JesssFam: Physician Suspicion (Part 91)

[snarkyblonde]

Also, even though I was always pretty focused in college, I still went through a string of really horrible dating choices....looking back I can't imagine if I had gone the jess route and procreated with every douchebag I dated at 18/19/20


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[Lisey26]

Anyway the point here is that even though a lot of people used to play mum to their dolls and always wanted to have children they didn't get pregnant four times with three different men and claiming it was mostly accidents


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[notapnutmommy]

Posted a few pages ago but no response.
Is it normal for her to not have any Instagram or Snapchat posts in over 24 hours?
As well as missing her VEDA upload. . .


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[pianogossiper]

I flip-flopped constantly between wanting kids and not wanting kids. I met my now husband and after some pretty shitty stuff that happened in his life regarding kids (not things I wish to make public) and after we got married, we did away with birth control and it took us about a few months once we really started trying to get pregnant. We have an almost 2 year old together and while I doubt my abilities sometimes it's awesome seeing those two together. We keep going back and forth on wanting another because our son has a speech delay and isn't potty trained yet or even close.

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Don't worry about potty training - my cousin is 3 and still in a nappy at night and only came out of them during the day fairly recently. It'll happen when he's ready. She also has a speech impediment - can't say her S's, so she'll frequently ask you if she can have some "wheeties" and if she can blow the candle out to see the "mole", and can't even say her own name.


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[Throne]

Posted a few pages ago but no response.
Is it normal for her to not have any Instagram or Snapchat posts in over 24 hours?
As well as missing her VEDA upload. . .


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I've noticed in general she has been a lot more quiet on social media since February. She used to post quite frequently but now its barely anything. I find it interesting however that she never did a four or five month update for Addie, even though she is doing VEDA nor did she post any pictures of her with that sticker commemorating her growth, which she even did for Landen. Something is going on behind the scenes. I think she’s become really overwhelmed with her reality right now.

[LilaLavender]

Well she's not a dancer, that's for one .

Curious (especially to those of you that have kids): have you experienced the "I always wanted to be a mom" - sentiment Jessica used to describe? I personally have always gone in phases, from wanting a hundred babies, to none, to 5, to 2, to eh I don't know maybe when I'm 30, etc etc. Even right now, having strong baby fever, it still goes combined with a bit of doubt of "ugh but they're so much work and what if I don't do a good job or have medical issues" etc. I'm curious if any of you experienced it similarly.

Oh yeah, that's totally normal and pretty much my experience. I've always sort of wanted kids but it was like an 'eventually' thing and I went through phases where I wanted like 5 and then none and then maybe just one, etc. I think I always wanted them really, but when I was younger it conflicted a lot with the kind of lifestyle I wanted and the idea of being like those yt moms with 7 kids and a minivan made me shudder. Honestly it still kind of does but now I have a toddler and I'm due to have twins very soon. The only thing that's changed is that I've figured out a balance between traditional 'mom' stuff and what I actually want my life to look like. Kids ARE a lot of work and it IS really hard even if they're perfectly happy and healthy but you get to decide what your family life is like and you don't have to completely lose your personality to motherhood to be a good mom, it doesn't have to be all you ever wanted or even something you consistently wanted in the past. I guess what i'm trying to say is, my attitude was always 'I want to be a mom but I also want to be a person outside of that with other things in my life' which can be hard rn because i'll have 3 under 3 but I think I'm doing a pretty good job balancing my needs vs theirs. Get back to me on that when I have twin babies though lmao.

ETA: Forgot to say but I'm happy with 3 and I think we're gonna stop there. I feel like once you hit 4 kids you have the kind of lifestyle where you NEED things like a minivan and a costco card and I'm really not about that.

Nicely written! I hope I can be like you when my motherhood-time comes ^_^. Good luck with your twins!

[ArielLipstick]

To offer a different perspective, I never really thought about kids growing up. I enjoyed playing with my baby cousins, but I never thought about being a mom. Now as an adult (I'm 21) I want to be mom, but as a very very very distant thing, more like I expect that at some point I'll want to be one. But kids are so far from being my priority right now. Even when I do have kids, I'll probably have only one and I definitely won't be a suburbia stay-at-home soccer mom. (Not that there's anything wrong with that!) If I'm ever a mom, I'll be a career, downtown-living kind of mom.

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[happyfunmeowmeow]

To offer a different perspective, I never really thought about kids growing up. I enjoyed playing with my baby cousins, but I never thought about being a mom. Now as an adult (I'm 21) I want to be mom, but as a very very very distant thing, more like I expect that at some point I'll want to be one. But kids are so far from being my priority right now. Even when I do have kids, I'll probably have only one and I definitely won't be a suburbia stay-at-home soccer mom. (Not that there's anything wrong with that!) If I'm ever a mom, I'll be a career, downtown-living kind of mom.

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Same! Though as a kid, I didn't like playing with baby cousins all that much :p I don't plan to have kids until 29/30.

[Captain Smooth]

Well she's not a dancer, that's for one .

Curious (especially to those of you that have kids): have you experienced the "I always wanted to be a mom" - sentiment Jessica used to describe? I personally have always gone in phases, from wanting a hundred babies, to none, to 5, to 2, to eh I don't know maybe when I'm 30, etc etc. Even right now, having strong baby fever, it still goes combined with a bit of doubt of "ugh but they're so much work and what if I don't do a good job or have medical issues" etc. I'm curious if any of you experienced it similarly.

I have always wanted to be a mom even dressed up as a mom for career day when I was in grade 2 or 3, having said that as I got older and when I became a teen mom my ideals and visions for motherhood changed and there were def stages where I found motherhood hard and questioned my childish ideals if you want to call them that, I always wanted at least 4 I got to 3 and was like ok close up shop I'm done now my family is complete, everyone is different but I think it is important to not let motherhood be the only thing that defines you and your personality

Yes I had that when I was a teenager and it didn't really change as I got older, I just had a more realistic view on my life, compared to 15 years of age, but still the strong wish to have kids in my life one day. The one thing that seperates me from Jess is, that I never had the idea of having children young (no shade if you did). I just went on with my life and set it as a goal in the future. Would the times be different and getting married (which I'm not a fan of either btw) and having children young was a common ocurrence, maybe I would have been a young Mom, I don't know.
I just noticed that, as far back as I can remeber I always had that Mom-vibe among younger children (younger then me). I was and still am much more patient around children then ever in my life, I don't mind working/teaching, or playing with children, even if it's difficult to manage them sometimes. I did that for a while and I never really get tired of the work itself. So it's safe to say I'm good with children. Unlike Jess I'm trying to turn that into something productive and get into the field of working with children in whatever way.
Don't get me wrong, being a Mom, whether young, or old is hard work and can be very productive, but to me there is a difference to have 1, or 2 children young, or to do what Jess did the past 6 and a half years, which was basically living off of her parents, boyfriends, parents again and collecting childsupport to have some sort of stability.

[ForeverGauc01]

I never wanted kids until I met my husband. And even when we first started dating I kept with the no kid mentality. Now we've been ttc for two years. Maybe it's karma for saying I never wanted kids when I was younger lol


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[snarkyblonde]

New video...Jess starts egg dying at 9 pm. No wonder those babes always look so tired!

edit: oh, and at Mimi's house. So they still had to drive home and get in bed after dying them.

[Captain Smooth]

Long time lurker (since after landen but before buzzgate).
I'll always remember the exact moment I had an instant 180 on opinions of jesssssss YouTube channel. I started out thinking she was such a responsible, attentive, educated mother for being a teenager. I had respect for her based on what she was putting out. (Little didn't we know at the time JGPOP) But the very second I saw Drake pop up in a video and saw her hair dyed dark, that's when I stopped viewing her for admiration and started watching through the lens of what a train wreck she was becoming. I was disappointed for her moving on and changing her personality quickly. Done!

Someone was just saying how they are glad she is being more real. I've noticed in her last couple videos, I don't think she is being more "real" about the hardships of motherhood, she is just being her personality-changing old self once again and now she is trying to emulate that Kally friend of hers. Jessica will twist herself to fit whatever she feels like will get her favor or benefit. She did it to please Drake's tastes, Chris, popular YT trends and moms, her minions, etc


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I used to randomly watch videos on youtube, among them some of her, but then I noticed she had twins and I thought "wait she has a little daughter and twins?", I couldn't tell how old she was, I just knew she was with her boyfriend (Drake at the time) and didn't have any opinion of her. Then I saw a video where she was with Gabe and I was completely confused when I looked at the Date of the videos. I was like "how did she get from this guy with the babygirl to that other guy with the twins so fast?". Only then did I visit her channel and understand the whole story, among them the cheating thing.
Fast forward half a year I stumbeld on her channel again and remembered she had three children and a cheating husband, so I was interested to see if she still made videos. She was visibly pregnant with Landen at that time and at that threw me off completely, not only because it was clear she was in an unstable relationship (6 months is not enough to build up a good connection again), but also, because she already had so many children with a small age difference, bringing another child into that overcrowded family didn't seem very responsible. That's when I noticed how weird her life must be and that something was wrong in her thinking. I knew what would come, before it happened. I even remeber a comment that asked if it was wise to have another child so fast and how she will manage, should Drake leave her again.

On being real: She's not so much being real, as that she cannot hide things so well anymore. You can see it on her face, her eyes are constantly red. People speculated if that came from smoking weed, but honestly, I wouldn't be surprised if it came from sleep deprivation. Also she ages quite quickly for being, what, 25? She has to admit from time to time how hard it is, since it's obvious that her life is taking a toll on her. Her backache is no help, I don't want to know how she gets through the day. Having to breastfeed Addy also means she can't take painkillers, I fear that's were her pretty consistent "nights out" come from, just drown out the problems with a little bit of alcohol here and there.

[applebutter_dreams]

I knew I always wanted kids. But I always felt that I would do it the "right way". I always thought that I would have a guy propose to me, have a big wedding and then have 4 kids while I have a career.

Instead, I had my unplanned son at age 25. When he was born, I almost lost him. The love that I felt made me realize that being a mom was what I was supposed to do. He gave my life purpose. He made me want to better myself. When he was 18 months old we decided we wanted another. My daughter is 2 months old. We are stable and in the process of buying a house, and we definitely know we want another. But not until the kids are in school.

What actually changed for me was my view on pets. I always always wanted to have many dogs, like 6 or 7. Now I don't think I want any. They're way too much work.

[SweetAsANutMate]

I knew I always wanted kids. But I always felt that I would do it the "right way". I always thought that I would have a guy propose to me, have a big wedding and then have 4 kids while I have a career.

Instead, I had my unplanned son at age 25. When he was born, I almost lost him. The love that I felt made me realize that being a mom was what I was supposed to do. He gave my life purpose. He made me want to better myself. When he was 18 months old we decided we wanted another. My daughter is 2 months old. We are stable and in the process of buying a house, and we definitely know we want another. But not until the kids are in school.

What actually changed for me was my view on pets. I always always wanted to have many dogs, like 6 or 7. Now I don't think I want any. They're way too much work.

I want kids but I'm definitely having pets first. My life feels so empty without an animal companion.

[chelsieross7]

I want kids one day and when I was a teen (from like 15-18) I REALLY wanted a kids. Thankfully I was smart enough to stick with my birth control and not get knocked up by my psycho shitty high school boyfriend. Can't imagine having tied myself for life to that douche.
Now I'm 20 (21 this weekend!) and engaged but after seeing how people's lives change after having kids, I'm not ready to give up my freedom and I'm not planning on even considering kids for at least another 3-5 years. But for now, my fiancé and I will enjoy our freedom to go to walmart at 3AM for a frozen pizza and go on date nights to the movies 2-3 times a week because I know things like that can't/won't happen once a kid is in the picture.
Also, we got a puppy about 8 months ago and he fills any bit of "baby fever" in me but he can be left unattended for a few hours without getting CPS called on me, so I'll stick with that for a while too haha

[luci417]

I want kids one day and when I was a teen (from like 15-18) I REALLY wanted a kids. Thankfully I was smart enough to stick with my birth control and not get knocked up by my psycho shitty high school boyfriend. Can't imagine having tied myself for life to that douche.
Now I'm 20 (21 this weekend!) and engaged but after seeing how people's lives change after having kids, I'm not ready to give up my freedom and I'm not planning on even considering kids for at least another 3-5 years. But for now, my fiancé and I will enjoy our freedom to go to walmart at 3AM for a frozen pizza and go on date nights to the movies 2-3 times a week because I know things like that can't/won't happen once a kid is in the picture.
Also, we got a puppy about 8 months ago and he fills any bit of "baby fever" in me but he can be left unattended for a few hours without getting CPS called on me, so I'll stick with that for a while too haha

yeah! Not to pry into your life but I commend you for being smart and making the right decision even when you could have kids now and be all right. I went through this weird intense period of baby fever in my early 20s (I wasn't engaged or anything like you so it was super weird and really came from nowhere!) so I know it can be hard when you really want a kid but know it's best to wait. I definitely think everyone should get at least a good 4-5 years to enjoy their 20s and just be with their partner/develop as a person before they have a kid. There's honestly no other time like it in your life when you have total freedom and a lot of energy. I mean look at Jess - I think she finally realised after Addy was born that she sacrificed any kind of freedom or youth she wouldve had to have a million kids and now that's all she has. That's why she's partying with Janelle in secret so much, I think. It's really wearing on her.

[ruby14]

When I was really young I didn't want kids but I have wanted kids for a while now and I think from here on out I'll always want kids. I work with children often and it's one of my favorite things to do. I'm in college and don't even have a boyfriend, but I know I want at least 3 kids kids, but definitely not until after I graduate.

[mrsbarnaby]

I never really thought about having children when I was young. It's not that I didn't want them, I just didn't really think about having them. I was kicked out by my stepfather when I was 16 and my boyfriend (now husband) who was 19 at the time moved out so I wasn't living alone in a shared house. I ended up pregnant at only 17 and gave birth at 18 but I was so lucky because motherhood came so naturally to me, I've genuinely never really struggled with being a mother. Unfortunately after I had my first I spent most of his first year extremely sick in hospital so my MIL helped out so my husband could still work.
We had our daughter when our son was 5 years old and started trying for another 7 months later. She regressed dramatically at 11 months old, then one month later our son started ticcing (our daughter is severely Autistic, our son has Tourettes) and we stopped trying for another immediately. Our son is 8 and our daughter is 3, we still haven't changed our minds because their needs come first.
I think it will be a very long time before the ache of having another will pass but whenever I feel the urge to have another I just think of the children we have who need as much of our attention as possible.
If we had of gotten pregnant with a third, I know we would have been absolutely fine! But I am thankful we didn't.

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[notapnutmommy]

I wanted kids when I was younger but now as an adult I don't want any.
The financial and emotional and psychical demands from children are just not something my husband and I want.
Plus we both have bad genetics that we don't want to pass on.

We do want a dog though. Just haven't gotten one yet.


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[nomis99]

Lmao @ the latest video. "I do not approve of nerf guns" says the woman who bought nerf guns for her own children for Christmas


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