Jeeeeeeeeeeeesus.
I understand that she's hurt/still not over him but at this point they've said they're getting a divorce, clear and final. Stalking him and bringing the kids and throwing stuff and making dents in the wall is insane. He can't go on a date and say they're over, but she can be with this new guy and look at wedding dresses and expensive engagement rings. Yes she may feel like she's doing things the "right" way by being forthcoming with her future partner, but didn't she cheat on CJ too? Yes, he cheated multiple times but it all still doesn't make it right. Sure she's acting out of trauma, but again it still doesn't make it right and since she's doing all of this, she doesn't even need to be in a relationship. If things are that crazy, she just needs to be single right now and focus on herself, but again her trauma and her attachment wounds and the fact that she hasn't dealt with them fully are making her make rash decisions yet again.
Also, why does she feel the need to share things to the nitty gritty detail? I know thats the kind of person she is, but if she doesn't want people coming after her and doing too much, then she doesn't need to post her damning evidence all over the internet. I don't care how mad you get, don't throw stuff at your partner. Its not cute to make them fix the hole either and then post it on instagram like its an "oopsie". Thats abusive behavior.
How do you know that his ex is? I didn’t see that part. What a recipe for disaster!