child and understand what I am getting myself into ( would be 24). My kids would probably be spread apart just the way I want (2-3 years apart) anyway

Would you need to move to a bigger/better house?
Not at the moment, I have an extra bedroom anyway. But I would definitely like to move into a house ASAP.

Go from a SAHM to a working mom? Or have to work 2 jobs?
Hubby may change jobs or work two jobs. We have already discussed me being a SAHM if possible. I cannot handle 2 jobs but I would definitely get a better paying job if necessary!

Would you have to move out of your parents?(if living with them)
Not living with them.

Would there be any things you would rush to do before baby is born? (marriage, buy a car/house, get little one potty trained, etc)
We would definitely need a second vehicle!! (Didn't think of that )

Would your family suffer financially? Could it be doable or would it be no big deal?
No luxuries for sure and I may have to work as late into the pregnancy as possible to save up.

And any other little things you guys can think of that you'd like to include..
I have my hubby who would be 100% supportive and with me and my parents would definitely offer to help (they always try to help out now and I don't have kids! Don't take any money though, but if they are getting new plates, etc. then I take that stuff). So I would not feel overwhelmed in that sense but we are a young couple, and I think we are kind of unprepared for a baby at the moment, financially and mentally We can shape up really quickly though!

That was fun

[Jessica911]

Would you be depressed? Happy? Scared?

At first I would be scared, only because I'm so young but confident I would do just fine. Disappointed that I wasn't able to completely finish school first and have my career set.

Feel as if you were way too old or too young? Children are too far apart or too close in age?

Too young for my preference, a tad relieved that at least I'm a legal adult but still way too young.

Would you need to move to a bigger/better house?

My SO owns a condo but it is a one bedroom, sure I could use a co sleeper for the first 6 months or so but I would much rather the baby have their own room/space. I would most likely stay in my parent's house since there is plenty of room and I could convert my current room into a nursery, and move into my sister's old room. I know my parents would be perfectly fine with it and I would pay rent.

Would you have to move out of your parents?(if living with them)

Like I said before, I would probably continue to live with my parents because that would be the most ideal situation.

Would there be any things you would rush to do before baby is born? (marriage, buy a car/house, get little one potty trained, etc)

Well I graduate HS in about 4 months so that's fine, I wouldn't rush marriage before the baby was born because I feel that's unnecessary at the moment. I have my own car, and housing would be figured out for awhile. I work as a nanny right now so I would be saving up money and making sure they have a plan with the little boy I watch by the time I have to stop working. I would also need to figure out college plans and see if there are some online classes I can take in the mean time. Nursery and baby items of course.

Would your family suffer financially? Could it be doable or would it be no big deal?

I wouldn't say we would suffer, it would definitely be doable since my SO has a very stable and financially secure job with plenty of savings and trust funds.

[Jessica911]

Forgot to add, Go from a SAHM to a working mom? Or have to work 2 jobs?

I would probably be a SAHM for the first two years or so, I would be fortunate enough to have that option.

[Hopemomof3]

Would you be depressed? Happy? Scared? I would be terrified bc I got my tubes tied in 2012 and I've had a miscarriage since. We've donated all our baby things, so I'd have to buy everything new. My husband would be shocked but happy. Our families however...they didn't even like us having 2 kids, let alone this being number 4.
Feel as if you were way too old or too young? No, I'm 26 and my husband is 28
Children are too far apart or too close in age? My youngest will be 3 in July and the older 2 will both be in school this year, so it would be a good age gap.
Would you need to move to a bigger/better house? We're moving into a bigger 3 bedroom in a couple weeks, so space wouldn't be an issue unless it's another boy. Then we'd give the 3 boys the master bedroom for more space. If it was a girl, she'd share a room with my daughter
Go from a SAHM to a working mom? Or have to work 2 jobs? I'd keep my same job (cashier) unless I get promoted to assistant manager
Would there be any things you would rush to do before baby is born? (marriage, buy a car/house, get little one potty trained, etc) I would want my daughter to be fully potty trained (she's stubborn lol)
Would your family suffer financially? Could it be doable or would it be no big deal? It would be doable, but money would be tight. We wouldn't be able to splurge on fun things like we can now

[Kayliecoburn]

I'm dealing with some major health issues right now and honestly...if I got pregnant right now I would probably abort. I have two kids already here who need me at my best and a pregnancy would just hurt my body more than it is right now. I'm trying to heal from my current issues. Not a popular opinion but it is my truth...

Good thing I'm extremely religious about bc, condoms, and pulling out.

[blackbetty]

I'm not religious but if you are, say a little prayer that I'm not. I would love to be but the timing is really really bad.

Yesterday I had one day of red/brown spotting, then nothing. My period isn't due for about a week and I'm on the mini pill which I take every day at exactly the same time - I haven't missed or taken any late.

It's unlikely that I am but I'm a worrier so any good luck vibes you can send my way are appreciated.

ETA - it's just strange that it fits the timing and description of implantation bleeding - which I didn't have with either of my kids.

[The Littlest Rebel]

I haven't posted in ages! Like 2 years lol! I'd properly pass out! I just had identical twin girls and had my tubes tied. 3 girls is enough!

[LizLee30]

I'd abort. I'm not ready nor willing to be a parent at this age. My career is my priority and I don't want children until I'm at least 30.

[Jessica911]

I think this board jinxed me.

[Jessica911]

I think this board jinxed me.

No way.
Are you?

I don't know...period is 2 days late. Sex has been protected but there's always a chance. If I'm not menstruating by tomorrow then I'll be concerned.

[Jessica911]

No way.
Are you?

I don't know...period is 2 days late. Sex has been protected but there's always a chance. If I'm not menstruating by tomorrow then I'll be concerned.

Hormonal or barrier?
I'm having brown spotting which I never have. Bloated, headaches, tired.... period isn't due til tomorrow though. Honestly I wouldn't be sad.

Barrier. I was on hormonal birth control for 2 years and it made me crazy. I honestly wouldn't be sad either, but in other ways I would.

Those sound like some interesting symptoms though, I don't have any.

[Jessica911]

I took a test yesterday and it was negative. Uhhhh confused.
Hm well are you going to wait or test? Sometimes it's better to put your mind at ease.

If it doesnt come by tomorrow morning, I think I'll head on by the dollar store after work haha

[strawberries]

My hormones hadn't spiked enough to give me a positive test until gestational 5-6 weeks. Keep testing but give it some time. Use first morning urine. & like jess said dollar store ones work exactly the same; no need for an expensive test.

[MamaJoAnna]

I had a crap ton of symptoms about a week ago - headache, backache, teeny tiny bit of nausea, super fatigued, my boobs were KILLING me, and I was recording pee times in my phone probably every 4 hours...also craving juice.

Wasn't pregnant as of last Monday (last week's Monday), got my (super violent) period Wednesday. Happy Valentine's Day to me LOL

[blackbetty]

I swear my BC makes me think I'm pregnant all the time. My first symptom is always nausea and it always starts basically at implantation though I usually don't clue in until later that they are related. By 6 weeks I'm sick as a dog!

[sugarbee]

I came in late again (no pun intended), but I thought this looked like fun.

Would you be depressed? Happy? Scared?
Terrified. I'm on several medications that can cause birth defects, so I'd have to go cold-turkey as soon as I found out, not to mention 40 weeks of not being on my meds. But I think after the initial shock/med withdrawal, I'd be pretty excited...nervous, but excited.

Feel as if you were way too old or too young? Children are too far apart or too close in age?
I'm 20, which to me is kind of in-between to young and just the right age. I'd feel too immature, honestly.

Would you need to move to a bigger/better house?
I would need to get my own place eventually.

Go from a SAHM to a working mom? Or have to work 2 jobs?
I'd still go to school while pregnant, but I'd have graduated/become licensed before the baby was born. I probably wouldn't get much time at work before maternity leave, however, and I'm not sure they'd even give me maternity leave so soon after getting hired. Work might have to wait until after the baby is a few months, which would be awful, since I don't have any income right now. The boyfriend would have to put college on hold (or go part-time) and get a job.

Would you have to move out of your parents?(if living with them)
My mom would be furious that I was pregnant, but she's very supportive and would probably allow me to keep living at home through the pregnancy, and help me out a little with a newborn. She's made it very clear she's not a babysitter, though. The boyfriend and I would get a place once the money started flowing again.

Would there be any things you would rush to do before baby is born? (marriage, buy a car/house, get little one potty trained, etc)
Finish school ASAP!! Also get a car, and secure a job for after the birth.

Would your family suffer financially? Could it be doable or would it be no big deal?

Hmm, two students with no income living in their respective homes? Yeah, everyone involved would be fucked. I wouldn't want to depend on my mom, but I'd need to borrow money for diapers, clothes, crib, car seat...basically EVERYTHING...until I went back to work and could pay her back. The boyfriend and his family are even worse off, so it would be hard.

[Jessica911]

I took a test yesterday and it was negative. Uhhhh confused.
Hm well are you going to wait or test? Sometimes it's better to put your mind at ease.

The results are in.... Aunt Flow came to visit! Not pregnant.

[staceymj]

If I were to find out I was pregnant I would be pretty fine with it, we only ever planned on having two and we have one of each so that's pretty perfect, but it wouldn't be a big deal to have another. My biggest concern would be that both of my children were premature (5 weeks and 7 weeks prem respectively) and I have been kind of advised not to have any more children because of that reason (I have perfectly healthy pregnancies and then randomly my waters break and doctors don't know why this is) and if you go by the pattern of my last two then the next baby would probably be even more premature and I wouldn't willingly risk that, because a prem baby in NICU is a horrible experience. Also we don't live in the city anymore so i would need to be flown to the city if I went into premature labour and it would just be a whole big ordeal, and not fair on the kids I already have.
Financially we could afford another baby, we live in a company house that is supplied through my partners work so we wouldn't have to move back in with our parents, our house is big enough but we could easily move if we needed to, I study online so I would just continue on with that and then it would just push back my return to the workforce.
So yeah, I would just take it as it comes.

[TWDfan]

Would you be depressed? Happy? Scared?
- I would be happy, but also scared. I know a lot of people would be disappointed it me.

Feel as if you were way too old or too young? Children are too far apart or too close in age?
- Yes. I'm only 20 years old. I want to live my life before having kids. Plus, I'm in college.

Would you need to move to a bigger/better house?
- Boyfriend and I are hoping to move into our own place this summer. I think it would be okay.

Go from a SAHM to a working mom? Or have to work 2 jobs?
- I would definitely have to take a second job. As of now, I don't want to be a sahm.

Would you have to move out of your parents?(if living with them)
- No. I live at the dorm on campus.

Would there be any things you would rush to do before baby is born? (marriage, buy a car/house, get little one potty trained, etc)
- Getting a second job and getting everything ready. Also, getting a car if possible.

Would your family suffer financially? Could it be doable or would it be no big deal?
- We would suffer financially, but I think we would make it through.

[kingoflove21vher]

Would you be depressed? Happy? Scared?
I would be happy, but quite scared at the same time. I know my parents would be quite upset and disappointed, but support me nonetheless.

Feel as if you were way too old or too young? Children are too far apart or too close in age?
Too young, I'd be only 17 by the time the baby was born. The interesting fact is if I got pregnant two weeks from now my due date would be the day after my dad's birthday.



Would you need to move to a bigger/better house?
I could live with my parents though my room would be tight for a baby as well, or probably if the father is who I think it would be, move out and get our own place.

Go from a SAHM to a working mom? Or have to work 2 jobs?
I'm currently in school, but I'm being home schooled at the moment and have two part time jobs (One doesn't really count as a job, it's just a program I run once a week and get $50 for). I'm not sure if once I was done with school I'd go straight to college, I might wait a year or two.

Would you have to move out of your parents?(if living with them)
I wouldn't have to, but I could and probably would want to because of the tight living circumstances. I know my parents would be supportive, and I know my mother would be willing to take care of the baby when I had to work.

Would there be any things you would rush to do before baby is born? (marriage, buy a car/house, get little one potty trained, etc)
The car is already set. Buying a house could be a possibility, there are quite a few houses at lower prices in my area at the moment and I know someone I could get a loan from. The proposed father and I both have our own savings as well. I'm going to say no on the marriage, my parents probably wouldn't let anything like that happen just to play it safe. Engagement might happen though, but these are all indefinite "ifs" and "mights".

Would your family suffer financially? Could it be doable or would it be no big deal?
It could be do-able, we might suffer some, but the result would be well worth it I think.