Oh hun, I’m sorry that your mom said that to you. It is very wrong. You have kids because you want to raise and love little humans and all that comes with the experience, good and bad. It’s not for fun or to entertain yourself or something. That is very dysfunctional, what your mother told you. That’s putting a heavy burden on a child.frenchfryfiend wrote:Kyra and Oscar are using these children. As an excuse to stay together.
Sometimes they do things that remind me of something my mother told me her whole life. If anything was wrong with me, she's say, "why did I have a child then? I had a child because I wanted to be able to enjoy it."
I get you want to have fun and good times with your kids, but what she said always rubbed me wrong and though I can't poke any specific holes in it, it's been something that's always bothered me and my mother to this day calls me an idiot if I bring it up. Every child is bound to have problems. You can't enjoy everything about them.
And then I hear my mother's voice, "why else would I have you?" and I quiver. I don't have kids of my own. Is that what children are really for? The enjoyment of the parent? I'm not being sarcastic, I've been conditioned to think this and honestly don't know if it's wrong. Is there any other reason you'd have a kid? Why would you want problems with your kids?
Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
. We rarely did anything as a family, everyone just cohabitated separately and it was miserable. I always swore I would never do that to my kids. I’m a single mum now and it’s the best lol. My kids are happier than ever because they know I’m happier and their father is happier, and my ex and I get along so much better now than we have in years. 
