WatersWife Vlogs / Part #1

[HeyGirlHey]

The knot hats are ugly!!

Agreed.

[NellieNovember]

She legit made a “I told my kid I ate her candy” video... homegirl is reaching so hard always.

I took that as mocking those videos. She said in the video she would never make one if Mallory actually understood what she was saying and that she thinks they are mean. I agree, I hate those videos.

[NellieNovember]

The knot hats are ugly!!

Agreed.

I agree also

[Sammypants]

She legit made a “I told my kid I ate her candy” video... homegirl is reaching so hard always.

Agreed, her vloggs are sooooo boring anyways.

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[SouthernBella]

I literally only follow her on Facebook and Instagram now. Her vlogs are so boring and she is so damn negative. I am a loss mom myself and I don't have a living child like she does and I don't make such a display as she has the past two years. It is ridiculous to carry an urn of your dead child everywhere and claim to be parenting the dead child. I appreciate her grief but she is so negative and always in Debbie Downer mode.

[RaginaPhalanges]

How exactly does she think she’s parenting Beckett? Excuse my ignorance but I genuinely don’t understand how that works.


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[HeyGirlHey]

I literally only follow her on Facebook and Instagram now. Her vlogs are so boring and she is so damn negative. I am a loss mom myself and I don't have a living child like she does and I don't make such a display as she has the past two years. It is ridiculous to carry an urn of your dead child everywhere and claim to be parenting the dead child. I appreciate her grief but she is so negative and always in Debbie Downer mode.

I am so incredibly sorry for your loss.

[ihateliars]

I literally only follow her on Facebook and Instagram now. Her vlogs are so boring and she is so damn negative. I am a loss mom myself and I don't have a living child like she does and I don't make such a display as she has the past two years. It is ridiculous to carry an urn of your dead child everywhere and claim to be parenting the dead child. I appreciate her grief but she is so negative and always in Debbie Downer mode.

So very sorry for your loss!! Did she really say she’s parenting him? Yes she’s his mom no doubt but he died and Mallory should be her main focus!

[WatersWife]

Hey dudes! Wow what an enlightening reading this has been! I found out about this site via a YouTube mommy fb group I’m in and have been too chicken shit to come read it. I actually am surprised I even have a thread, not because I’m not annoying (I agree, I definitely can be), but because I’m such a smaller channel than most here. I read through about a week ago and then have taken a step back to process what I read.

I want to start off by saying that I hope I’m not taken wrong or out of context with this post. I know I’ve been very defensive in my comments in the past, as many of you pointed out, and I don’t want to be that person. I’m naturally a negative person and after losing Beckett, it got worse. Since staying home with Mallory, specifically the last few months, I’ve tried to step back and realize that people aren’t saying “mean” things to point out what a bad parent I am, but more actually trying to help me. I know that in reading here you guys are really worried about Mallory and I hope that I can help answer questions or clear up some confusion.

I’m totally fine with being the boring lady on YouTube. In my teens and twenties, I used to find myself in the middle of drama and as I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to realize life is so much better without it. That said, I do tend to use Twitter to spark a debate here and there, old habits die hard.

Lots of comments on my weight. I can’t defend that. I did lose weight with our surgery, but I’ve struggled to keep it off. I still am working with my doctor and have (luckily) kept my blood pressure and other levels down, but even with that, I’d be a fool if I said I didn’t need to keep dropping the weight. I hate that Mallory has a fat mom. On top of not wanting to pass unhealthy habits to her, I don’t want her to be embarrassed by me. Now that Mal eats table food, I’ve tried to add lots of fresh veggies and fruits into our diet. I’m not perfect, but I’m far better than I was. I see your concerns about me being active with her and I want to make sure she does have a normal, happy childhood. So, thank you for being concerned in that regard. I can’t argue with you on any of your points.

In terms of my grief. This one is hard. What sucks about grief is that it’s so personal to each person. Sharing my grief journey has been scary, because I know I am letting my guard down and letting a lot of people see some very raw and vulnerable parts of me. I know not everyone gets it, agrees with it, or wants to see it. But there are women who message me their stories and thank me for sharing and they are the ones I do this for. So, I don’t want to change my way of sharing. My grief has evolved over the last two years and I hope I can keep evolving into the person I want to be. But again, I’ve read your comments and can’t say I disagree with too many of them. Mallory will always come first. ALWAYS. I feel bad that my videos have made some of you feel she doesn’t. Perception is reality, so whether I agree or disagree, it is what it is. Rather than be defensive, I want to take your comments and consider what works for our family. Mallory will never be forced to grieve Beckett, because he’s not hers to grieve. If she chooses to be sad about not having her brother when she’s old enough to understand, then that’s her choice. But as far as the rest, that’s on me and Tyson. His urn, rabbit, blanket, etc are on a shelf in our room. With the exception of our family photos, he hasn’t moved from the shelf since his first birthday. Wait, no, we did take him to OR with us. That was the last time his urn traveled with us. My mom requested his urn and rabbit and a blanket with his name on it be at the family photos, because she wanted all her grandchildren there. She suffered from 10 miscarriages in her life and she has really struggled with Beckett’s death as well. She’s been very sweet to always keep him in mind in subtle ways. (Not that the urn in the photos was subtle). But to answer someone’s question, no, we did not take it to Hawaii. That was the start of our family of three vacations. A new leaf. And yes, I was complaining about the humidity and flights with Mally. But I wish our joy of the rest of the trip had come across. We hiked to these steam pits with her on my back, went to the luau, took that boat ride, etc. We did have a lot of fun. But noted, it’s not a toddler trip haha. We tried to make due since it was a vacation we had won flights for and all we could afford.

Oh, the “parenting” thing. I think that’s coming across wrong. It’s a term that’s common in the loss community, but I can see how to outsiders is super weird. I don’t know a single loss parent who thinks parenting their lost baby is even remotely similar to a living child. It simply means keeping their name and memory alive. There’s that old quote that says you die twice. Once when you actually die and second when your name is said for the last time ever. Because we want our lost children’s lives to matter or to make a difference, it’s up to us to keep their names spoken out loud. I hope that makes sense.

So, I guess the last thing is that I try to be real on my channel. Being obese, a first time parenting mom, a newly SAHM, and a loss mom all have ups and downs. I follow so many channels that pretend everything is happy all the damn time, and I didn’t want to be fake like that. I guess it’s all about balance. I’m trying. Thank you for your comments here. Many stung and cut deep. It’s ok if you don’t like me, it’s okay if you don’t agree with my parenting, and it’s okay to think I’m not dealing with my son’s death how you would. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. But I do want to be better than I’ve been. So, I really do mean it, thank you for the feedback. Sorry this was so long. If anyone wants to discuss anything additional or in more detail, please let me know.

[WatersWife]

Sorry, didn’t mean for that to post twice.

[sarahelizabeth_1]

Sorry, didn’t mean for that to post twice.

I know you didn’t as for diet advice, and I don’t watch your vlogs save for one or two, but you should check out the book “the starch solution” and consider a plant based diet. It really makes you feel so good from the inside out.
Have a good day.


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[sarahelizabeth_1]

Sorry, didn’t mean for that to post twice.

I know you didn’t as for diet advice, and I don’t watch your vlogs save for one or two, but you should check out the book “the starch solution” and consider a plant based diet. It really makes you feel so good from the inside out.
Have a good day.


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[WatersWife]

Sorry, didn’t mean for that to post twice.

I know you didn’t as for diet advice, and I don’t watch your vlogs save for one or two, but you should check out the book “the starch solution” and consider a plant based diet. It really makes you feel so good from the inside out.
Have a good day.


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I have a friend who is doing that diet and it’s worked wonders for her! I’ll bring it up with my physician and see if it’s something that she thinks we should do. (Because of my surgery, I try to involve my physician so that I’m making wise decisions given my situation) Thank you for the tip!

[SouthernBella]

That was a really beautifully written response... I will be honest I haven't read through this whole giant thread of comments about you. I don't think anyone should hate on you and I certainly don't like that anyone has dissed you for your weight. I do think the "parenting" a deceased child is a weird way to say it... But your description makes sense. Again, I have lost a baby years ago and I know how difficult navigating grief can be...

I do think you come across as negative a lot but I think that is just your personality perhaps and maybe you aren't that negative in actuality. Again, your comment cleared up a lot.

Your baby girl is beautiful, by the way. I know you know that but I just had to mention it!

Hey dudes! Wow what an enlightening reading this has been! I found out about this site via a YouTube mommy fb group I’m in and have been too chicken shit to come read it. I actually am surprised I even have a thread, not because I’m not annoying (I agree, I definitely can be), but because I’m such a smaller channel than most here. I read through about a week ago and then have taken a step back to process what I read.

I want to start off by saying that I hope I’m not taken wrong or out of context with this post. I know I’ve been very defensive in my comments in the past, as many of you pointed out, and I don’t want to be that person. I’m naturally a negative person and after losing Beckett, it got worse. Since staying home with Mallory, specifically the last few months, I’ve tried to step back and realize that people aren’t saying “mean” things to point out what a bad parent I am, but more actually trying to help me. I know that in reading here you guys are really worried about Mallory and I hope that I can help answer questions or clear up some confusion.

I’m totally fine with being the boring lady on YouTube. In my teens and twenties, I used to find myself in the middle of drama and as I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to realize life is so much better without it. That said, I do tend to use Twitter to spark a debate here and there, old habits die hard.

Lots of comments on my weight. I can’t defend that. I did lose weight with our surgery, but I’ve struggled to keep it off. I still am working with my doctor and have (luckily) kept my blood pressure and other levels down, but even with that, I’d be a fool if I said I didn’t need to keep dropping the weight. I hate that Mallory has a fat mom. On top of not wanting to pass unhealthy habits to her, I don’t want her to be embarrassed by me. Now that Mal eats table food, I’ve tried to add lots of fresh veggies and fruits into our diet. I’m not perfect, but I’m far better than I was. I see your concerns about me being active with her and I want to make sure she does have a normal, happy childhood. So, thank you for being concerned in that regard. I can’t argue with you on any of your points.

In terms of my grief. This one is hard. What sucks about grief is that it’s so personal to each person. Sharing my grief journey has been scary, because I know I am letting my guard down and letting a lot of people see some very raw and vulnerable parts of me. I know not everyone gets it, agrees with it, or wants to see it. But there are women who message me their stories and thank me for sharing and they are the ones I do this for. So, I don’t want to change my way of sharing. My grief has evolved over the last two years and I hope I can keep evolving into the person I want to be. But again, I’ve read your comments and can’t say I disagree with too many of them. Mallory will always come first. ALWAYS. I feel bad that my videos have made some of you feel she doesn’t. Perception is reality, so whether I agree or disagree, it is what it is. Rather than be defensive, I want to take your comments and consider what works for our family. Mallory will never be forced to grieve Beckett, because he’s not hers to grieve. If she chooses to be sad about not having her brother when she’s old enough to understand, then that’s her choice. But as far as the rest, that’s on me and Tyson. His urn, rabbit, blanket, etc are on a shelf in our room. With the exception of our family photos, he hasn’t moved from the shelf since his first birthday. Wait, no, we did take him to OR with us. That was the last time his urn traveled with us. My mom requested his urn and rabbit and a blanket with his name on it be at the family photos, because she wanted all her grandchildren there. She suffered from 10 miscarriages in her life and she has really struggled with Beckett’s death as well. She’s been very sweet to always keep him in mind in subtle ways. (Not that the urn in the photos was subtle). But to answer someone’s question, no, we did not take it to Hawaii. That was the start of our family of three vacations. A new leaf. And yes, I was complaining about the humidity and flights with Mally. But I wish our joy of the rest of the trip had come across. We hiked to these steam pits with her on my back, went to the luau, took that boat ride, etc. We did have a lot of fun. But noted, it’s not a toddler trip haha. We tried to make due since it was a vacation we had won flights for and all we could afford.

Oh, the “parenting” thing. I think that’s coming across wrong. It’s a term that’s common in the loss community, but I can see how to outsiders is super weird. I don’t know a single loss parent who thinks parenting their lost baby is even remotely similar to a living child. It simply means keeping their name and memory alive. There’s that old quote that says you die twice. Once when you actually die and second when your name is said for the last time ever. Because we want our lost children’s lives to matter or to make a difference, it’s up to us to keep their names spoken out loud. I hope that makes sense.

So, I guess the last thing is that I try to be real on my channel. Being obese, a first time parenting mom, a newly SAHM, and a loss mom all have ups and downs. I follow so many channels that pretend everything is happy all the damn time, and I didn’t want to be fake like that. I guess it’s all about balance. I’m trying. Thank you for your comments here. Many stung and cut deep. It’s ok if you don’t like me, it’s okay if you don’t agree with my parenting, and it’s okay to think I’m not dealing with my son’s death how you would. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. But I do want to be better than I’ve been. So, I really do mean it, thank you for the feedback. Sorry this was so long. If anyone wants to discuss anything additional or in more detail, please let me know.

[SunnySide0]

Hi Aimee,

I respect your thoughtful response and self reflection.

Personally, I post on this forum because I don’t like to directly post negative things on YouTubers comments section. That being said, I’m sorry you had to find this thread and see some not-so-nice things about yourself, from me included. I think a lot of it is constructive but I also hold my hands up and say I’ve been unnecessarily rude too.
I think you’ve really turned a corner since Mallory was born, not that you’ve got anything to prove or change but you just seem content and I’m happy for you. Our concerns about Mallory being second best to Beckett were truly that, concerns. But I can see she is your world.

I think it’s incredibly mature of you to respond on here and I wish you and your family well!

P.s your eyebrows look amazing now


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[WatersWife]

That was a really beautifully written response... I will be honest I haven't read through this whole giant thread of comments about you. I don't think anyone should hate on you and I certainly don't like that anyone has dissed you for your weight. I do think the "parenting" a deceased child is a weird way to say it... But your description makes sense. Again, I have lost a baby years ago and I know how difficult navigating grief can be...

I do think you come across as negative a lot but I think that is just your personality perhaps and maybe you aren't that negative in actuality. Again, your comment cleared up a lot.

Your baby girl is beautiful, by the way. I know you know that but I just had to mention it!

Hey dudes! Wow what an enlightening reading this has been! I found out about this site via a YouTube mommy fb group I’m in and have been too chicken shit to come read it. I actually am surprised I even have a thread, not because I’m not annoying (I agree, I definitely can be), but because I’m such a smaller channel than most here. I read through about a week ago and then have taken a step back to process what I read.

I want to start off by saying that I hope I’m not taken wrong or out of context with this post. I know I’ve been very defensive in my comments in the past, as many of you pointed out, and I don’t want to be that person. I’m naturally a negative person and after losing Beckett, it got worse. Since staying home with Mallory, specifically the last few months, I’ve tried to step back and realize that people aren’t saying “mean” things to point out what a bad parent I am, but more actually trying to help me. I know that in reading here you guys are really worried about Mallory and I hope that I can help answer questions or clear up some confusion.

I’m totally fine with being the boring lady on YouTube. In my teens and twenties, I used to find myself in the middle of drama and as I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to realize life is so much better without it. That said, I do tend to use Twitter to spark a debate here and there, old habits die hard.

Lots of comments on my weight. I can’t defend that. I did lose weight with our surgery, but I’ve struggled to keep it off. I still am working with my doctor and have (luckily) kept my blood pressure and other levels down, but even with that, I’d be a fool if I said I didn’t need to keep dropping the weight. I hate that Mallory has a fat mom. On top of not wanting to pass unhealthy habits to her, I don’t want her to be embarrassed by me. Now that Mal eats table food, I’ve tried to add lots of fresh veggies and fruits into our diet. I’m not perfect, but I’m far better than I was. I see your concerns about me being active with her and I want to make sure she does have a normal, happy childhood. So, thank you for being concerned in that regard. I can’t argue with you on any of your points.

In terms of my grief. This one is hard. What sucks about grief is that it’s so personal to each person. Sharing my grief journey has been scary, because I know I am letting my guard down and letting a lot of people see some very raw and vulnerable parts of me. I know not everyone gets it, agrees with it, or wants to see it. But there are women who message me their stories and thank me for sharing and they are the ones I do this for. So, I don’t want to change my way of sharing. My grief has evolved over the last two years and I hope I can keep evolving into the person I want to be. But again, I’ve read your comments and can’t say I disagree with too many of them. Mallory will always come first. ALWAYS. I feel bad that my videos have made some of you feel she doesn’t. Perception is reality, so whether I agree or disagree, it is what it is. Rather than be defensive, I want to take your comments and consider what works for our family. Mallory will never be forced to grieve Beckett, because he’s not hers to grieve. If she chooses to be sad about not having her brother when she’s old enough to understand, then that’s her choice. But as far as the rest, that’s on me and Tyson. His urn, rabbit, blanket, etc are on a shelf in our room. With the exception of our family photos, he hasn’t moved from the shelf since his first birthday. Wait, no, we did take him to OR with us. That was the last time his urn traveled with us. My mom requested his urn and rabbit and a blanket with his name on it be at the family photos, because she wanted all her grandchildren there. She suffered from 10 miscarriages in her life and she has really struggled with Beckett’s death as well. She’s been very sweet to always keep him in mind in subtle ways. (Not that the urn in the photos was subtle). But to answer someone’s question, no, we did not take it to Hawaii. That was the start of our family of three vacations. A new leaf. And yes, I was complaining about the humidity and flights with Mally. But I wish our joy of the rest of the trip had come across. We hiked to these steam pits with her on my back, went to the luau, took that boat ride, etc. We did have a lot of fun. But noted, it’s not a toddler trip haha. We tried to make due since it was a vacation we had won flights for and all we could afford.

Oh, the “parenting” thing. I think that’s coming across wrong. It’s a term that’s common in the loss community, but I can see how to outsiders is super weird. I don’t know a single loss parent who thinks parenting their lost baby is even remotely similar to a living child. It simply means keeping their name and memory alive. There’s that old quote that says you die twice. Once when you actually die and second when your name is said for the last time ever. Because we want our lost children’s lives to matter or to make a difference, it’s up to us to keep their names spoken out loud. I hope that makes sense.

So, I guess the last thing is that I try to be real on my channel. Being obese, a first time parenting mom, a newly SAHM, and a loss mom all have ups and downs. I follow so many channels that pretend everything is happy all the damn time, and I didn’t want to be fake like that. I guess it’s all about balance. I’m trying. Thank you for your comments here. Many stung and cut deep. It’s ok if you don’t like me, it’s okay if you don’t agree with my parenting, and it’s okay to think I’m not dealing with my son’s death how you would. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea. But I do want to be better than I’ve been. So, I really do mean it, thank you for the feedback. Sorry this was so long. If anyone wants to discuss anything additional or in more detail, please let me know.

Thank you for your comments. I’m really glad that we can have a discussion and clear things up. I really don’t want to be “that person”. I want to be the type of person that someone can come to me and say they don’t understand and we can talk it out. I know my attitude in the past would have prevented that, but I hope I can show that I’m evolving going forward.

[WatersWife]

Hi Aimee,

I respect your thoughtful response and self reflection.

Personally, I post on this forum because I don’t like to directly post negative things on YouTubers comments section. That being said, I’m sorry you had to find this thread and see some not-so-nice things about yourself, from me included. I think a lot of it is constructive but I also hold my hands up and say I’ve been unnecessarily rude too.
I think you’ve really turned a corner since Mallory was born, not that you’ve got anything to prove or change but you just seem content and I’m happy for you. Our concerns about Mallory being second best to Beckett were truly that, concerns. But I can see she is your world.

I think it’s incredibly mature of you to respond on here and I wish you and your family well!

P.s your eyebrows look amazing now


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I really appreciate your comment also. I don’t really like this website, but I can certainly appreciate the reasons behind why it exists. I know it can be hard for many reasons to leave feedback in the actual comment section.

I’m hoping that my presence here won’t discourage the constructive feedback from still being discussed. I really do hope that this can be a place where valid concerns can be talked out without “fans” jumping in when it’s not necessary. I do appreciate concerns. I really do. (I mean, the new Aimee does. Old Aimee liked the idea but wasn’t in the right headspace)

I had to laugh at the eyebrows comment. I literally laughed when I read the posts about them. It was like having a best girl friend telling me I need to figure it out. Luckily, I found a product that seems to be working until my money tree randomly grows and I can get them microbladed.

Thank you again for your comment!

[HeyGirlHey]

Bro. Are we fr right now? No one is gonna wanna say anything here now. Oh wells. Lol.

[Toodles123]

Bro. Are we fr right now? No one is gonna wanna say anything here now. Oh wells. Lol.

Huh?

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[HeyGirlHey]

Bro. Are we fr right now? No one is gonna wanna say anything here now. Oh wells. Lol.

Huh?

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Just saying no one is gonna use this as a space to rant any more because SHE’s gonna comment on everything.