nineteenninety3 wrote:oldschoolmom39 wrote:Kyra was on Twitter today whining about needing a break and somebody commented that she gets more breaks than any mother they met lol She is clueless for real. Wait till the third one gets here and she is sleep deprived and still has to contend with the older two. Seems like Oscar may need to spend more time at home and less time skydiving and doing whatever else he does everyday. Most parents deal with their own kids every single day without the help of sitters and friends. They need that reality check so they know what parenting completely on your own feels like with two kids and one on the way.
This worries me about with us knowing about her mental health issues. She says her relationship with Oscar is good, the kids are good for the most part, she's surrounded by help, she has all the support a person could ask for and yet she needs a break? What happens when her and Oscar are fighting again, a screaming newborn is keeping everyone up, the kids are jealous of a new baby, Rob and winter move out, she will actually lose it.
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The season of your life with a newborn in the family is usually the hardest and most joyful time of life for any family.
Bringing a new baby just makes thing really difficult. My son is literally the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me and my SO. He is literally our treasure. We had a great relationship prior to baby but once he was born, things became difficult.
My focus was now on a baby instead of him. For the first 4 months I was on maternity leave, home caring for him and dad out working. Somehow the new little boy resulted in my SO ignoring us all that time. It was so hard because he felt he couldn't relate to the baby.
Finally I went back to work and he was forced to care for our baby. Many many nights of baby crying for hours tested him as a father in so many ways. I honestly don't know how we have made it this far, I feared so many nights he would leave. Sleep deprivation, a fussy child who can't express their needs and a new family dynamic for all is just so so challenging. It literally makes us crazy sometimes, especially when sleep deprived and having zero help from family or nannies.
As we approach the first birthday, things are finally getting to a groove and a good place. My son and his dad have a beautiful bond and are now best buds, inseparable. A new baby rocks everyone's world, good and bad.
My point is that even people that are in a good place before baby struggle the first year. I've heard not to make any major decisions in your child's first year because your brain is functioning in a survival mode.
I fear for their family when this baby comes because I know how they are going to be pushed to their limits. Knowing how things are just barley hanging on for them now....I can't imagine what it will be like to throw a new baby into the mix that wasn't 100% planned for.
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